{"title":"[topic] Mental health","description":"\u003cmeta charset=\"utf-8\"\u003e\u003cspan\u003eThe resources in this section offer simple advice on effective communication and feeling good, and techniques for dealing with anger, stress and grief and loss, as well as general information on mental illness. For news and updates and information on accessing mental health services, visit the \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.health.govt.nz\/your-health\/conditions-and-treatments\/mental-health\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"\u003eMinistry of Health website\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan\u003e.\u003c\/span\u003e","products":[{"product_id":"are-you-worried-someone-is-thinking-of-suicide","title":"Are you worried someone is thinking of suicide? HE2502","description":"\u003cp\u003eNOTE: To order this free resource, please visit the Mental Health Foundation's \u003ca title=\"Mental Health Foundation resources\" href=\"https:\/\/shop.mentalhealth.org.nz\/product\/418-are-you-worried-someone-is-thinking-of-suicide-\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eonline shop.\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"You don't seem to be yourself lately\"\u003cbr\u003e\"Can we talk?\"\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eAdvice for families, whānau and friends\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"body-copy\"\u003eIf you’re worried that someone might be thinking about suicide, \u003cstrong\u003edon’t be afraid to ask them directly.\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf someone has thoughts or feelings about suicide, it's important to take them seriously.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt can be really hard to tell someone you care about that you are feeling suicidal. If someone tells you they are thinking about suicide, recognise their pain or what they’ve just said and invite them to keep talking.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eLet them know there is help available to them. Encourage them to get help and talk to someone about what they are going through. \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMost people who attempt suicide don’t want to die – they just want their pain to end or can’t see another way out of their situation.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eA person who is thinking about suicide might not ask for help, but that doesn’t mean that help isn’t wanted. They might feel whakamā or ashamed of how they’re feeling, like they don’t deserve help, or like no-one can help them.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eLots of people feel suicidal at some time in their lives. It can feel impossible to have hope that things will get better.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePeople who feel suicidal often feel like they are alone and that their family, whānau and friends would be better off without them\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSupport from people who care about them, and connection with their own sense of culture, identity and purpose, can help them to find a way through.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt’s okay to talk with me about anything, and I mean that.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eWhat to look out for\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003ebehaviour or signs to look out for\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMost people thinking about taking their own life will try to let someone know, but they often won't say so directly.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf someone shows one or more of these signs, it doesn't necessarily mean they are suicidal, but they may need support.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eYou might notice they:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eaccess things\u003c\/strong\u003e they could use to hurt themselves, like a rope or gun\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eread or write\u003c\/strong\u003e about suicide online, or post photos or videos about suicide\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ebecome obsessed\u003c\/strong\u003e with death\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ebecome isolated\u003c\/strong\u003e or withdrawn from family, whānau and friends\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003edon't seem to be coping\u003c\/strong\u003e with any problems they may be having\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003etell you they \u003cstrong\u003ewant to die\u003c\/strong\u003e or kill themselves\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ehave changes in mood\u003c\/strong\u003e – becoming depressed, angry or enraged\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ehurt themselves\u003c\/strong\u003e – for example, cutting skin or taking an overdose\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003efeel worthless\u003c\/strong\u003e, guilty, whakamā or ashamed\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ehave \u003cstrong\u003eno hope\u003c\/strong\u003e for the future\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003euse \u003cstrong\u003edrugs or alcohol\u003c\/strong\u003e to cope with difficult feelings or thoughts\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003elose or gain a lot of weight, or have \u003cstrong\u003eunusual eating patterns\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003esleep a lot\u003c\/strong\u003e more than usual, or stop getting enough sleep\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eseem to have \u003cstrong\u003elost interest\u003c\/strong\u003e in life, or things they used to enjoy\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003egive away possessions\u003c\/strong\u003e, pay back debts or 'tie up loose ends'\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003estop taking \u003cstrong\u003etheir medication\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003esuddenly seem calm\u003c\/strong\u003e or happy after they have been depressed or suicidal\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSome people who are suicidal might not show these signs, and some warning signs may not be obvious.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePeople who feel suicidal might try to hide what they are going through or pretend they are okay. \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you think that someone might be at risk, pay attention to changes in their behavior, trust your instincts and ask them directly if they are thinking about suicide.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eWho is most at risk of suicide?\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003ePeople from all backgrounds can feel suicidal. Lots of people go through this.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eSomeone may be at higher risk if they have:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eattempted\u003c\/strong\u003e suicide before\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ebeen \u003cstrong\u003eexperiencing depression\u003c\/strong\u003e, an eating disorder or another mental illness\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ean addiction\u003c\/strong\u003e to alcohol, drugs or gambling\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ea serious \u003cstrong\u003ephysical illness\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ejust started or stopped taking \u003cstrong\u003emedication\u003c\/strong\u003e for a mental health problem\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003elost a friend or family\u003c\/strong\u003e member to suicide\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ebeen a victim\u003c\/strong\u003e of violence, bullying or sexual abuse\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003erecently broken up\u003c\/strong\u003e with their partner or lost custody of their children\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ea court case\u003c\/strong\u003e coming up or a recent \u003cstrong\u003eprison sentence\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ebeen judged, shamed or put under a lot of \u003cstrong\u003epressure\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eno strong relationships\u003c\/strong\u003e with family, whanau, friends or community\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eno sense of their own \u003c\/strong\u003eculture, identity or purpose in life\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ebeen through a major life change\u003c\/strong\u003e, like moving to a different country, coming out as gay or transgender, or retiring from work\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ehad a major loss or disappointment\u003c\/strong\u003e, like someone close to them dying, failing exams or being dropped from their sports team, or having their refugee status declined\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ebeen struggling\u003c\/strong\u003e to find work, lost their job recently, or had serious money problems\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003efriends, family or people around them who \u003cstrong\u003edon't accept or support who they are\u003c\/strong\u003e, like their sexuality, gender identity, culture or religion\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e“I want to know what's going on for you...”\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e“...what you're thinking about, or how you're feeling”\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eHow to help when you're worried about someone\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eIn a crisis or emergency\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf someone has attempted suicide or you're worried about their immediate safety, do the following:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eCall your local mental health crisis assessment team\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e(visit \u003ca title=\"mentalhealth.org.nz\/help\" href=\"http:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/help\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ementalhealth.org.nz\/help\u003c\/a\u003e or call Healthline on \u003ca title=\"call 0800 611 116\" href=\"Tel:0800611116\"\u003e0800 611 116\u003c\/a\u003e for contact details) or go with them to the emergency department (ED) at your nearest hospital.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf they are an immediate physical danger to themselves or others, \u003cstrong\u003ecall 111.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eStay with them\u003c\/strong\u003e until support arrives.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eRemove any obvious means\u003c\/strong\u003e of suicide they might use (e.g. rope, pills, guns, car keys, knives, poisons). If they live in a high-rise building, help them find somewhere to stay in single-level accommodation.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTry to \u003cstrong\u003estay calm\u003c\/strong\u003e and let them know you care.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eKeep them talking\u003c\/strong\u003e: listen and ask questions without judging.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMake sure \u003cstrong\u003eyou are safe.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eIf you think someone is at risk\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eIf you are worried that someone is suicidal, ask them. It could save their life.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAsking about suicide in a supportive way will not put the thought in their head.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAsk them directly about their thoughts of suicide and what they are planning. If they have a specific plan, they need help right away.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAsk them if they would like to talk about what’s going on for them with you or someone else. They might not want to open up straight away, but letting them know you are there for them is a big help.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eListen and don’t judge. Take them seriously and let them know you care.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHelp them to find and access the support they need from people they trust: friends, family, kaumātua, faith, community or cultural leaders, or professionals.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDon't leave them alone – make sure someone stays with them until they get help.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSupport them to access professional help, like a doctor or counsellor, as soon as possible. Offer to help them make an appointment, and go with them if you can.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eIf they don't get the help they need the first time, keep trying.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAsk them if they would like your help explaining what they need to a professional.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"I know there's a lot going on for you right now...\"\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"...I just want to ask seriously, have you thought about suicide?\"\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eHow to be supportive\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBe gentle and compassionate with them.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDon't judge them – even if you can't understand why they are feeling this way, accept that they are.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTry to stay calm, positive and hopeful that things can get better.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf they are comforted by prayer or karakia, invite them to pray with you.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou don't need to have all the answers, or to offer advice. The best thing you can do is be there and listen.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eLet them talk about their thoughts of suicide – avoiding the topic does not help. Ask them if they've felt this way before, and what they did to cope or get through it. They might already know what could help them.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDo not agree to keep secrets about their suicidal thoughts or plans. It's okay to tell someone else so that you can keep them safe.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDon't pressure them to talk to you. They might not want to talk, or they might feel more comfortable talking to someone who is not as close to them.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDon't try to handle the situation by yourself. Seek support from professionals, and from other people they trust including family, whānau or friends.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"I'm gutted you're feeling this bad...”\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e“...I really want you to stay with us...”\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e“...When life has been really hard before, what’s helped you get through?\"\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eHow to support recovery\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you're supporting someone who is recovering after they have made a suicide attempt, or have felt suicidal, be prepared to be there, offer support and stay involved.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eRecovery can take time.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYou might need to be prepared to have \u003cstrong\u003edifficult conversations about what's going on\u003c\/strong\u003e in their life and how they are feeling.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eKeep listening\u003c\/strong\u003e to them and don’t avoid talking about suicide or the hard things in their life.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eDon't give up on them\u003c\/strong\u003e and try not to lose contact with them, even if it seems like they are ignoring you.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHelp them feel there is hope of things getting better – \u003cstrong\u003eidentify positive things in their life.\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIf they don’t want to talk with you, \u003cstrong\u003eask other people you both trust to support them\u003c\/strong\u003e – friends, family or whānau members, youth workers or others.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHelp them to access professional help, like a doctor or counsellor. \u003cstrong\u003eYou could offer to go with them or help them to make appointments. \u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLet them know about free counselling services like 1737, Lifeline and Youthline and \u003cstrong\u003egive them the contact details.\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eEncourage and support them\u003c\/strong\u003e to do the things they enjoy, keep physically active and connect with others.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eHelp them identify any ways they can change their lifestyle to restore balance\u003c\/strong\u003e. This might mean cutting back on alcohol or drugs, doing some exercise, making time for themselves, or getting enough sleep.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eAccept them for who they are\u003c\/strong\u003e and let them know you care.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eWhen they’re ready\u003c\/strong\u003e, support them to make plans for their future, solve problems and set goals.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eFor ongoing support\u003c\/strong\u003e, develop a safety plan together. See \u003ca title=\"mentalhealth.org.nz\/safety-plan\" href=\"http:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/safety-plan\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ementalhealth.org.nz\/safety-plan\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"Is there someone you trust that we could talk to?\"\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"Does anyone else know about this?\" \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eLook after yourself\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eIt is very important to take care of yourself when you are caring for others.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe person you’re supporting could recover quite soon, but they may feel the way they do for weeks, months or even years. Looking after yourself is essential to be able to walk alongside them.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMake sure you’re getting enough sleep, eating properly and exercising.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBe kind to yourself, and take time out when you need to. \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBeing in this situation can be very difficult, and you can’t do everything.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt’s normal to feel scared, powerless or unsure of how to help. Find someone you can talk to about this – a friend or family member you trust, or a counsellor.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt is normal to feel impacted following a suicide attempt by someone you care about, but it is not helpful to blame yourself.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSuicide is complex and many factors may play a role in their attempt.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePlease seek support for yourself and talk to someone you trust.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eHow to build a support network\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eIt’s important to involve others to help you and the person you're supporting – don't try to do everything yourself.\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTo build a support network:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAsk the person you're supporting to \u003cstrong\u003etell you what they need\u003c\/strong\u003e, what works for them and who should be involved.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYour support network might include cultural elders, faith leaders or community groups they're part of, as well as friends, family and whānau. It might include \u003cstrong\u003epeople who have been through something similar\u003c\/strong\u003e to the person you're supporting, and can share how they got through it.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBring the group together in a \u003cstrong\u003esafe space\u003c\/strong\u003e.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTalk \u003cstrong\u003eopenly and honestly\u003c\/strong\u003e about the situation.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTalk to them about what they will do if they feel suicidal again, \u003cstrong\u003ehow they plan to keep safe\u003c\/strong\u003e, and how others can help with this.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eDevelop a plan together\u003c\/strong\u003e to support the person – identify how different people can help. Get professional help if you need it. Talk to your local doctor, medical centre, community mental health team or counselling service.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e“I don’t really know what to do, but I do know that we need some help.”\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e“I can hear you’re in a lot of pain at the moment...”\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e“If I make an appointment for you and drive you there, would you talk to a counsellor?”\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eMore information and support\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFor more information and support, talk to your local doctor, medical centre, hauora, community mental health team, school counsellor or counselling service.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you don't get the help you need the first time, keep trying.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBelow is a list of some of the services available which offer support, information and help.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eFor counselling and support\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNeed to talk? \u003cstrong\u003e1737 \u003c\/strong\u003e– \u003ca href=\"Tel:1737\" title=\"call 1737\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003efree call\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"SMS:1737\" title=\"text 1737\"\u003etext\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e to talk with a trained counsellor, any time\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLifeline \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"Tel:0800543354\" title=\"call 0800 543 354\"\u003e0800 543 354\u003c\/a\u003e \u003c\/strong\u003eor\u003cstrong\u003e \u003ca href=\"SMS:4357\" title=\"free text 4357\"\u003etext 4357\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e – for counselling and support, 7am to midnight\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDepression Helpline \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.depression.org.nz\" title=\"Depression.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003edepression.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800111757\" title=\"call 0800 111 757\"\u003e0800 111 757\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca href=\"SMS:4202\" title=\"text 4202\"\u003etext 4202\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e – to talk to a counsellor about how you are feeling or ask any questions\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHealthline \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800611116\" title=\"call 0800 611 116\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 611 116\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – for advice from experienced health staff, including nurses\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSamaritans \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800726666\" title=\"call 0800 726 666\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 726 666\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – for confidential support to anyone who is lonely or in distress\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e0508 Tautoko Suicide Crisis Helpline \u003ca href=\"Tel:0508828865\" title=\"call 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO)\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0508 828 865\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – for support from a trained counsellor if you, or someone you know, may be in distress or thinking about suicide\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAre you OK Helpline \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800456450\" title=\"Call 0800 456 450\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 456 450\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e - for support if you are concerned about family violence for yourself or others\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAsian Family Services \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"Tel:0800862342\" title=\"call 0800 862 342\"\u003e0800 862 342\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e - face-to-face or telephone support, (9am to 8pm weekdays) or live chat at \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/asianfamilyservices.nz\" title=\"Asian Family Services\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003easianfamilyservices.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eAll services are free, and are available 24 hours a day, seven days a week unless otherwise stated.\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eFor children and young people\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYouthline\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 376 633\" href=\"Tel:0800376633\"\u003e 0800 376 633\u003c\/a\u003e, \u003ca title=\"free text 234\" href=\"SMS:234\"\u003efree text 234\u003c\/a\u003e \u003c\/strong\u003e(call and text 24\/7) webchat at \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"youthline.org.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.youthline.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eyouthline.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/youthlinenz\/?hl=en%20mail\" title=\"@instagram\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eDM on Instagram @youthlinenz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e message on WhatsApp 09 886 56 96 - for young people and their parents, whānau and friends\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhat's Up \u003ca href=\"Tel:08009428787\" title=\"call 0800 942 8787(0800 WHATSUP)\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 942 8787 (0800 WHATSUP)\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e or use online chat at \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"whatsup.co.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.whatsup.co.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ewhatsup.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e – for 5 to 19 year olds (phone service 11am to 11pm, chat service 11am to 10.30pm)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSkylight \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800299100\" title=\"0800 299 100\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 299 100\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e - counselling services for children and young people: support through trauma, loss and grief (8:30 am to 4:30 pm weekdays)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.thelowdown.co.nz\/\"\u003ethelowdown.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e – a space for rangatahi to find support for your hauora, identity, culture and mental health\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.auntydee.co.nz\/\"\u003eauntydee.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e – a free online tool for anyone who needs some help working through problems\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.sparx.org.nz\/\" title=\"SPARX\" target=\"_blank\"\u003esparx.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e – an online e-therapy game to help young people gain the skills to\u003cbr\u003eget through stressful and negative emotions\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"www.headstrong.org.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.headstrong.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eheadstrong.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e - a free app for young people to help you strengthen your hauora and mental wellbeing, calm your mind, build skills and deal with stress\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eFor help with specific issues\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eOUTLine NZ \u003ca title=\"call 0800 688 5463 (0800 OUTLINE)\" href=\"Tel:08006885463\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 688 5463 (0800 OUTLINE)\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – for support with sexuality or gender identity (6 pm to 9 pm).\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAlcohol Drug Helpline \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 787 797\" href=\"Tel:0800787797\"\u003e0800 787 797\u003c\/a\u003e, \u003ca title=\"free text 8681\" href=\"SMS:8681\"\u003etext 8681 \u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003eor chat at\u003cstrong\u003e \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.alcoholdrughelp.org.nz\/\" title=\"www.alcoholdrughelp.org.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ealcoholdrughelp.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e – for people dealing with alcohol or other drug problems. Māori, Pasifika and youth lines available.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGambling Helpline \u003ca title=\"call 0800 654 655\" href=\"0800%20654%20655\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 654 655\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"free text 8006\" href=\"SMS:8006\"\u003etext 8006\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e - for help if you are gambling or concerned about someone else\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAnxiety Helpline \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"0800 269 4389 (0800 ANXIETY)\" href=\"Tel:08002694389\"\u003e0800 269 4389 (0800 ANXIETY)\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e or visit \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/anxiety.org.nz\" title=\"anxiety.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eanxiety.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eManaaki Tāngata | Victim Support \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800842846\" title=\"Call 0800 842 846\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 842 846\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e - support for people affected by crime and traumatic events\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePlunketLine \u003ca title=\"call 0800 933 922\" href=\"Tel:0800933922\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 933 922\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – support for new parents and those experiencing postnatal depression\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRural Support Trust \u003ca title=\"call 0800 787 254\" href=\"Tel:0800787254\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 787 254\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – for people in rural communities (8 am to 6 pm)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWomen's Refuge Crisis Line \u003ca title=\"call 0800 733 843 (0800 REFUGE)\" href=\"Tel:0800733843\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 733 843 (0800 REFUGE)\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – for women living with violence, or in fear, in their relationship or family\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSafe to Talk \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800044334\" title=\"Call 0800 044 334\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 044 334\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"SMS:4334\" title=\"text 4334\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003etext 4334\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e - sexual harm helpline for free, confidential support and information\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNational Rape \u0026amp; Sexual Abuse Crisis Line \u003ca title=\"0800 883 300\" href=\"Tel:0800883300\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 88 33 00\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – support for anyone impacted by rape or sexual abuse\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShakti Crisis Line \u003ca title=\"call 0800 742 584 (0800 SHAKTI)\" href=\"Tel:0800742584\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 742 584\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003cstrong\u003e(0800 SHAKTI)\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – for migrant or refugee women living with family violence\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eEDANZ \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"0800 233 269 (0800 2 EDANZ)\" href=\"Tel:0800233269\"\u003e0800 233 269 (0800 2 EDANZ)\u003c\/a\u003e \u003c\/strong\u003eor \u003ca title=\"(09) 52222 679\" href=\"Tel:0952222679\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e(09) 52222 679\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"www.ed.org.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.ed.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eed.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e for information, support and resources about supporting someone with an eating disorder\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003ca title=\"www.smallsteps.org.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.smallsteps.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003esmallsteps.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e - a collection of online tools to help you calm your mind, manage your stress and lift your mood \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eFor families, whānau, friends and supporters\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe Grief Centre \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 331 333\" href=\"Tel:0800331333\"\u003e0800 331 333\u003c\/a\u003e \u003ca title=\"www.griefcentre.org.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.griefcentre.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003egriefcentre.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e - for support for all forms of loss, grief, trauma or difficult change (8;30 am to 5 pm weekdays)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLe Va \u003ca title=\"www.leva.co.nz\/\" href=\"http:\/\/www.leva.co.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eleva.co.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – information and support for Pasifika families through the FLO suicide prevention programme\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYellow Brick Road \u003ca title=\"0800 732 825\" href=\"Tel:0800732825\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 732 825\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e or email \u003ca href=\"mailto:referrals@yellowbrickroad.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"referrals@yellowbrickroad.org.nz\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ereferrals@yellowbrickroad.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e \u003ca title=\"www.yellowbrickroad.org.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.yellowbrickroad.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eyellowbrickroad.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – for families and whānau supporting a loved one who has a mental illness\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMental Health Foundation \u003ca title=\"www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/\" href=\"http:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ementalhealth.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – for more information about supporting someone in distress, looking after your mental health and working towards recovery\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eSupport for Deaf and hard-of-hearing people\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNZ Relay \u003ca title=\"www.nzrelay.co.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.nzrelay.co.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003enzrelay.co.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e - helps users to connect with services over the phone\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNZ Police 111 TXT \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.police.govt.nz\/111-txt\" title=\"police.govt.nz\/111-txt\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003epolice.govt.nz\/111-txt\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e - Register with the New Zealand Police for the 111TXT service\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTXT, messenger, online chat - many services in this brochure offer txt, messenger or online chat services\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHe taonga rongonui te aroha ki te tangata\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eCompassion for others is a precious treasure\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":34774338830494,"sku":"HE2502","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/products\/HE2502_Are_You_Worried_0.pdf.png?v=1593000281"},{"product_id":"coping-with-grief-and-loss","title":"Coping with grief and loss - HE2524","description":"\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eGrief affects every part of us – our thoughts, feelings, body, spirit, and relationships. Sometimes we don’t know how to manage its impact.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eGrief affects us all\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt’s normal to feel grief when we lose someone or something of value to us.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDealing with grief changes us, and it can bring wisdom and insight. We can learn more about what really matters and what’s not so important.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWe can feel grief when we lose:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePeople\u003c\/strong\u003e – through death, a relationship break-up or because a relationship changes.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eHealth \u003c\/strong\u003e– through illness or accident.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eThings we own\u003c\/strong\u003e – through accident, theft or disaster.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePlaces \u003c\/strong\u003e– by moving schools, house, or city\/country.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eOur place in the world \u003c\/strong\u003e– through being made redundant, losing a place on a team, changed roles or loss of self-identity.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePets \u003c\/strong\u003e– loss or death of a loved pet.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eFeeling depressed\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSometimes grief can lead to depression.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou may:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003efeel hopeless, angry, or miserable all the time\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003efind you don’t enjoy anything anymore\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ehave thoughts about death or harming yourself.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you feel like this, it’s important to get professional help. (Refer to \u003ca href=\"#Wheretogoforhelp\"\u003eWhere to go for help\u003c\/a\u003e)\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eFeelings of grief\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eGrief can cause a range of different feelings and responses. These will come and go, and\u003cbr\u003eyou may only feel some of them.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eShock\/disbelief\u003c\/strong\u003e – You may feel in a daze, numb, empty. It can take a while for what has happened to sink in. You don’t want to believe it’s true.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eSadness\u003c\/strong\u003e – You may want to cry. It helps to let these feelings out when you feel them, rather than pushing them away.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eAnger\/blame\/guilt\u003c\/strong\u003e – You may feel angry or want to blame yourself or others – perhaps even the person who has died. Recognising these feelings allows you to look for more positive ways to respond.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eYearning\u003c\/strong\u003e – There may be a gap in your life. You understand that you can’t have things the way they were, but you may think about and long for the things you have lost.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eHelplessness\u003c\/strong\u003e – You may feel anxious because you suddenly have less control over your feelings – tears may spill out at any time. This will pass over time.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePhysical discomfort\u003c\/strong\u003e – You may feel unwell, have headaches or stomachaches, or get colds easily. You may feel tired a lot, or feel more or less hungry.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBe gentle on yourself.\u003cbr\u003eGive yourself time. Take it easy.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eTake time to grieve\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eStay connected.\u003c\/strong\u003e Talk to family, whānau, friends, or other people you trust about how you’re feeling.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eWrite a letter to the person or thing you’ve lost.\u003c\/strong\u003e Include whatever you want – no one else ever has to see it. Write about the memories you treasure – the good, the bad, the funny, the sad and the things you will miss.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eBe kind to yourself\u003c\/strong\u003e. Grieving can be exhausting. Doing something caring for yourself like listening to music, or going for a walk, may help.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eChoose whatever suits you. If nothing seems to be helping, ask for support.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eHelping a friend, family or whānau member who is grieving\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eIt can be a help just to be around. Let the person who is grieving know that you\u003cbr\u003eunderstand they are going through a hard time and you will be there if they want to\u003cbr\u003etalk or just hang out. Talk to them about the ideas you’ve read in this booklet that might\u003cbr\u003ehelp with their grief.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eIt can be helpful to offer practical support like cooking meals, helping with housework,\u003cbr\u003echildcare, or accompanying the grieving person to meetings and appointments.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eIt’s okay to ask for support\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eGrief is a natural response to losing someone or something that is important to you. There is no right timeline to grieve, as everyone experiences grief differently. Letting\u003cbr\u003epeople know you need help, and accepting support when it’s offered, can lighten the load and be important when working through your grief.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you are experiencing flashbacks or nightmares reliving what has happened, tell your doctor or counsellor or someone else that you trust.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThere may be times you feel you just can’t cope and don’t know how you’re going to carry on, or if you want to. It will take time to come to terms with what has happened. Look back at the ideas suggested in the previous section. Maybe try another one or repeat one that worked last time you felt like this.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf over time you feel nothing is working and you can’t see a way through your grief, you may need professional support (like counselling).\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"Wheretogoforhelp\" class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eWhere to go for help\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThere are people and services available to provide or help you find extra support when you need it.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMost are free and have trained people who want to help. These include 24 hour helplines and websites:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNeed to talk? (\u003ca href=\"Tel:1737\" title=\"Free call 1737\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eFree call\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca href=\"SMS:1737\" title=\"Free text 1737\"\u003etext 1737\u003c\/a\u003e)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLifeline \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800543354\" title=\"Free call 0800 543 354\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 543 354\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAlcohol \u0026amp; Drug Helpline \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800787797\" title=\"Free call 0800 787 797\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 787 797\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYouthline \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800376633\" title=\"0800 376 633\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 376 633\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca href=\"SMS:234\" title=\"free text 234\" target=\"_blank\"\u003efree text 234\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003ca title=\"www.thelowdown.co.nz\/\" href=\"http:\/\/www.thelowdown.co.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ethelowdown.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e (for young people, \u003ca href=\"SMS:5626\" title=\"free text 5626\" target=\"_blank\"\u003efree text 5626\u003c\/a\u003e)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003ca title=\"www.depression.org.nz\/\" href=\"http:\/\/www.depression.org.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003edepression.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e (offers understanding, information, advice and stories of hope)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003ca rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" title=\"www.smallsteps.org.nz\" href=\"https:\/\/www.smallsteps.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003esmallsteps.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e (free online tools to manage your wellbeing)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003ca title=\"www.skylight.org.nz\/\" href=\"http:\/\/www.skylight.org.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eskylight.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e (grief, loss and trauma support and information)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003ca title=\"www.griefcentre.org.nz\/\" href=\"http:\/\/www.griefcentre.org.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003egriefcentre.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e (support, advice and counselling)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003ca title=\"www.sands.org.nz\/\" href=\"http:\/\/www.sands.org.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003esands.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e (support for families who have experienced pregnancy, baby or infant loss)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":34774531309726,"sku":"HE2524","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/files\/HE2524GriefandLossDL_Apr2025-coverimage.jpg?v=1744778138"},{"product_id":"fathers-partners-grieve-too-he2320","title":"Fathers\/Partners Grieve too - HE2320","description":"\u003cp\u003eThe death of your precious baby will probably be the most difficult and painful thing you will ever experience. Nothing and no one could ever prepare you for the devastation that follows this experience. The expectation of some family members, friends and a large proportion of society can impact how you express your grief and the way you learn to live with your loss.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eGrief is a process that takes time and energy, and will likely continue to come in waves for a long, long time. Try not to be influenced by others who may want you to ‘speed up’ the grief process. It is better to ignore their comments and keep working through your grief.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis leaflet has been prepared by other bereaved parents to provide some support through the difficult times ahead.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eMiscarriage\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt is a common misunderstanding that when a loss occurs early in pregnancy, it is not a catastrophe. This attitude is unhelpful and even harmful, minimising the impact of miscarriage and making it difficult for parents to share their grief with those around them.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMany parents build hopes and dreams for their baby as soon as they know they are pregnant. Your baby is already part of your life, and part of your future plans.\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eStillbirth\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe impact of having a stillborn baby is something that many in society may struggle to understand, and comments from others can be hurtful and dismissive. Grief is a natural response to love and loss. You loved and love your baby, and you have a right and need to grieve, and to grieve deeply.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eNewborn and infant death\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSociety usually expects those who experience the death of a newborn or infant to grieve. This is often because whānau, friends and others in your community have met your baby and recognise your baby as an important whānau member. They may encourage you to grieve for a period of time, but you may then get the feeling from them that it is time to ‘get on with life’.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eFeelings\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAfter a baby dies, the partner’s grief is often neglected or ignored by society. Many people are uncomfortable with talking about grief, and they may find it easier to ask how the baby’s mother\/birthing parent is than to ask you how you are feeling.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou may have times of real panic and worry about your whānau. You may have lost confidence and feel out of control. You may spend a lot of time asking yourself, ‘Why? What could I have done?’\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSignificant loss, like the death of a baby, results in grief. Because your baby has died, you will grieve. It’s as if you have no choice … you grieve.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe only choice is how you grieve and what you do with your grief.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt’s okay to feel angry and out of control. Anger is an emotion that everyone has. Anger is a common response when something devastating happens. You may feel angry with your doctor or some other health professional, or angry with yourself or your partner. You may feel angry with your baby. You may feel angry with God. You may not be able to say specifically why you feel angry. Sometimes anger may be directed at your partner or other tamariki simply because they’re around. If you have got to the point where you are feeling that you may become violent – get help! Often it is difficult to assess how serious your own anger is. Talk to others you trust, visit your GP or make contact with an organisation that can help.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou may also feel very flat and have no motivation to do anything. This is another\u003cbr\u003ecommon expression of grief. If those bleak and flat feelings continue and you feel as though there is nothing to look forward to in your life and no chance of anything getting better, it may help to talk with someone who is experienced in supporting people in grief. There is a clear distinction between grief and depression, and a qualified professional can help you to separate between these.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eBuilding a new normal\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAs you begin processing your grief and rebuilding some kind of normality, you may experience waves of grief when you are not expecting them. Things that would not previously have affected you may now trigger emotions of grief:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003esomething you have read\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003esomething you have seen on TV\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003esomething that someone else has said\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ebeing back in the same hospital or where your baby was born.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAnniversaries are often very difficult. You may notice you and\/or your partner becoming quite agitated or moody in the weeks leading up to important anniversaries or events.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eYou and your partner\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou may be scared about what’s happening to each of you and to your relationship, and you may not know what to do about it. You may both be so wiped out with your grief that you can’t support each other. Give yourselves time – hold and comfort each other. It is important to respect each other’s way of grieving. Some people find it helpful to\u003cbr\u003etalk about their emotions and to share their feelings, fears and memories. Not talking about your baby may cause your partner to think that your baby didn’t mean as much to you and that you don’t care. If talking does not feel like the right way to express your emotions or grief, it is helpful to share this with your partner. It may be that you express your grief through doing things, rather than talking. Most of the time your partner just needs to feel that you do care – they don’t expect you to make everything right again. They will appreciate your honesty about the way you feel.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eSexual responses\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt is very important for you to be sensitive to the feelings of your partner at this time. Even though you both lost a baby and you both need to grieve for that baby, the mother\/birthing parent will also be experiencing physical changes. You may feel that your partner is distancing themself from you. They may not want anything sexual in your relationship at the moment. This cannot be rushed or forced; it must be worked through slowly, with understanding and care for each other.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThey may feel physically or emotionally unable to be sexually intimate.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThey may feel being that intimate is an ‘intrusion’.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThey may not want to risk becoming pregnant while they are feeling so much grief.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIt is important to show your partner affection, without wanting things to go further than they are able to handle.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt is also important to remember that you may be feeling equally uninterested.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNot all couples experience these feelings after the death of a baby, but if you do, remember that sexual intimacy is a common aspect that is affected.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eEmployment\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt may be very difficult for you to return to work. When you return to work, you may find that:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eyou’re staring into space and are unable to concentrate\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eyou’re making mistakes that you don’t usually make\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eyour fellow workers don’t acknowledge your baby\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eyou feel isolated.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eOnce you return to work, your partner may feel resentful or perhaps even angry that you can distract yourself with your work, especially if they do not work outside the home or are not able to return to work immediately. Try to understand how they feel – for them days may be long and lonely. If you have other children, their days may be busy but still incredibly sad.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTo find out if you are eligible for paid parental leave, you can ring the Ministry of Business, Innovation and Employment on 0800 20 90 20 for further information.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eDistractions\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou may find yourself using your work and\/or leisure activities as a way to cover up or avoid your feelings. You may bury yourself in these things to avoid issues that have arisen since the death of your baby. You may work until you’re overly tired, hoping it will help you sleep. You may work to try and forget your grief. This way of dealing with things can make the situation worse.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWork and leisure can be a distraction and can be a relief, but they are seldom the solution when taken to the extreme.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eSome practical suggestions\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThere are many practical things you can do for your baby. Often these practical things can support your grieving and help to create important memories. These could include:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ephotographing your baby\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003emaking your baby’s coffin and\/or urn to contain the ashes\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eco-ordinating the funeral\/burial service, choosing special songs, music, readings, etc.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003edigging and\/or filling the grave\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003emaking a cross or headstone to mark your baby’s resting place.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eIn summary…\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eEveryone grieves differently. You may experience some or all of the feelings we’ve\u003cbr\u003ementioned, and others. It is important that you are aware of your grief and find caring people who can support you.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe death of your baby will become a significant part of your life. You will never ‘get over’ what has happened, but you will learn to live with it. The pain will slowly lessen in time, but you will always remember the loss you have experienced.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYour local Sands group\/supporter can be a great help in supporting you. In most areas, you will be able to talk to other parents who understand what you are going through. Having contact with someone who has had a similar loss may be of help when you again meet workmates, friends and whānau who don’t understand your loss.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFor a list of groups or contact people around the country, see \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/sands.org.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Sands.org.nz\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" data-mce-fragment=\"1\" data-mce-href=\"http:\/\/sands.org.nz\/\"\u003eSands New Zealand - Pregnancy, Baby and Infant Loss Support, New Zealand\u003c\/a\u003e and \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/sands.org.nz\/supportgroups.html\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Sands New Zealand Support Groups\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" data-mce-fragment=\"1\" data-mce-href=\"http:\/\/sands.org.nz\/supportgroups.html\"\u003eSands New Zealand Support Groups\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eCode: HE2320\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":34774549889182,"sku":"HE2320","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/products\/HE2320thumbnail.jpg?v=1678828977"},{"product_id":"having-suicidal-thoughts-and-finding-a-way-back","title":"Having suicidal thoughts and finding a way back - HE2538","description":"\u003ch5\u003eNOTE: To order this free resource, please visit the Mental Health Foundation's \u003ca title=\"Mental Health Foundation resources\" href=\"https:\/\/shop.mentalhealth.org.nz\/product\/425-having-suicidal-thoughts\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eonline shop\u003c\/a\u003e.\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e“It felt like it was all too much.”\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eHaving suicidal thoughts and finding a way back. \u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKei roto i te kōrero, he rongoa\u003cbr\u003eKei roto i te reo, te rongoa hei mirimiri mō te hinengaro mō te wairua\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTalking is a rongoā (healing) for the mind and spirit\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMoe Milne\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eThis book has been put together by people who have lived through suicidal thoughts and experiences.\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eIf you’re having thoughts of suicide, you are not alone. Lots of us have thought about killing ourselves and have found a way through.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eWe want to offer you guidance, aronga\/direction and suggestions for how to make your way out of these thoughts. You won’t always feel like this.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf things are at crisis point for you right now, or you need urgent help, go to your local hospital emergency department or call your local mental health crisis assessment team (numbers are below). \u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eIf you’re in danger right now, please call 111.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHaving suicidal thoughts can be overwhelming and sometimes terrifying. \u003cstrong\u003eIt can be really hard to know what to do and how to cope.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou might feel extremely depressed or anxious, or you might just feel really bad and not understand why.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou might be finding the world harsh and painful, or feel like no one understands.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou can get through this.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eThis book will give you tools and ideas to help you:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTalk to someone about this\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGet professional help if you want it\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLearn ways to cope right now and recover fully\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e“\u003cstrong\u003eIt can pass.\u003c\/strong\u003e It’s not everlasting even though it really feels like it is. Somewhere in me was the knowledge that it could pass without me killing myself. I had to really hold onto that.”\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cbr\u003e– Lena\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e“Tell somebody. You might get some strange reactions, but \u003cstrong\u003edon’t worry\u003c\/strong\u003e. \u003cstrong\u003eTell somebody\u003c\/strong\u003e. If you’re wanting to kill yourself, trust me you’re not thinking clearly right now.”\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cbr\u003e– Paulo\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eGetting through this\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eTell someone what you are thinking\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAs hard as it is, reaching out and talking about how you feel or what you’re thinking with a trusted friend, whānau or family member really can make a difference. \u003cstrong\u003eIt’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help, \u003c\/strong\u003eit’s the bravest thing you can do.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eIf the first person you talk to doesn’t listen, try someone else.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt can feel much worse if no one knows what you are going through or how bad you feel. You don’t need to deal with this alone. There are people who are willing, able and available to help you.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you can’t find someone you know to talk to, call a helpline. They’re free, confidential and have people you can talk to 24 hours a day. Some phone numbers are included in the back of this book.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eTalking to someone you trust can make a real difference.\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThey might help you calm down and offer a breathing space while you decide what to do next. \u003cstrong\u003eThey can be with you at times when you don’t want to be alone.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThey might have advice or suggestions about how to manage your situation. It is sometimes easier for other people to see what options you have.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf there’s something specific you need, don’t be afraid to ask. Maybe it’s just someone to sit with you and listen. You could ask someone to go along to the doctor with you, or to call and make an appointment with a counsellor.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou could talk to:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePeople in your \u003cstrong\u003efamily, whānau, friends\u003c\/strong\u003e or support networks\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYour \u003cstrong\u003edoctor or a counsellor\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCultural \u003cstrong\u003eelders\u003c\/strong\u003e, faith leaders, someone from your mosque or church\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eSupport groups\u003c\/strong\u003e for people going through similar things\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePhone \u003cstrong\u003ehelplines \u003c\/strong\u003eand websites – \u003cem\u003edetails are below\u003c\/em\u003e.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTry to be direct and give as much information as you can so they can understand what’s going on for you. Describe what’s going through your mind and what help you need.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you're having thoughts about dying or have made a plan to hurt or kill yourself, tell someone exactly what you’re planning, including how and when, so they understand how serious this is and how to help.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you are finding it hard to talk about what you’re going through, you can try starting with:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cem\u003e“Lately, I’ve been feeling…”\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cem\u003e“I think it started when…”\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cem\u003e“I’ve been feeling this for a while…” or\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cem\u003e“I’m thinking about…”\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBe prepared for their reaction. They might be fine, but some people can be quite confused and emotional at first. Just keep trying. If the first person you talk to can’t help, find someone else.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e“I realised it was more the unbearable pain I wanted to end rather than my life as such. The thing is that the pain does end if you don’t end your life.”\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cbr\u003e– Jono\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e“Give yourself a chance. Yes, rational thought is difficult if not impossible when you’re that low, but tell yourself that there are no second chances.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003e Once you’ve killed yourself, there is no way back. That thought saved my life.”\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cbr\u003e– Tamati\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eWhat does professional help look like?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThere are lots of ways you can find support to get through this – what will work best for you depends on your situation, what you need and the relationships you have. \u003cstrong\u003eThere is help available for everyone.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eProfessional support can include:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eTalking \u003c\/strong\u003eto someone about your thoughts and feelings\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eStaying in a hospital\u003c\/strong\u003e or mental health service for a while and having people keep you safe\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePeer support,\u003c\/strong\u003e where someone else who has been through this can support you\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eMedication \u003c\/strong\u003eto help manage your moods\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eLearning \u003c\/strong\u003eways you can help yourself\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eHelplines are free phone services you can call to talk to trained volunteers or counsellors about what you’re going through.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThey won’t judge who you are or what you’re feeling. Helplines can also tell you more about how the mental health system works and what’s available to you. \u003cem\u003eHelpline numbers detailed below.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eYour GP, doctor or hauora service can help you access counselling, mental health services or medication.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYour doctor will listen to you in private, and ask questions about you and your situation. You might want to have some of your family, whānau, friends and support network with you. Or you might not. Just say what you would prefer.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eCounsellors, school counsellors or psychologists are people who are trained to talk through the really hard stuff.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThey can talk to you about your situation, help to make sense of what you are going through, and explore different ways to cope and recover. It’s completely private, and a really good option if you don’t feel like you can open up to your whānau or friends.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eMental health crisis assessment teams can help in emergencies if you’re feeling really unsafe.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThey can check what kind of help you need, and help you access it. In some parts of the country, they can come and visit you wherever you are. See below for contact details.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e“The world is screwed up and makes things feel a lot worse, so you’ve got nothing to feel ashamed about – it means you have a brain and a heart and are alive! Find someone you can talk with about how the world feels to you, someone who will support you in that”\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cbr\u003e– Maia\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eHospital and community mental health services can help if you don’t feel you can cope or stay alive by yourself.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe thought of going to hospital or needing medication can seem really scary but a lot of people find it’s helpful.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you need help to stay alive, you can go to the Emergency Department of your local hospital. They may discuss with you what kind of help you want or \u003cspan style=\"font-size: 0.875rem;\"\u003eoffer medication\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cspan style=\"font-size: 0.875rem;\"\u003e.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThey may suggest you stay in hospital. Usually this is your choice, but if doctors are worried that you might kill yourself and you won’t accept treatment, they can make you stay in hospital for a while. If this happens, you should be given information about your rights under the Mental Health Act\u003csup\u003e1\u003c\/sup\u003e.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eEither way, before you leave hospital, professionals should support you to develop a safety plan to help you if you get to  a crisis point again. \u003cstrong\u003eVisit \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth.org.nz\/safety-plan\"\u003eSafety Plan | Mental Health Foundation\u003c\/a\u003e to see our range of free safety plans \u003c\/strong\u003e(see also \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/healthed.govt.nz\/collections\/topic-mental-health\/products\/personal-safety-plan\"\u003ePersonal safety plan - HE2547\u003c\/a\u003e)\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eCommunity mental health teams support people at home or outside of hospital. They might refer you to a respite service or crisis house, which can offer intensive support and a place to stay while you work through things and start feeling stronger.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e1 - Mental Health (Compulsory Assessment and Treatment) Act 1992\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eMedication can help you feel calmer or less down.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYour doctor may prescribe you antidepressants, anxiety medications or other treatments.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eIf you are prescribed medication you are entitled to know:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe \u003cstrong\u003enames \u003c\/strong\u003eof the medicines\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhat \u003cstrong\u003esymptoms \u003c\/strong\u003ethey are supposed to treat\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eHow long it will be\u003c\/strong\u003e before they take effect\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eHow\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003cstrong\u003elong you will have to take them \u003c\/strong\u003efor and what their side effects (short and long-term) are.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e“Feeling down is actually ok, you don’t have to feel bad about feeling bad.”\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cbr\u003e– Jo\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eYour rights\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eYour doctor or health professional may want to talk to your whānau, friends or family about you and your situation.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThey will do this with your permission but if there is serious concern that you are in danger, they may talk to others without you agreeing.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhen you ask for help, you have the right to:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBe \u003cstrong\u003erespected \u003c\/strong\u003eand taken \u003cstrong\u003eseriously\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHave your distress \u003cstrong\u003eacknowledged\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSpeak \u003cstrong\u003eprivately \u003c\/strong\u003eto people about yourself and your situation\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBe \u003cstrong\u003elistened \u003c\/strong\u003eto\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBe \u003cstrong\u003eencouraged \u003c\/strong\u003eto recover\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHave your family, whānau, friends or support network with you to \u003cstrong\u003ehelp you make decisions \u003c\/strong\u003eabout your care, if you choose to\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHave your \u003cstrong\u003ecultural needs acknowledged and supported\u003c\/strong\u003e, if that’s what you want.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhen you use a health or disability service in Aotearoa you have the protection of the \u003cem\u003eCode of Health and Disability Services Consumers’ Rights\u003c\/em\u003e. For more information visit \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.hdc.org.nz\/your-rights\/\"\u003eYour rights — Health \u0026amp; Disability Commissioner\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e“If there’s abuse where you are, find a way to get away from it – get help if you need to – \u003c\/em\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003cem\u003echanging your environment can be the first step in changing your reality.”\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e– Heather\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e“It helped me to see anxiety or suicidal thoughts as just thoughts,\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003cem\u003e separate to me \u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cem\u003e– they’re not who I am, they’re something I have with me.”\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cbr\u003e– Aroha\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eCoping right now – and then recovering fully\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eWhen you are in emotional pain it can be hard to believe that you will ever feel better.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSome of us have found the following ideas have given us hope and helped us recover from suicidal feelings.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eThoughts, not actions\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTry to remember that thoughts about killing yourself are just thoughts.\u003c\/strong\u003e You don’t have to act on them, no matter how overwhelming they are or how often you have them. You won’t always have these thoughts.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBe kind to yourself.\u003c\/strong\u003e You only have to cope with one day or one hour at a time.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you can, try to notice the world around you and give yourself a break from focusing on your distress.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eKeep safe\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eGet rid of anything you think you might use to hurt or kill yourself, or put it somewhere you can’t access it.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTry to avoid drinking alcohol or taking non-prescription or recreational drugs\u003c\/strong\u003e. They can change the way you think and feel, mostly in unhelpful ways.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMake a safety plan\u003c\/strong\u003e so you know what to do if you feel really bad.\u003cem\u003e \u003c\/em\u003eVisit\u003cbr\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth.org.nz\/safety-plan\"\u003eSafety Plan | Mental Health Foundation\u003c\/a\u003e for more information and to see our range of free safety plans or \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/healthed.govt.nz\/collections\/topic-mental-health\/products\/personal-safety-plan\"\u003ePersonal safety plan - HE2547 – HealthEd\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e“I give myself a break - it’s \u003cstrong\u003eokay to cry\u003c\/strong\u003e until you can’t cry anymore - it’s the mind’s natural way of fighting the illness. Learn from others – read about how other people have managed.”\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cbr\u003e– Gavin\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eDistract yourself\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eWhile it may feel like you have to act now, try to postpone any decisions about hurting yourself.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eKeep a list of things you can do to distract yourself.\u003c\/strong\u003e This might include watching a movie or TV show, connecting with a friend, going for a walk, exercising or stretching, being around other people, or listening to music. Check your list and find something you can do to distract yourself from suicidal thoughts.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eFill a ‘distraction box’ with things that you find comforting and meaningful.\u003c\/strong\u003e This could be music you like listening to, photos, phone numbers of friends you could ring, a taonga, notes to yourself, perfume, a toy, or anything else you find helpful.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e“If you can think of anything that makes you feel the tiniest bit better, do it. \u003cstrong\u003eThen do it again.\u003c\/strong\u003e You can actually start to release the pain that way.”\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cbr\u003e– Helena\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eConnect with others\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eTalk to someone you trust about what’s on your mind, whenever you need to.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKeep a list of people you can call - this may be a friend, whānau member or a health professional. If you’re not sure who you can talk to, try a helpline or text counselling service. See below for more information.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSpend time with people who you like and trust.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThink about what kind of help you need when you feel low. You may want whānau or friends to visit or message you, help you make appointments (or go with you), share a meal or look after your children. Let people know so they can do their best to support you.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eLook after yourself\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eHere are some other ways you can take care of yourself:\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGet a good amount of \u003cstrong\u003esleep, rest and exercise, and eat healthy foods regularly.\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIf you’re taking prescribed medicine (whether it is for a physical illness or a mental health problem), \u003cstrong\u003edon’t stop taking it without talking to your doctor first.\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eTake time\u003c\/strong\u003e off work or school if you need to. Your doctor can help arrange this.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eKeep a diary, or write a letter\u003c\/strong\u003e to someone that you don’t send. Writing things down can help you understand what you’re thinking or feeling, or how you’re reacting to situations. It can also help you find solutions to any problems you’re facing.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eDo things you find healing. \u003c\/strong\u003eGo for a massage or some mirimiri.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eExpress yourself\u003c\/strong\u003e in whatever way makes sense to you: Sing waiata, take photos, dance, draw.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eLearn how other people have got through this. \u003c\/strong\u003eWatch videos or read books. It really can help hearing other people talk about how they managed their feelings of wanting to die. \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eConnect with areas of your life that give you a sense of meaning\u003c\/strong\u003e e.g. your friends, whānau, culture, spirituality, whatever you’re passionate about.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eGo to places that restore you. \u003c\/strong\u003eSwim in the ocean, go home to your marae, sit in a park under the trees, walk on the whenua.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIf you’re disconnected from your culture, \u003cstrong\u003efind a way to reconnect.\u003c\/strong\u003e If you don’t know where to start, you could join a kapa haka or another community group or look online for local events or language classes to help you connect with your culture.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReach out and find people who are like you,\u003c\/strong\u003e or who are going through similar things. If you’re questioning your sexuality or gender, or feeling isolated because of who you are, check out the list below to find someone to talk to.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e“There really are so many things in life that aren’t fair or equal or right.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e You’re not crazy if you think like that\u003c\/strong\u003e, you’re onto something. Racism, prejudice, abuse. Don’t let it implode you. Turn the anger back out where it belongs. Learn to channel it into changing your world.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003e \u003cstrong\u003eYou’re way more powerful than you realise\u003c\/strong\u003e.”\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cbr\u003e– Wai\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eMore people and places to contact for support\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFor professional support, talk to your local doctor, medical centre, hauora service, community mental health team, school counsellor or counselling service. Many GP clinics also have health coaches or health improvement practitioners (HIPs) who can provide support for people with concerns about mental health, addiction, long-term conditions, and general wellbeing.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eIf you don’t get the help you need the first time, keep trying.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSometimes when we feel suicidal it can be related to other things going on in our lives – this could be financial or relationship issues, violence or sexual abuse, heavy use of drugs or alcohol, being bullied or excluded, having a serious physical illness, experiencing suicide loss, or going through big changes.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhen you need support with things like this, there are people who can help. Social workers, youth workers, Whānau Ora navigators or free helplines can support you to work things out or direct you to the help you need.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e“Climb your maunga, swim in your river, \u003cstrong\u003etalk with your kuia\u003c\/strong\u003e. The medicine is in your whakapapa.”\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cbr\u003e– Elena\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBelow, you’ll find a list of some of the places you can contact for support, information and help. All of these services are free.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eFor counselling and support\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAll services are available 24\/7 unless otherwise stated.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNeed to talk? \u003ca title=\"Call 1737\" href=\"Tel:1737\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eFree call\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca title=\"Text 1737\" href=\"SMS:1737\" target=\"_blank\"\u003etext 1737\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTo talk to a trained counsellor, any time\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eDepression Helpline \u003ca title=\"Call 0800 111 757\" href=\"Tel:0800111757\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 111 757\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca title=\"free text 4202\" href=\"SMS:4202\" target=\"_blank\"\u003efree text 4202\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTalk to a trained counsellor or ask any questions \u003cbr\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.depression.org.nz\/\"\u003eDepression and Anxiety | Welcome to a Brand New Day\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eSamaritans \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800726666\" title=\"Call 0800 726 666\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 72 66 66\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor confidential support to anyone who is lonely or in emotional distress or despair\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eTAUTOKO Suicide Crisis Helpline \u003ca href=\"Tel:0508828865\" title=\"Call 0508 828 865\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0508 828 865\u003c\/a\u003e \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor support if you are in distress, or worried about someone\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eLifeline\u003ca href=\"Tel:0800543354%20\" title=\"call 0800 543 354\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e 0800 543 354\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca href=\"SMS:4357\" title=\"free text 4357\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003efree text 4357\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor counselling and support\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eAnxietyNZ Trust\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800269438\" title=\"Call 0800 269 438\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 269 438\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e (0800 ANXIETY)\u003cbr\u003eFor support with all forms of anxiety, incl panic attacks, OCD\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eAsian Family Services \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"Call 0800 862 342\" href=\"Tel:0800862342\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 862 342\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003eFree and confidential helpline, services available in eight languages (Mon to Fri 9am to 8pm) \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"asianfamilyservices.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/asianfamilyservices.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003easianfamilyservices.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eHealthline \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"Call 0800 611 116\" href=\"Tel:0800611116\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 611 116\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAdvice from trained health professionals for any health-related issues or questions\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eHelp for Deaf and hard-of-hearing people\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003ePhone numbers in this brochure can be reached using the relay service, text or video. Visit \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/nzrelay.co.nz\/index\"\u003eNew Zealand Relay Services\u003c\/a\u003e to find out more.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eRegister with New Zealand Police for \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.police.govt.nz\/111-txt\"\u003e111 TXT for hearing and speech difficulties | New Zealand Police\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eMany services offer text or webchat options, including Facebook (FB) messenger.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eFor children and young people\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eYouthline (24\/7) \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 376 633\" href=\"Tel:0800376633\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 376 633\u003c\/a\u003e, \u003c\/strong\u003efree\u003cstrong\u003e \u003ca href=\"SMS:234\" title=\"free text 234\" target=\"_blank\"\u003etext 234\u003c\/a\u003e \u003c\/strong\u003ewebchat at \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/youthline.co.nz\" title=\"Chat with youthline.co.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eyouthline.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" aria-describedby=\"a11y-new-window-external-message\" title=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/youthlinenz\/\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/youthlinenz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eDM on Instagram @youthlinenz\u003c\/a\u003e \u003ca aria-describedby=\"a11y-new-window-external-message\" href=\"https:\/\/api.whatsapp.com\/send?phone=6498865696\" title=\"Message 6498865696\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003emessage on WhatsApp 09 886 56 96\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor young people and their parents, whānau and friends\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eWhat’s Up \u003ca href=\"Tel:08009428787\" title=\"Call 0800 942 8787\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 942 8787\u003c\/a\u003e (0800 WHATSUP)\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003ecall (11 am to 11 pm) or chat online (11 am to 10:30 pm) at \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/whatsup.co.nz\" title=\"chat online at whatsup.co.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewhatsup.co.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor children and teenagers\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eOnline and digital tools\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cspan\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.smallsteps.org.nz\/\"\u003eSmall Steps | Free Online Tools to Manage Your Wellbeing\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eO\u003c\/span\u003enline tools to improve your mental wellbeing for all\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.justathought.co.nz\/\"\u003eJust a Thought\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFree online therapy courses and resources to support you with mental health challenges\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.headstrong.org.nz\/\"\u003eHeadstrong | A wellbeing app to help empower rangatahi\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eA free app for young people to strengthen your wellbeing\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.sparx.org.nz\/\"\u003eNau mai haere mai | SPARX\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAn online game to help young people build resilience\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.thelowdown.co.nz\/\"\u003eThe Lowdown\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eA space for rangatahi to find support for your hauora, identity, culture \u0026amp; mental health\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.auntydee.co.nz\/\"\u003eHome | Aunty Dee\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eA free online tool for anyone who needs some help working through a problem\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eFor help with specific issues\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eOUTLine Aotearoa \u003ca href=\"Tel:08006885463\" title=\"0800 688 5463\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 688 5463\u003c\/a\u003e (0800 OUTLINE)\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eRainbow mental health support line, if you want to talk about issues around sexual orientation and gender identity (6 pm to 9 pm)\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eAlcohol Drug Helpline \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800787797\" title=\"Call 0800 787 797\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 787 797\u003c\/a\u003e, free text \u003ca href=\"SMS:8681\" title=\"free text 8681\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e8681\u003c\/a\u003e or online chat at \u003ca title=\"www.alcoholdrughelp.org.nz\/\" href=\"http:\/\/www.alcoholdrughelp.org.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ealcoholdrughelp.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor people dealing with alcohol or other drug problems. Māori, Pasifika and Youth lines are available.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eWomen’s Refuge Crisis Line \u003ca href=\"tel:0800733843\" title=\"call 0800 733 843 (0800 REFUGE)\" aria-describedby=\"a11y-external-message\" style=\"font-weight: 400;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 733 843 (0800 REFUGE)\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003eFor women living with violence, or in fear, in their relationship or family\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eShakti Crisis Line \u003ca href=\"tel:0800742584\" title=\"call 0800 742 584 (0800 SHAKTI)\" aria-describedby=\"a11y-external-message\"\u003e0800 742 584 (0800 SHAKTI)\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor migrant or refugee women living with family violence\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNational Rape \u0026amp; Sexual Abuse Crisis Line\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"tel:0800883300\" title=\"0800 883 300\" aria-describedby=\"a11y-external-message\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 883 300\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor support after rape or sexual assault\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003e24\/7 HELPline \u003ca href=\"Tel:08006231700\" title=\"Call 0800 623 1700\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 623 1700\u003c\/a\u003e or free text \u003ca href=\"SMS:8236\" title=\"free text 8236\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e8236\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/helpauckland.org.nz\" title=\"helpauckland.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ehelpauckland.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSupport for sexual abuse and assault survivors\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePlunketLine \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800933922\" title=\"Call 0800 933 922\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 933 922\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSupport for new parents, including mothers experiencing postnatal depression\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eRural Support \u003ca href=\"tel:0800787254\" title=\"call 0800 787 254\" aria-describedby=\"a11y-external-message\"\u003e0800 787 254\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor people in rural communities dealing with financial or personal challenges\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eGambling Helpline \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/healthed.govt.nz\/products\/0800%20654%20655\" title=\"call 0800 654 655\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 654 655\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"sms:8006\" title=\"free text 8006\" aria-describedby=\"a11y-external-message\"\u003efree text 8006\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor help if you're gambling or are concerned about someone’s gambling. Māori, Pasifika and Youth lines are available.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eMoneytalks \u003ca title=\"Moneytalks\" href=\"http:\/\/moneytalks.co.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003emoneytalks.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eA free financial helpline that can give advice and connect you to mentors and services\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eLe Va \u003ca title=\"www.leva.co.nz\/\" href=\"http:\/\/www.leva.co.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eleva.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eInformation and support for Pasifika families and communities for the best health and wellbeing outcomes\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eThe Mental Health Foundation \u003ca title=\"www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/\" href=\"http:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ementalhealth.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor more information about looking after your mental health and working towards recovery\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor information on suicide prevention and resources, please see \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/suicideprevention\" title=\"www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/suicideprevention\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ementalhealth.org.nz\/suicideprevention\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003e\u003cem\u003eIf things are at crisis point for you right now, or you need urgent help, call your local mental health crisis assessment team (numbers below) or go to your local hospital emergency department.\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cem\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eIf you're in danger right now, please call 111.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eMental health crisis assessment team contact numbers\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003ctable border=\"1\" cellpadding=\"1\" cellspacing=\"1\" style=\"width: 500px; height: 1214.23px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctbody\u003e\n\u003ctr style=\"height: 30.1406px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 250.094px; height: 30.1406px;\"\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eArea:\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 236.906px; height: 30.1406px;\"\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003ePhone:\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr style=\"height: 142.375px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 250.094px; height: 142.375px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNorthland\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003e(Topuni to North Cape)\u003c\/em\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 236.906px; height: 142.375px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhangārei:\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"Call 09 430 4101\" href=\"Tel:094304101\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e09 430 4101\u003c\/a\u003e ext 3537\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eKaipara:\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"09 439 3330\" href=\"Tel:094393330\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e09 439 3330\u003c\/a\u003e ext 65401\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMid North:\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 643 647\" href=\"Tel:0800643647\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 643 647\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAfter hours (all): \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 223 371\" href=\"Tel:0800223371\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 223 371\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr style=\"height: 106.781px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 250.094px; height: 106.781px;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAuckland North and West\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 236.906px; height: 106.781px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eNorth Shore: \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"09 486 8900\" href=\"Tel:094868900\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e09 486 8900\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eRodney: \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"09 427 0360\" href=\"Tel:094270360\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e09 427 0360\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eHenderson:\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"09 822 8501\" href=\"Tel:098228501\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e09 822 8501\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr style=\"height: 19.5938px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 250.094px; height: 19.5938px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eAuckland City\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 236.906px; height: 19.5938px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eCentral\u003c\/strong\u003e: \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 800 717\" href=\"Tel:0800800717\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 800 717\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr style=\"height: 71.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 250.094px; height: 71.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eAuckland South and East\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 236.906px; height: 71.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eSouth and East:\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"09 261 3700\" href=\"Tel:092613700\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e09 261 3700\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAfter hours:\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 775 222\" href=\"Tel:0800775222\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 775 222\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr style=\"height: 58.7812px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 250.094px; height: 58.7812px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eWaikato\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003e(Coromandel, Hamilton\u003cbr\u003eto National Park)\u003c\/em\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 236.906px; height: 58.7812px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eHamilton:\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 505 050\" href=\"Tel:0800505050\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 505 050\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr style=\"height: 71.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 250.094px; height: 71.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eBay of Plenty\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003e(Tauranga, Whakatāne to Te Kaha)\u003c\/em\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 236.906px; height: 71.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTauranga:\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 800 508\" href=\"Tel:0800800508\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 800 508\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhakatāne:\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 774 545\" href=\"Tel:0800774545\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 774 545\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr style=\"height: 35.5938px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 250.094px; height: 35.5938px;\"\u003e\u003cb\u003eRotorua and Taupō\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 236.906px; height: 35.5938px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 166 167\" href=\"Tel:0800166167\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 166 167\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr style=\"height: 71.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 250.094px; height: 71.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eTairāwhiti\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003e(Hicks Bay to Gisborne)\u003c\/em\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 236.906px; height: 71.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eGisborne\u003c\/strong\u003e: \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 243 500\" href=\"Tel:0800243500\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 243 500\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eor after 10 pm call \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"06 869 0512\" href=\"Tel:068690512\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e06 869 0512\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr style=\"height: 58.7812px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 250.094px; height: 58.7812px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eHawke’s Bay\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003e(Wairoa, Napier, Hastings,\u003cbr\u003eWaipukaurau)\u003c\/em\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 236.906px; height: 58.7812px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNapier, Hastings: \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 112 334\" href=\"Tel:0800112334\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 112 334\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr style=\"height: 39.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 250.094px; height: 39.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eTaranaki\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003e(New Plymouth to Waverly)\u003c\/em\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 236.906px; height: 39.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNew Plymouth:\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0508 292 467\" href=\"Tel:0508292467\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0508 292 467\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr style=\"height: 39.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 250.094px; height: 39.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eManawatū-Whanganui\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 236.906px; height: 39.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhanganui:\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 653 358\" href=\"Tel:0800653358\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 653 358\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePalmerston North:\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 653 357\" href=\"Tel:0800653357\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 653 357\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr style=\"height: 39.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 250.094px; height: 39.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eWairarapa\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003e(Masterton to Martinborough\u003c\/em\u003e)\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 236.906px; height: 39.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eWairarapa:\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"Tel:0508432432\" title=\"0508 432 432\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0508 432 432\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr style=\"height: 39.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 250.094px; height: 39.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWellington, Hutt and Kāpiti\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cem\u003e\u003c\/em\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 236.906px; height: 39.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWellington\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800745477\" title=\"0800 745 477\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 745 477\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eHutt\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800745477\" title=\"0800 745 477\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 745 477\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr style=\"height: 78.375px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 250.094px; height: 78.375px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eNelson Marlborough\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003e(Nelson region, Marlborough, \u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cem\u003eGolden Bay area)\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 236.906px; height: 78.375px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNelson:\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800776364\" title=\"0800 776 364\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 776 364\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMarlborough\u003c\/strong\u003e: \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800948497\" title=\"0800 948 497\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 948 497\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eGolden Bay:\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800776364\" title=\"0800 776 364\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 776 364\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr style=\"height: 39.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 250.094px; height: 39.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eCanterbury\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003e(Kaikōura to Ashburton)\u003c\/em\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 236.906px; height: 39.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eChristchurch:\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800920092\" title=\"0800 920 092\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 920 092\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr style=\"height: 39.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 250.094px; height: 39.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eWest Coast\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003e(West Coast, South Island)\u003c\/em\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 236.906px; height: 39.1875px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eGreymouth:\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800757678\" title=\"0800 757 678\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 757 678\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr style=\"height: 58.7812px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 250.094px; height: 58.7812px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eSouth Canterbury\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003e(Timaru, Mt Cook, Tekapo,\u003cbr\u003eTemuka, Waimate)\u003c\/em\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 236.906px; height: 58.7812px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eTimaru:\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800277997\" title=\"0800 277 997\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 277 997\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr style=\"height: 58.7812px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 250.094px; height: 58.7812px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eSouthland and Otago\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003e(Dunedin, Milford Sound south to\u003cbr\u003eStewart Island)\u003c\/em\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 236.906px; height: 58.7812px;\"\u003e\n\u003ca href=\"Tel:0800467846\" title=\"0800 467 846\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 467 846\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePress 1 for \u003cstrong\u003eSouthland\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePress 2 for \u003cstrong\u003eOtago\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003c\/tbody\u003e\n\u003c\/table\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e“One day you’ll look back on this and be really pleased that you’re still around – \u003cstrong\u003ethere are still things in your path to discover.\u003c\/strong\u003e”\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cbr\u003e– Ali\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDownload or order your free Personal Safety Plan and learn more about using safety plans at \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth.org.nz\/safety-plan\"\u003eSafety Plan | Mental Health Foundation\u003c\/a\u003e or see \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/healthed.govt.nz\/products\/personal-safety-plan\"\u003ePersonal safety plan - HE2547 – HealthEd\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eHe oranga ngākau he pikinga wairua\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhen the heart is well, the spirit is lifted\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eThe quotes in this book are real, but the names have been changed.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe manawa design used throughout this resource was created for us by Boydie Te Nahu. It symbolises strength, power, freedom and reconnecting with source.\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":34774572466334,"sku":"HE2538","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/products\/HE2538_Having_Suicidal_Thoughts.pdf.png?v=1593001256"},{"product_id":"helplines-and-mental-health-services","title":"Helplines and local mental health services - HE2546","description":"\u003cp\u003eNovember 2025\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTēnā koe\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn this resource you will find a directory of helplines and local mental health service contact details.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTo help connect people with their local communities for specific or wider support, this resource includes a blank page for you to fill in with any local helplines and personal supports.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt’s okay to reach out for help – never hesitate if you are concerned about yourself or someone else.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKia mau ki te tūmanako, te whakapono me te aroha\u003cbr\u003eHold fast to hope, faith and love\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eIn a crisis or emergency\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf someone has attempted suicide or you’re worried about their immediate safety, do the following:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eCall your local mental health crisis assessment team\u003c\/strong\u003e (numbers are below) or go with them to the emergency department (ED) of your nearest hospital\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIf they are in immediate physical danger to themselves or others, \u003cstrong\u003ecall 111\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eStay with them\u003c\/strong\u003e until support arrives\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eRemove any obvious means \u003c\/strong\u003eof suicide they might use (e.g. rope, pills, guns, car keys, knives, poisons).\u003cbr\u003eIf they live in a high-rise building, help them find somewhere to stay in single-level accommodation.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eTry to stay calm, take some deep breaths.\u003c\/strong\u003e Let them know you care\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eKeep them talking:\u003c\/strong\u003e listen and ask questions without judging\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMake sure \u003cstrong\u003eyou are safe\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eMore information and support\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eFor more information and support, talk to your local doctor, medical centre, hauora, community mental health team, school counsellor or counselling service.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eIf you don’t get the help you need the first time, keep trying.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eBelow is a list of some services available which offer support, information and help.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eNeed to talk? Free \u003ca href=\"tel:1737\" title=\"call 1737\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ecall\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca href=\"sms:1737\" title=\"text 1737\" target=\"_blank\"\u003etext 1737\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e Talk with a trained counsellor, anytime.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eAll services are free, and are available 24 hours a day, seven days a week unless otherwise stated.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eFor counselling and support\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eLifeline\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"tel:0800543354\" title=\"Call 0800 543 354\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 543 354\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e (0800 LIFELINE) or \u003cstrong\u003efree text \u003ca href=\"sms:4357\" title=\"text 4357\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e4357\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e (HELP) - here to listen and support, 7 am to midnight\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eSamaritans\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"tel:0800726666\" title=\"Call 0800 726 666\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 726 666\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – for confidential support for anyone who is lonely or in emotional distress\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eDepression Helpline\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"tel:0800111757\" title=\"Call 0800 111 757\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 111 757\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003cstrong\u003efree text \u003ca href=\"sms:4202\" title=\"text 4202\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e4202\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e – to talk to a trained counsellor about how you are feeling or to ask any questions \u003cbr\u003e\u003ca title=\"www.depression.org.nz\" href=\"https:\/\/www.depression.org.nz%20\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003edepression.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eHealthline\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"tel:0800611116\" title=\"Call 0800 611 116\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 611 116\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – for advice from experienced health staff for any health issues\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eFor children and young people\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eYouthline\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"tel:0800376633\" title=\"call 0800 376 633\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 376 633\u003c\/a\u003e, \u003c\/strong\u003efree text \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"sms:234\" title=\"text 234\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e234\u003c\/a\u003e \u003c\/strong\u003ewebchat at \u003ca title=\"www.youthline.co.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.youthline.co.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eyouthline.co.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003ewebchat\u003cstrong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003eat \u003cstrong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" aria-describedby=\"a11y-new-window-external-message\" title=\"Chat with youthline.co.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/youthline.co.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eyouthline.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/youthlinenz\/\" title=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/youthlinenz\/\" aria-describedby=\"a11y-new-window-external-message\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eDM on Instagram @youthlinenz\u003c\/a\u003e \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"Message 6498865696\" href=\"https:\/\/api.whatsapp.com\/send?phone=6498865696\" aria-describedby=\"a11y-new-window-external-message\" target=\"_blank\"\u003emessage on WhatsApp 09 886 56 96\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"www.youthline.co.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.youthline.co.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eyouthline.co.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e– for young people and their parents, whānau and friends\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eWhat’s Up\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"tel:08009428787\" title=\"call 0800 942 8787\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 942 8787\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e (0800 WHATSUP) call (11 am to 11 pm) or online chat at \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"www.whatsup.co.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.whatsup.co.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ewhatsup.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e (11 am \u003cspan\u003eto\u003c\/span\u003e 10:30 pm) every day - for 5 to 19 year olds\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.auntydee.co.nz\/\" title=\"www.auntydee.co.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eauntydee.co.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – a free online tool for anyone who needs help working through problems\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003ca title=\"www.thelowdown.co.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.thelowdown.co.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ethelowdown.co.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – a space for rangatahi to find support for your hauora, identity, culture and mental health\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003ca title=\"www.sparx.org.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.sparx.org.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003esparx.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – an online game to help young people who are feeling down\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.headstrong.org.nz\" title=\"Aroha chatbot\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eheadstrong.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e - a free app for young people to help you cope with stress. Includes the Aroha chatbot.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eHelp for Deaf and hard-of-hearing people\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eNZ Relay\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.nzrelay.co.nz\" title=\"www.nzrelay.co.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003enzrelay.co.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e - helps users to connect with services over the phone\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eNZ Police 111TXT \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.police.govt.nz\/111-txt\" title=\"www.police.govt.nz\/111-txt\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003epolice.govt.nz\/111-txt\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e - register with the New Zealand Police for the 111TXT service.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTXT, messenger, online chat\u003c\/strong\u003e - many services in this brochure offer txt, messenger or online chat services.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eFor help with specific issues\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003e0508 TAUTOKO Suicide Crisis Helpline\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"tel:0508828865\" title=\"call 0508 828 865\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0508 828 865\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – if you, or someone you know, may be thinking about suicide, call for support from a trained counsellor, 7 am to midnight\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eOUTLine\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"tel:08006885463\" title=\"call 0800 688 5463\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 688 5463\u003c\/a\u003e \u003c\/strong\u003e(0800 OUTLINE) - for sexuality or gender identity issues 6 pm to 9 pm\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eAlcohol Drug Helpline\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"tel:0800787797\" title=\"call 0800 787 797\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 787 797\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e, \u003cstrong\u003efree text \u003ca href=\"sms:8681\" title=\"text 8681\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e8681\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e or online chat at \u003ca title=\"alcoholdrughelp.org.nz\" href=\"https:\/\/www.alcoholdrughelp.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ealcoholdrughelp.org.n\u003c\/a\u003e\u003ca title=\"alcoholdrughelp.org.nz\" href=\"https:\/\/www.alcoholdrughelp.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ez\u003c\/a\u003e - for people dealing with alcohol or other drug problems. Māori, Pasifika and youth lines available.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eGambling Helpline\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 654 655\" href=\"tel:0800654655\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 654 655\u003c\/a\u003e free text \u003ca title=\"text 8006\" href=\"sms:8006\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e8006\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e or online chat at \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.gamblinghelpline.co.nz\" title=\"www.gamblinghelpline.co.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003egamblinghelpline.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e - for help if you are gambling or are concerned about someone else's gambling. \u003cspan\u003eMāori, Pasifika and youth lines available.\u003c\/span\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cspan\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e1737 Peer Support\u003c\/strong\u003e call \u003ca href=\"Tel:1737\" title=\"Call 1737\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e1737\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e and choose \u003cem\u003ePeer Support\u003c\/em\u003e – to talk to someone with personal experience about your mental health or addiction concerns.\u003cbr\u003e2 pm to 10 pm daily.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eRural Support\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 787 254\" href=\"tel:0800787254\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 787 254\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – for people in rural communities dealing with challenges. 8 am to 6 pm daily.\u003cspan\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eAnxiety Helpline\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 269 4389\" href=\"tel:08002694389\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 269 4389\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e (0800 ANXIETY) \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/anxiety.org.nz\" title=\"Anxiety Helpline\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eanxiety.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e - for people with all forms of anxiety and families and friends\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePlunketLine\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 933 922\" href=\"tel:0800933922\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 933 922\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – support for parents, including mothers experiencing postnatal depression\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.smallsteps.org.nz\" title=\"www.smallsteps.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003esmallsteps.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e - a collection of \u003cstrong\u003eonline tools\u003c\/strong\u003e to help you calm your mind, manage your stress and lift your mood\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eSexual Harm Helpline\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 044 334\" href=\"tel:0800044334\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 044 334\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e or text \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"text 4334\" href=\"sms:4334\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e4334\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e or webchat at \u003ca title=\"www.safetotalk.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.safetotalk.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003esafetotalk.nz\u003c\/a\u003e - to talk about sexual harm and find help for yourself or others\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eWomen’s Refuge Crisis Line\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 733 843\" href=\"tel:0800733843\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 733 843\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e (0800 REFUGE) – for women living with violence, or in fear, in their relationship or family\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNational Rape \u0026amp; Sexual Abuse Crisis Line\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 883 300\" href=\"tel:0800883300\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 883 300\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – for support after rape or sexual assault\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003e24\/7 HELPline\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 623 1700\" href=\"tel:0800%20623%201700\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 623 1700\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca title=\"txt 8236\" href=\"SMS:8236\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003etxt 8236\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e \u003ca title=\"www.helpauckland.org.nz\" href=\"https:\/\/www.helpauckland.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ehelpauckland.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e - support for sexual abuse survivors\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eShakti Crisis Line\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 742 584\" href=\"tel:0800742584\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 742 584\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e (0800 SHAKTI) – multilingual helpline for migrant or refugee women living with family violence\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eFamily violence info line\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 456 450\" href=\"tel:0800456450\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 456 450\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e or chat at \u003ca title=\"www.areyouok.org.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.areyouok.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eareyouok.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e - to talk about family violence and find help for yourself or others\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eEDANZ\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 233 269\" href=\"tel:0800233269\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 233 269\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e (0800 2 EDANZ) – for information, support and resources about supporting someone with an eating disorder \u003ca title=\"www.ed.org.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.ed.org.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eed.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eAsian Family Services\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 862 342\" href=\"tel:0800862342\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 862 342\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca href=\"Mailto:help@asianfamilyservices.nz\" title=\"Email to: help@asianfamilyservices.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ehelp@asianfamilyservices.nz\u003c\/a\u003e - provides professional, confidential support in multiple languages to Asians living in New Zealand, Monday to Friday 9 am to 8 pm\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNetsafe \u003ca href=\"Tel:0508638723\" title=\"0508 638 723\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0508 638 723\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/netsafe.org.nz\" title=\"Netsafe\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003enetsafe.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e - support for online safety, incl harassment or bullying, scams and fraud, and harmful digital content,\u003cbr\u003eMon-Fri 8 am to 8pm; Sat-Sun 9 am to 5pm\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eFor families, whānau and friends\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eYellow Brick Road \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800732825\" title=\"0800 732 825\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 732 825\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.yellowbrickroad.org.nz\" title=\"Yellow Brick Road\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eyellowbrickroad.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e – for families and whānau supporting a loved one who lives with a mental illness, Mon-Fri\u003cbr\u003e8 am to 4.30 pm\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eSkylight\u003c\/strong\u003e  \u003ca title=\"call 0800 299 100\" href=\"tel:0800299100\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 299 100\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.skylight.org.nz\" title=\"www.skylight.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eskylight.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e \u003c\/strong\u003e– for support through trauma, loss and grief, Mon-Fri 8.30 am to 4.30 pm\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eAoake te Rā\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 000 053\" href=\"tel:0800000053\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 000 053\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"Aoake te Rā\" href=\"http:\/\/www.aoaketera.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eaoaketera.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e - free counselling for people\u003cbr\u003ebereaved by suicide, Mon-Fri 8.30 to 5pm\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eThe Grief Centre\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 331 333\" href=\"tel:0800331333\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 331 333\u003c\/a\u003e \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.griefcentre.org.nz\" title=\"www.griefcentre.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003egriefcentre.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e - for grief counselling, support groups and information about loss, grief, trauma or difficult change, Mon-Fri 9 am to 4pm\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eVictim Support\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 842 846\" href=\"tel:0800842846\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 842 846\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – 24 hour support for people affected by crime\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eLe Va\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"www.leva.co.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.leva.co.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eleva.co.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e \u003ca title=\"mentalwealth.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/mentalwealth.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ementalwealth.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – information and support for Pasifika families on mental health, addiction and suicide prevention\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eAfter a Suicide\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"www.afterasuicide.nz\" href=\"https:\/\/www.afterasuicide.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eafterasuicide.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e - a website offering practical information and guidance to people who have lost someone to suicide\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eMental Health Foundation\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"www.mentalhealth.org.nz\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ementalhealth.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e – for more information about supporting someone in distress, looking after your own mental health and working toward recovery\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eMental health crisis team contact numbers\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003ctable style=\"width: 700px;\" cellspacing=\"1\" cellpadding=\"1\" border=\"1\"\u003e\n\u003ctbody\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 106.141px;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 234.797px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eDuring business hours\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 341.062px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAfter hours and weekend\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 106.141px;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eNorthland\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 234.797px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhangārei\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 09 430 4101\" href=\"tel:094304101\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e(09) 430 4101\u003c\/a\u003e ext 3537\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eKaipara\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call (09) 439 3330\" href=\"tel:094393330\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e(09) 439 3330\u003c\/a\u003e ext 65401\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMid-North\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 643 647\" href=\"tel:0800643647\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 643 647\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 341.062px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAfter Hours (all)\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 223 371\" href=\"tel:0800223371\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 223 371\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 106.141px;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAuckland\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 234.797px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eCentral\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 800 717\" href=\"tel:0800800717\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 800 717\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eNorth Shore\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"Tel:094871414\" title=\"call (09) 487 1414\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e(09) 487 1414\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWest\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call (09) 822 8501\" href=\"tel:098228501\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e(09) \u003cspan\u003e822 8501\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan\u003e or \u003ca href=\"Tel:08001331313\" title=\"0800 133 1313\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 133 1313\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eRodney\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call (09) 427 0360\" href=\"tel:094270360\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e(09) 427 0360\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cspan\u003e or \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 432 523\" href=\"Tel:0800432523\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 432 523\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eEast \u0026amp; South \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003ca title=\"call (09) 261 3700\" href=\"tel:092613700\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e(09) 261 3700\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 341.062px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eCentral \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 800 717\" href=\"tel:0800800717\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 800 717\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eNorth Shore\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call (09) 486 8900\" href=\"Tel:094868900\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e(09) 486 8900\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWest\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call (09) 822 8501\" href=\"tel:098228501\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e(09) \u003cspan\u003e822 8501\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan\u003e or \u003ca href=\"Tel:08001331313\" title=\"0800 133 1313\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 133 1313\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eRodney\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call (09) 427 0360\" href=\"tel:094270360\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e(09) 427 0360\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cspan\u003e or \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 432 523\" href=\"Tel:0800432523\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 432 523\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eEast \u0026amp; South\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 775 222\" href=\"tel:0800775222\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 775 222\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 106.141px;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWaikato\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 234.797px;\"\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 505 050\" href=\"tel:0800505050\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 505 050\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 341.062px;\"\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 505 050\" href=\"tel:0800505050\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 505 050\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 106.141px;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBay of Plenty\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 234.797px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eTauranga\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 800 508\" href=\"tel:0800800508\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 800 508\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhakatāne\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 774 545\" href=\"tel:0800774545\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 77 45 45\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 341.062px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eTauranga\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 800 508\" href=\"tel:0800800508\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 800 508\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhakatāne\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 774 545\" href=\"tel:0800774545\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 77 45 45\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 106.141px;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTairāwhiti\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 234.797px;\"\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 243 500\" href=\"tel:0800243500\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 243 500\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 341.062px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 243 500\" href=\"tel:0800243500\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 243 500\u003c\/a\u003e \u003cbr\u003eor after 10pm call \u003ca title=\"call (06) 869 0512\" href=\"tel:068690512\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e(06) 869 0512\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 106.141px;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eHawke’s Bay\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 234.797px;\"\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 112 334\" href=\"tel:0800112334\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 112 334\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 341.062px;\"\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 112 334\" href=\"tel:0800112334\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 112 334\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 106.141px;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eManawatū-Whanganui\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 234.797px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePalmerston North \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 653 357\" href=\"tel:0800653357\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 653 357\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhanganui\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 653 358\" href=\"tel:0800653358\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 653 358\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 341.062px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePalmerston North \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 653 357\" href=\"tel:0800653357\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 653 357\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhanganui\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 653 358\" href=\"tel:0800653358\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 653 358\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 106.141px;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTaranaki\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 234.797px;\"\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0508 292 467\" href=\"tel:0508292467\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0508 292 467\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 341.062px;\"\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0508 292 467\" href=\"tel:0508292467\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0508 292 467\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 106.141px;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWairarapa\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 234.797px;\"\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0508 432 432\" href=\"tel:0508432432\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0508 432 432\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 341.062px;\"\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0508 432 432\" href=\"tel:0508432432\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0508 432 432\u003c\/a\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0508 432 432\" href=\"tel:0508432432\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 106.141px;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWellington, Hutt and Kāpiti\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 234.797px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWellington, Hutt \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 745 477\" href=\"tel:0800745477\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 745 477\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 745 477\" href=\"tel:0800745477\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 341.062px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWellington, Hutt \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003ca title=\"call 0800 745 477\" href=\"tel:0800745477\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 745 477\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 106.141px;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eNelson- Marlborough\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 234.797px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eNelson region\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 776 364\" href=\"tel:0800776364\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 776 364\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMarlborough\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"0800 948 497\" 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If you or someone else is in danger or at risk of harm, \u003cstrong\u003eplease \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cb\u003ecall 111.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eFor more information and services\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eFamily Services Directory\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"www.familyservices.govt.nz\/directory\" href=\"http:\/\/www.familyservices.govt.nz\/directory\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003efamilyservices.govt.nz\/directory\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e \u003cbr\u003eTo help you find local community services to support you with all manner of issues such as parenting, special needs, family support, family violence, custody and access, child behaviour, life skills, counselling, addiction, sexual abuse, grief and loss and more\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eWellbeing support \u003ca title=\"wellbeingsupport.health.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.wellbeingsupport.health.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ewellbeingsupport.health.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFind local support services through the Access and Choice programme, which can provide people with support and guidance through challenging times\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eHealthpoint\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003ca title=\"www.healthpoint.co.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.healthpoint.co.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ehealthpoint.co.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e \u003cbr\u003eFind a health provider in your region and for your health concern. Up-to-date information about healthcare providers, referral expectations and services offered.\u003cbr\u003eSeach for kaupapa Māori health providers here \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.healthpoint.co.nz\/kaupapa-maori-7\/\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eKaupapa Māori • Healthpoint\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eJust a thought \u003ca title=\"www.justathought.co.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.justathought.co.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ejustathought.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFree online courses, resources and tools to learn about depression, anxiety and stress and improve your wellbeing\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eFor more information about mental health and supporting your wellbeing, visit the Mental Health Foundation website: \u003cbr\u003e\u003ca title=\"www.mentalhealth.org.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ementalhealth.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003eOrder our free resources here: \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/shop.mentalhealth.org.nz\" title=\"shop.mentalhealth.org.nz\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eshop.mentalhealth.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eKeep a record of your own numbers. 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A grandparent-to-be usually looks forward to a special relationship with the grandchild, but if the baby dies, that relationship is lost.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e‘She was my first grandchild,’ said one woman, ‘and I’d longed to hold her before her parents even met.’\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe death of your grandchild may revive memories of other losses in your life, but at the same time, your grief may be overlooked as the focus is mainly on the baby’s parents.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eYour child\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAs a parent, you feel pain when your child suffers. You may feel helpless because you cannot protect your child from sorrow. You may perhaps feel shut out if your child turns to someone else in grief.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eOther feelings\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eA lot of different emotions are commonly experienced as part of grief.\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAnger\u003c\/strong\u003e – may be directed at health professionals, the other side of the whānau\/family (in-laws), God, or even the baby for causing such distress.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eGuilt\u003c\/strong\u003e – may arise because you fear the baby may have inherited a problem from you, or because you had bad thoughts about the pregnancy, or because you feel your reactions and feelings are inappropriate.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eConflict \u003c\/strong\u003e– you may have been taught to ‘keep a stiff upper lip’ or ‘not to talk about these things’ and find it hard to accept or understand the way grief is approached when a baby dies today. Perhaps you have different religious beliefs, and explain things in different ways.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eThings to do when a baby dies\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIf you live close enough, go to the hospital and see the baby’s parents.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIf it is possible for you to see the baby, do so. This will be helpful to you in mourning your grandchild. It is also likely to help your child if you have shared memories of meeting the baby.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThere may be ceremonies – baptism or blessing, funeral or memorial service – and it may be helpful to attend.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIf you feel you can, offer to help with practical details that often fall to the partner – registering the baby's birth, helping to arrange the funeral. Try not to be too hurt if your offers of help are rejected.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYour child has probably been given leaflets, which you can read. They may help your grief and also give you an idea of how the baby’s parents feel and how you can help.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eAfterwards\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eContinue to visit, phone or write and provide love and support.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIt will help your child’s grief and your own if you can talk about the baby using the baby's name.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIn many cases, parents have a photo of the baby – don’t be upset if they choose to share it and display it. Perhaps in time you might like a copy.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIf you are emotionally close to your child, you can provide great comfort, but you can also cause great pain. Be careful about imposing your own views about grief on them. Comments like ‘You can have another baby’ or ‘At least you have the other children’, can be very hurtful. The baby who died was wanted for him or herself. Other children are not a replacement.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTry to accept their emotions as valid and not offer platitudes, however well intentioned they may be.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDon’t feel you have to be strong. If you want to cry, do so. Children usually value knowing that their parents care and that their baby is missed by others.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eOne mother said:\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cdiv class=\"blockquote\"\u003eWhen my child was stillborn, it was my mother’s first grandchild ... I never realised that his death would affect her so much. She had looked forward to him, and now she missed him too. I was glad that she showed her emotion – by doing that, it showed she cared and that she had loved him too.\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eLong term\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIt will take your child a long time to recover from the death of their baby – probably longer than you expect. Even when the first grief has passed, the sadness will last for years, with anniversaries and special occasions being particularly hard. Parents and whānau\/families need to learn to live with their grief because the loss will never disappear. As well as sorrow, the parents may feel anger and guilt, and they may find it difficult to be with other whānau\/families who have babies. Try not to condemn these feelings; they are part of the grieving process.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBe aware of holidays and special dates (the due date, the day the baby died, the day the baby was born) and try to remember them. Talk to your son or daughter and their partner about what they hope and need for those days, rather than make a decision or do something for them.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFuture pregnancies will be very anxious times, and a new baby may be greeted with very mixed emotions. A new baby will not replace a baby who has died but will become another whānau\/family member.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eYour own losses\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFinally, do be aware that experiencing this loss of your grandchild may remind you of other losses you have experienced in your life. For some, this may include the loss of your own baby or babies. Feelings you had at the time of your previous loss\/es may resurface. This is very common. Grief is not something that ends, or that we ‘get over’. Some say that grief comes in waves. While the loss you are remembering may have been many years ago, there are still feelings that may lap at your feet like a gentle tide and others that may swamp you like an unexpected wave. Take things gently and slowly – both for yourself and for your son or daughter and their whānau\/family.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eCode: HE2322\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":34774773465246,"sku":"HE2322","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/products\/HE2322_Sands_the_loss_of_a_grandchild.pdf.png?v=1593002050"},{"product_id":"national-telehealth-service-wallet-card","title":"National Telehealth Service wallet card - HE2522","description":"\u003cp\u003eFree 24\/7 Telehealth services for everyone in Aotearoa\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eServices include:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003ca title=\"Healthline\" href=\"http:\/\/www.healthline.govt.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eHealthline\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003ca title=\"Gambling Helpline Aotearoa\" href=\"http:\/\/www.gamblinghelpline.co.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eGambling Helpline\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003ca title=\"Quitline Me Mutu\" href=\"http:\/\/www.quit.org.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eQuitline\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003ca title=\"Alcohol Drug Helpline\" href=\"http:\/\/www.alcoholdrughelp.org.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eAlcohol and Drug Helpline\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003ca title=\"Email Elder Abuse Response Service\" href=\"mailto:support@elderabuse.co.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eElder Abuse Response Service\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.2shine.org.nz\/\"\u003eMaking Homes Violence Free in New Zealand - Shine (2shine.org.nz)\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003ca title=\"1737 free call or text\" href=\"http:\/\/www.1737.org.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e1737, need to talk?\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003ca title=\"Safe to talk\" href=\"http:\/\/safettotalk.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eSafe to talk\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003ca title=\"National Poisons Centre\" href=\"http:\/\/www.poisons.co.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eNZ National Poisons Centre\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003ca href=\"Tel:0800111213\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Call 0800 112 113\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"\u003eDisability Helpline\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.depression.org.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Depression Helpline\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"\u003eDepression Helpline\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":34774803808414,"sku":"HE2522","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/files\/HE2522thumbnail1.png?v=1703199529"},{"product_id":"the-next-few-days","title":"The Next Few Days - HE2318","description":"\u003cp\u003eWe are so sorry that you are needing to read this leaflet. The death of a baby is a devastating experience, often with lifelong impacts.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eMaking decisions\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhen a baby dies, it can be difficult to think clearly, yet you are faced with many difficult and painful decisions. Because you are grieving for your baby, other people may offer to make these decisions for you. Although it might feel impossible, try to be involved in as many ways as you can be. The next few days provide an important opportunity for you to build memories of your baby. This leaflet contains some ideas shared by other bereaved parents. We want you to know that you are not alone.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eOne of the most important things is not to hurry. There is no need for anything to be rushed. You now have a limited time with your baby and a limited time to create memories for yourself and your whānau\/family – memories that will be important in the weeks, months and years to come.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eNaming your baby\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eGiving your baby a name can be helpful to you and may also help those around you to identify with your baby. No matter how many weeks into your pregnancy you are, your baby is already part of your life. Some names are suitable even if you do not know whether your baby is a boy or girl. \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eMaking loving memories\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWe never expect our baby to die. We expect to build a lifetime of memories. It is important to spend time planning the memories you can now make even though everything has changed.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePerhaps you can make a list to give to your support person so that people will know exactly what you want and expect. Although you may be feeling powerless, your support person can ensure that your wishes are met. Your wishes are the most important.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou may wish to:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ebath or sponge your baby with very salty water (a natural preservative)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003espend time with your baby at home\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eunwrap your baby and look at him\/her (parents have commented that they didn’t see their baby naked and wish they had).\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003ePhotos\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWe advise you take lots of photos of your baby. Some may be for sharing, others just for yourself. We suggest photos of your baby both undressed and dressed, and close ups of your baby’s face, hands and feet. If your baby has visible abnormalities, consider including these in some photos – they can often answer questions that arise later. Have photos taken of you holding your baby. Maybe you would like some photos of other whānau\/family members with your baby. In some locations professional photographers will come into the hospital and take photos for you free of charge. Ask hospital staff about this. You may not want to see the photos right now, but they can become important tangible memories in the future.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eAutopsy\/Post-mortem\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAn autopsy and\/or tests may help to provide answers as to why your baby died. The hospital staff will have information about this. In many instances an autopsy or post-mortem may be recommended, but it is not a legal requirement. Making the choice can be very difficult, and it is helpful to talk about it with your midwife, hospital staff or the pathologist (if possible) if you are unsure. If you give permission for an autopsy to be performed on your baby, you are also giving permission to have clinical photos taken.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eOther keepsakes\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMany parents collect footprints or handprints from their baby, or you may like to trace around them. In some locations, professional casters will come into the hospital and make hand and foot molds for you free of charge. You may also like to have a record of your baby’s weight and length, and to keep a lock of hair, cot cards, birth cards, and your baby’s blanket or clothing. All of these can become important keepsakes of the time you have with your baby. You may also wish to take your baby to a special place that has significance for you (like the beach). You are able to do this, but do be aware of the appropriateness of where you take your baby and other people’s reactions to seeing a deceased baby.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eTransporting your baby\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou are able to transport your baby by car. The baby should be secured in a babyseat,\u003cbr\u003ebassinette or casket. You need a form called the Transfer of Charge of Body form (BDM 39) with you at all times in case there is an accident or you are stopped by the police.\u003cbr\u003eSee the \u003ca href=\"\/products\/transporting-your-baby-guidelines-for-parents-family-and-whanau\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Transporting your Baby\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"\u003eSands leaflet ‘Transporting Your Baby: Guidelines for Parents, Family and Whānau'\u003c\/a\u003e in this pack.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eBlessing\/Naming\/Baptism ceremony\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou may wish to have your baby blessed or baptised or to hold a naming ceremony. Your baby can be blessed and named by your own minister, a hospital chaplain, yourselves or a friend or whānau\/family member. You could choose to hold this blessing either at the same time as the funeral service or in a separate ceremony. You may wish to hold a small ceremony at home.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you are reading this because your baby is only expected to live for a short time, you may like to talk to someone about this. You could ask your support person or midwife to contact the minister or chaplain or talk to your whānau\/family.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eFuneral\/Ceremony\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThere are many possibilities and legalities for funerals\/ceremonies. Your Sands contact\u003cbr\u003eperson can be very helpful in this situation because they can often discuss some options with you. Ministers and funeral directors can also help you. In some cases, your midwife or another hospital support person may be able to assist you with some options. It is important for you to do what you feel comfortable with. (See \u003ca href=\"\/products\/your-babys-funeral\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Your Baby's Funeral\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"\u003ethe Sands leaflet, Your Baby’s Funeral\u003c\/a\u003e in this pack).\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eAcknowledging your baby’s birth\/death\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou might like to acknowledge the birth of your baby by placing a notice in the births\u003cbr\u003eand\/or deaths page in your local newspaper and\/or on social media. If you choose to have a private funeral, you may wish to wait until afterwards before posting a notice. The value of this acknowledgement is that:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eyou are acknowledging that the birth of this baby is important to your whānau\/family\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eit may be a slightly easier way to let the community know that your baby has been born and has died.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eRegistering the birth and\/or death\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou are required to register the birth of your baby if:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eyour baby was born alive\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eyour baby was born after the 20th week of pregnancy\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eyour baby weighed 400 grams or more when born.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDeath must be registered within three working days of burial\/cremation if your baby has lived, even if for only a short time outside the womb. Registering the death is usually taken care of by the funeral director, but you can choose to do this yourself if you wish.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf your baby lived (maybe for a few hours or for a few days or weeks) the word deceased will appear on the birth certificate. This is to prevent any possibility of identify theft. It is not possible to receive a birth certificate for your baby without the word ‘deceased’ on it. If your baby was stillborn – the word 'stillborn' appears on the birth certificate.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eMilk suppression\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eOne of the difficult things for a bereaved mother to cope with emotionally and physically at this time is the body’s natural process of producing milk. It seems so cruel that you haven’t got a live baby, yet your body carries on as if you have. Your breasts may start to produce milk from 13 weeks’ gestation. The amount of physical discomfort will vary for each individual. Fresh cold cabbage leaves inside a firm bra or binder is the most common way to suppress lactation, combined with a painkiller to reduce the discomfort. Doctors can also prescribe tablets to prevent lactation. These are effective for some women, but many find that this simply delays milk production, which can prolong the body’s natural process. Ask your midwife about the medication and\/or natural alternatives.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eFollow-up appointment\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn most cases, you will need a follow-up appointment (often with a consultant, specialist or your doctor), this is important for several reasons:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYou may need a physical check-up.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYou may be waiting for test and\/or autopsy results.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThere may be things that you wish to discuss about events surrounding your baby's birth and\/or death. You may have questions that you would like answered. It helps to write down any questions that you have as they come to mind and take these with you. Often when you get to the appointment, you are quite stressed and it is very difficult to recall everything.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe days leading up to a follow-up appointment can also be very stressful. This can be the time that you build yourself up in the hope that there will be some medical reason or answer to the question ‘Why did my baby die?’. Sadly, in a lot of cases there is no reason found for the death of a baby. This can be extremely difficult to understand and accept. It is important not to go to this appointment alone. Take your partner or another support person with you. The follow-up appointment is usually made before you leave the hospital. It is a good idea to phone the day before this appointment to confirm that your test results are back.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eIt is never too late to make some memories\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWrite a letter or poem to or about your baby.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePrepare a whānau\/family tree that includes your baby.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKeep a journal to record your thoughts and feelings about your baby.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHold a memorial service or blessing – a year, or even 20 or 30 years later.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePlant a tree of remembrance – perhaps one that flowers around the anniversary of your baby’s birth.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDesign a memorial to place on your baby’s grave or in another special place.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMake a photo frame, a memory box or a ceramic tile.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAdopt a star.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSee the Sands NZ website for more ideas about memory making - \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.sands.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"www.sands.org.nz\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"\u003ewww.sands.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSee the government website \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/wheturangitia.services.govt.nz\/\" title=\"Whetūrangitia\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eWhetūrangitia\u003c\/a\u003e for more helpful information.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eCode: HE2318\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":34774836084894,"sku":"HE2318","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/products\/HE2318_Sands_the_next_few_days.pdf.png?v=1593002354"},{"product_id":"personal-safety-plan","title":"Personal safety plan - HE2547","description":"\u003ch5\u003eNOTE: To order this free resource, please visit the Mental Health Foundation's \u003ca rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" href=\"https:\/\/shop.mentalhealth.org.nz\/product\/425-having-suicidal-thoughts\" title=\"Mental Health Foundation resources\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eonline shop\u003c\/a\u003e.\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDeep down you will know how to help yourself.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMichalea, aged 34\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eMy own survival plan\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eIt can help to make your own plan for what to do when things feel really bad.\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTry to find a time when you’re feeling calm to make your plan. You could ask a friend or a health professional to help you write it.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWrite your own answers to each question. Be really honest with yourself about what you need and what works for you. There are some examples on each page to help you think of different ideas.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFor more information, please see the booklet \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/shop.mentalhealth.org.nz\/product\/562-having-suicidal-thoughts\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Having suicidal thoughts and finding a way back\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003eHaving suicidal thoughts and finding a way back\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth.org.nz\/suicide-prevention\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Mental Health Foundation - Suicide prevention\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003eSuicide Prevention | Mental Health Foundation\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eNoticing what’s going on\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWithdrawing from whānau and friends\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFeeling like a burden\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFeeling like I can't cope\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLosing interest in things I usually enjoy\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDrinking to cope with difficult thoughts and feelings\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGetting into arguments\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFeeling like I don't deserve help\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSleeping a lot more than usual, or not getting enough sleep\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eHow do my thoughts, moods or behaviours change when things get really bad?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eWhat are my warning signs that tell me I should take action?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eMy reasons to live\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMy religion or spirituality\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMy pets\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMy children or mokopuna\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThings I haven't done yet, that I'm looking forward to\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMy job or volunteer work\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSomething I believe in\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSomeone I love\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMy whānau or friends\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eWhen I’m feeling bad, what are the things I can remember that are worth living for?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eKeeping safe\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGet someone to stay with me\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGive my car keys to a friend\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAvoid people who hurt or upset me\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGet rid of things I might use to hurt myself – throw them away, lock them up or give them to friends\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eHow can I make my environment safer, or take myself out of unsafe situations?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eWhat I can do by myself\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWaiata alone if I can’t face being with anyone\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWrite down how I am feeling\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePlay with a pet\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDo some exercise\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePractice breathing exercises or meditation\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHave a coffee\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWatch a movie\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDo some gardening\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTake a shower or bath\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTreat myself to a small thing I usually enjoy\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGo for a walk\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eListen to music\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eHow can I distract myself from these thoughts?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eWhat are some things I’ll be able to do even when I’m feeling really low?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eWho can I connect with?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHang out in a public place, like a café, library or a busy park\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCall, text, message, or go and visit a friend\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSpend time with my whānau\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFind a support group or community centre\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eWho can I be around that will help lift my mood?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eWhere can I go to connect with other people?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMake a list of supportive people you can talk to and their contact details.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you’re working with a doctor, counsellor or peer support worker, write their details here too.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you don’t know who you can talk to, contact a free helpline (details are below).\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eWho can I call or visit? What are their contact details?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eP.S Take a picture of this on your phone.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eThe following services offer free support 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.\u003c\/strong\u003e They can also connect you to other places and people that can help.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNeed to talk?\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ca href=\"Tel:1737\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"1737\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003eFree call\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca href=\"SMS:1737\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"1737\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003etext 1737\u003c\/a\u003e to talk to a trained counsellor, any time\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eLifeline\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ca href=\"Tel:0800543354\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"0800 543 354\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003e0800 543 354\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ca href=\"SMS:4357\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"4357\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003eFree text\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan style=\"font-size: 0.875rem;\"\u003e\u003ca href=\"SMS:4357\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"4357\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003e 4357\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor counselling and support\u003c\/span\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eSamaritans\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ca href=\"Tel:0800726666\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"0800 726 666\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003e0800 726 666\u003c\/a\u003e for someone who will listen\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eDepression Helpline\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ca href=\"Tel:0800111757\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"0800 111 757\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003e0800 111 757\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ca href=\"SMS:4202\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"4202\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003eFree text 4202\u003c\/a\u003e \u003cbr\u003eTo talk to a trained counsellor\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eYouthline\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ca href=\"Tel:0800376633\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"0800 376 633\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003e0800 376 633\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ca href=\"SMS:234\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"234\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003eFree text 234\u003c\/a\u003e or email \u003ca href=\"mailto:talk@youthline.co.nz\"\u003etalk@youthline.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor youth, whānau and friends\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eVisit \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth.org.nz\/safety-plan\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Safety plan\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003eSafety Plan | Mental Health Foundation\u003c\/a\u003e to see our range of safety plans, including the Manawa app, and tips on how to support someone using a safety plan.\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":34774846341278,"sku":"HE2547","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/products\/HE2547_Personal_Safety_Plan.pdf.png?v=1593002406"},{"product_id":"sands-support-pack-information-for-when-your-baby-dies","title":"Sands Support Pack: Information for When Your Baby Dies - HE2324","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eSands\u003c\/strong\u003e is a parent-run nationwide group supporting whānau\/families who have experienced the death of a baby.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMost of our members are also bereaved parents. We promote awareness, as well as providing information and support for those dealing with the death of a baby during pregnancy, at birth, as a newborn or into infancy. We are non-judgemental and provide support under any circumstances. Your local Sands group may offer the following forms of support: support group meetings, telephone support, one to one visits and provide resources and information. Sands groups may also provide support and memory making items through the hospitals. We extend our sincere sympathy to you at this very sad time and invite you to make contact with us if you wish.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFor local and national contact details or to request this resource, visit our website at \u003ca data-mce-fragment=\"1\" href=\"https:\/\/www.sands.org.nz\/\"\u003eSands New Zealand - Pregnancy, Baby and Infant Loss Support, New Zealand\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003e\u003ca href=\"\/products\/the-next-few-days\" title=\"The next few days\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eThe next few days\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"\/products\/your-babys-funeral\" title=\"Your baby's funeral\"\u003eYour baby's funeral\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/healthed.govt.nz\/products\/fathers-partners-grieve-too-he2320\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Fathers\/partners grieve too\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003eFathers\/partners grieve too\u003c\/a\u003e\u003ca href=\"\/products\/your-babys-funeral\" title=\"Your baby's funeral\"\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"\/products\/when-a-baby-brother-or-sister-dies\" title=\"When a baby brother or sister dies\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eWhen a baby brother or sister dies\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"\/products\/the-loss-of-a-grandchild\" title=\"The loss of a grandchild\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eThe loss of a grandchild\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" title=\"Transporting your baby\" href=\"\/products\/transporting-your-baby-guidelines-for-parents-family-and-whanau\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eTransporting your baby\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":34774874882206,"sku":"HE2324","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/products\/HE2324_0.jpg?v=1593002547"},{"product_id":"there-is-a-way-through","title":"There is a way through: A guide for people experiencing stress, depression and anxiety - HE2570","description":"\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHurihia tō mata ki te rā kia taka te ātārangi ki muri i a koe.\u003cbr\u003eTurn your face to the sun and the shadows will fall behind you.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eThere is hope\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThroughout New Zealand, right at this moment, there are other people like you who have lots of stress, low mood, depression or anxiety; every year one in five people will experience depression, anxiety or both.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou are not alone. Many people have been where you are and have made it through. There is help. There is hope.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"I was lucky enough to be around other people who had survived being really down or living with big fears. I would look at them and think, ‘Well, you’re OK. You’re living your life’, and that gave me hope.”\u003cbr\u003eTania\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eAbout this booklet\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis booklet lets you know how to recognise depression and anxiety, how to help yourself and how to get help from others. There is also a section for whānau and friends.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDepression and anxiety can impact just about every part of our lives.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis booklet uses a Māori framework for wellbeing called Te Whare Tapa Whā (the four walls of the house) to address all these impacts: Te Taha Hinengaro (mental); Te Taha Tinana (physical); Te Taha Whānau (social); and Te Taha Wairua (spiritual).\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cimg alt=\"\" class=\"resource-image caption\" height=\"413\" src=\"https:\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/products\/HE2570_20image1.JPG?v=1593002764\" width=\"827\"\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eHow can I tell if I have depression or anxiety?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eEveryone goes through times of stress, fear, worry and feeling down. But when those feelings get really bad or go on for a long time, you may have depression or anxiety.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt’s common to experience both depression and anxiety at the same time.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf your main problem is feeling really down or losing interest in things that you usually enjoy, we call it \u003cstrong\u003edepression\u003c\/strong\u003e.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf your main problem is panic, being on edge and worrying, we call it \u003cstrong\u003eanxiety\u003c\/strong\u003e.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003e\u003ca id=\"title1\"\u003eKey signs to look out for\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDepression and anxiety can show up in all parts of your life.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThese experiences can be overwhelming and frightening. However, there are ways through them.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eTINANA (PHYSICAL)\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFeeling tired and lacking energy.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSleeping too much or too little.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eEating too much or too little.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMoving or speaking more slowly or more quickly than usual.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTrouble relaxing.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRacing heart, chest pains, sweating and breathlessness.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eHINENGARO (MENTAL)\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDifficulty thinking and concentrating.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLosing interest in things you used to enjoy.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWorrying that awful things will happen.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFeeling sad and hopeless.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFeeling whakamā, shame or a failure.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFeeling nervous or anxious a lot.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFeeling like ending your life or harming yourself.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eWHĀNAU (SOCIAL)\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLosing interest in whānau and friends and avoiding contact with them.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFeeling like other people don’t understand.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFeeling empty and lonely.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWanting to be left alone.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGetting irritated or hōhā with others.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eWAIRUA (SPIRITUAL)\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFeeling there is no purpose to life.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFeeling numb and disconnected.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFeeling cut off from your tīpuna or spiritual sources of meaning.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHaving bad dreams.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eWhy is this happening to me?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eHongihongi te wheiwheia.\u003cbr\u003eKnow and understand those unseen things that can cause worry, anxiety and fear.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you have depression, anxiety or both, you’re not alone. But it’s natural to wonder, why me?\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMany things contribute to depression and anxiety – sometimes there is no clear reason at all.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eYour past\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBad things happening, especially early in life, can increase your chances of depression and anxiety later on:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDifficult childhood experiences, like abuse, neglect or family violence.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTraumatic events at any time of life.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFamily history of depression or anxiety.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFamily history of trauma.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eMajor life changes\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWe all go through major changes throughout life where we need to adjust to new roles and situations. These changes, even when they are positive, can bring about depression and anxiety:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBecoming an independent adult.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBecoming a parent.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eComing out about your sexual or gender identity.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRedundancy or retirement.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eA relationship break-up.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe death of someone close to you.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDisability, illness and ageing.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eLife stresses\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eLife throws up all sorts of stresses that can lead to depression and anxiety, such as:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eConflicts with your whānau or friends.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMoney problems.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRelationship and\/or sex problems.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAccidents and natural disasters.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eProblems with work or school.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBullying and harassment.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"I had low self-esteem at a young age. Anxiety. Panic attacks. And then not finding out until almost five years old that I actually had a hearing disability, and it wasn’t that I was a problem child.”\u003cbr\u003eVesna\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eWhat I can do to help myself\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eEven when it seems you can’t control your feelings, you can control what you do. Just taking a small first step is enough to get you on the path to enjoying life again.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eFirst, talk to someone you trust\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eReach out to someone you trust – kōrero with a friend, a whānau member, a workmate, someone at church, an elder or a health professional. They can just listen and be there for you. They may also give you advice and information, as well as practical support.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePeer support is the sharing of experiences to help one another. Trained peer support workers use their personal mental health journeys to help others facing similar challenges.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eGo to \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.depression.org.nz\/seeking-support\/\"\u003eSeeking support | Depression and Anxiety | Welcome to a Brand New Day\u003c\/a\u003e to find out more.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"My father said only weak people seek help. But I knew I needed help. Now, how I stay well is by ringing friends and family.”\u003cbr\u003eGillian\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eTe taha hinengaro – look after your mental wellbeing\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMany people find these approaches helpful:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGet back into your daily routine, by doing little things like showering, cooking or housework.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRelax through yoga, meditation or mindfulness.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDo a gratitude journal for five minutes every day where you list all the things you are thankful for in your life.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePostpone major life decisions until you’re feeling better.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"Writing down my thoughts greatly reduces my anxiety. One thought would lead to another thought and that’s why I got anxious. As long as I can do a reality check and know that everything is okay, then I can get through my anxiety.”\u003cbr\u003eKate\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eTe taha tinana – look after your physical wellbeing\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThere are lots of ways you can look after your physical wellbeing:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGet up at the same time every day - having a daily routine can make all the difference.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhat makes you feel energised? Try listening to loud music, taking a cold shower, eating something spicy.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhat makes you feel calm? Try making a hot drink, taking a warm bath, dimming the lights.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTake notice of what you’re eating. Food can be comforting in hard times. Being aware of what you are eating and how it makes you feel can help you find balance. \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"I can’t wait to go have some exercise to know how good I’ll feel afterwards.”\u003cbr\u003eVesna\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eTe taha whānau – spend time with other people\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eConnecting with people can help you feel better faster. Sometimes it helps to plan your social contacts ahead of time, and to go even if you don’t feel like it on the day:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMeet up with a friend for a coffee.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHelp out at the local community centre or marae.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eJoin a local group or a club.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGo to family or whānau birthdays, anniversaries and get-togethers.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSpend more time with the children and mokopuna.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eJoin an online forum or chat group.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"What helps the most are people who accept it, listen to me and support me. My partner and family, who are always there for me, no matter what. They give me hope and push me to keep fighting.”\u003cbr\u003eAngela\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eTe taha wairua – reconnect with your purpose\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eEveryone needs meaning and purpose in life, to connect with their wairua or their spiritual source:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDo things that make you feel connected such as meditation, enjoying the sunset or listening to music.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eOpen yourself to inspirational readings, stories or videos.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSpend time in your tūrangawaewae or the place you belong and feel safe in.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTalk to a spiritual adviser, such as a priest or a tohunga.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"The whānau better understood what was happening for me than I knew myself, and they guided me through a process of kaupapa Māori healing. Mostly, reconnecting me with my whenua, my moana, my maunga and my marae, and guiding me through tikanga and matters of wairuatanga.”\u003cbr\u003eTania\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eProfessionals who can support me\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eIt can be tough dealing with the way you feel, so it’s a good idea to call in someone to help.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eThere are many different kinds of mental health professionals. Each kind takes a different approach. Take time to think about which one feels right for you. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. If you are:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003efinding it hard to cope\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eunable to do the things you need to in life\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003ehaving thoughts of wanting to hurt yourself\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ereach out for support from someone trained to help with mental health.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eWhere to start\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eA good place to start is your General Practitioner. You can also choose to go straight to see a counsellor, psychologist or other type of talking therapist without a referral from your GP. There is usually a cost involved with this.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYour doctor will ask you about how you have been feeling and then talk with you about what might be the best treatment – usually talking therapy, medication or a combination of both.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThey may also help you try out some self-care strategies and check in with how you are feeling.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eSuggestions for your visit\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThere are things you can do to get the best out of your visit to a health professional:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhen you make an appointment with your doctor, ask for extra time to talk because the usual 15 minutes may not be enough.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAsk a friend or whānau member to come with you as a support person. If you want to, you can ask your support person to talk about what they have noticed.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWrite down any signs or symptoms you have been experiencing – \u003ca href=\"#title1\"\u003ethese lists\u003c\/a\u003e can help you.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWrite down the things you’ve tried that have helped and not helped.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIf your current treatment doesn't seem to be working, you can ask to try another approach.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFinding the right treatment or programme might take time. It’s okay to look for another professional if the current one isn’t suiting your needs.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"My cousin, he gave me that kick, gave me that shove that I needed to talk to a professional person. I went and talked to a counsellor, and that was my turning point.”\u003cbr\u003ePaul\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eTalking therapies\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTalking therapies involve talking to a specially trained mental health professional, usually for several or more sessions, about the challenges in your life. Together with your therapist, you’ll explore what works for you. Sessions can be individual or group-based depending on what you prefer.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTalking therapies can include counselling and psychotherapy. There are many different\u003cbr\u003emethods of doing talking therapy such as cognitive behavioural therapy. Your therapist will help you decide which method will work for you.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"I did a combination of group therapy and individual therapy. The group therapy was awesome for the fact that it made me realise I’m not alone.”\u003cbr\u003eGillian\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eMedications\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYour doctor may suggest medication for depression or anxiety. It usually works best in combination with talking therapy.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYour doctor should explain to you:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhat experiences the medication should help with.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHow long it will take for the medication to work.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHow long you may need to take it.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePossible side effects and how to manage them.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHow to stop taking the medication safely.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMedication for depression and anxiety often takes a few weeks to work. People sometimes have to try a few medications before they find one that works for them.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAll medications can have side-effects so let your doctor know if side-effects are bothering you.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSome medications have serious withdrawal effects if you go off them too quickly, so it is important to tell your doctor if you want to stop.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"Medication formed one piece of my recovery journey. In the past, I’d expect medication to make me happy. Whereas this time around I expected it to be part of my support kit. It helped me to be able to think clearer, to understand what was going on and to do the work with my counsellor.”\u003cbr\u003eHannah\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eComplementary and alternative treatments\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eComplementary or alternative treatments can be used alongside or as alternatives to medical treatments. While there is a lack of clinical evidence for some of these treatments, many people find acupuncture, massage or meditation work well for them.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you are considering supplements, and are taking other medication, ensure you talk to your doctor or pharmacist first, for safety reasons.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/healthify.nz\/medicines-a-z\/c\/complementary-and-alternative-medicine\/\"\u003eComplementary and alternative medicine | Healthify\u003c\/a\u003e has more information about the effectiveness of complementary and alternative treatments.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eTraditional Māori healing\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTohunga and other Māori healers provide rongoā Māori healing that offers:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMirimiri (massage).\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKarakia (prayers and chants).\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRākau rongoā (native flora herbal preparations).\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhitiwhiti kōrero (cultural support).\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"I had to first connect with the wairua, through karakia, waiata, and also regular visits to the awa. The main thing I had to do was kōrero, talk and unload.”\u003cbr\u003eJamie\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eHow much will it cost?\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eFamily doctor\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe cost of a visit to a family doctor varies. You may be asked to pay less if you have a Community Services Card.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eMedications\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eMost medications for anxiety and depression cost five dollars per prescription.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eTalking therapies\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eTalking therapy often costs, but there are ways to get it for free:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003eWellbeing Support provides information on how to access free mental health and\u003cbr\u003eaddiction support through general practices, kaupapa Māori, Pacific-led and youth services. These services are free and are for anyone whose thoughts, feelings or behaviours are affecting their wellbeing.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eYou can check if your general practice has this service or find a cultural or youth service near you at \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.wellbeingsupport.health.nz\/\"\u003eHome | Find wellbeing support | Te Whatu Ora – Health NZ\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003eWorkplaces often have employee assistance programmes where you can get free,\u003cbr\u003econfidential counselling for problems or stresses.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003eThe Accident Compensation Corporation can also fund counselling for people who have experienced sexual abuse or an accident.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eOnline tools I can use\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eIt might take time for the positive feelings to return, but keep at it. Things will get better.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eThese websites and tools have been developed in Aotearoa. They provide safe, up-to-date information and strategies.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003edepression.org.nz\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/depression.org.nz\/\" title=\"Depression.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003c\/a\u003eThe \u003ca style=\"font-size: 0.875rem;\" href=\"http:\/\/depression.org.nz\/\" title=\"Depression.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003edepression.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan style=\"font-size: 0.875rem;\"\u003e website provides information, validation, self-tests and practical advice for navigating depression and anxiety.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eTheir advice can help you get ready to reach out for support.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eOnline tools for young people\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/thelowdown.co.nz\/\" title=\"The Lowdown\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ethelowdown.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e – a space created with rangatahi, for rangatahi. Find support here for your hauora, identity, culture and mental health.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/sparx.org.nz\/\"\u003esparx.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e – an online game that will teach you skills to deal with what you are going through.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\n\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.headstrong.org.nz\/\" title=\"Headstrong | A wellbeing app\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eheadstrong.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e – The Headstrong app offers quick, interactive activities led by a\u003cbr\u003evirtual guide to help teens build resilience to navigate the challenges of life. It teaches skills to support mental wellbeing and hauora and provides tips on how to manage alcohol use and vaping.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eHelplines I can call or text\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eThere are many free phone, text and online chat services with health professionals and support workers trained to help with mental health. \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eWhether you need advice for yourself or someone else, these free 24\/7 services are here\u003cbr\u003eto help.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eGeneral helpline support\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003e1737, need to talk?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eOpen 24\/7\u003cbr\u003ePhone or text: \u003ca href=\"SMS:1737\" title=\"txt 1737\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e1737\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"body-copy\"\u003e1737 Peer Support\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eWhen you phone \u003ca href=\"Tel:1737\" title=\"call 1737\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e1737\u003c\/a\u003e you now have the option to talk to someone with lived experience of wairangi\/mental distress.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eLifeline\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eOpen 24\/7\u003cbr\u003ePhone: \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800543354\" title=\"0800 543 354\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 543 354\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eText: \u003ca href=\"SMS:4357\" title=\"txt 4357\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e4357\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eHelpline support for children and young people\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eYouthline\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eOpen 24\/7 for young people, and their parents, whānau and friends.\u003cbr\u003ePhone: \u003ca title=\"call 0800 376 633\" href=\"Tel:0800376633\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 376 633\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eText: \u003ca title=\"txt 234\" href=\"SMS:234\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e234\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWebchat: \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/youthline.co.nz\/\"\u003eyouthline.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eEmail: \u003ca href=\"mailto:talk@youthline.co.nz\"\u003etalk@youthline.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\"I rang the helpline when I was feeling suicidal. Somehow it felt safe to talk about it to a stranger who wasn’t in the same room but who you knew was a trained counsellor. The helpline person was amazing. She listened with compassion and guided me though what I needed to do to keep myself safe.”\u003cbr\u003eMaria\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eSupport and counselling for specific issues\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eAlcohol Drug Helpline\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eOpen 24\/7 for people dealing with alcohol or other drug problems.\u003cbr\u003ePhone: \u003ca title=\"call 0800 787 797\" href=\"Tel:0800787797\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 787 797\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eText: \u003ca title=\"txt 8681\" href=\"SMS:8681\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e8681\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWebchat: \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/alcoholdrughelp.org.nz\/\"\u003ealcoholdrughelp.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eGambling Helpline\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eOpen 24\/7 for people dealing with problem gambling.\u003cbr\u003ePhone: \u003ca title=\"call 0800 654 655\" href=\"Tel:0800654655\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 654 655\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eText: \u003ca title=\"txt 8006\" href=\"SMS:8006\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e8006\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eOUTLine\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eFor sexuality or gender identity issues.\u003cbr\u003ePhone:\u003ca title=\"call  0800 688 5463\" href=\"Tel:%2008006885463\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e 0800 688 5463\u003c\/a\u003e (10am to 9pm weekdays, 6pm to 9pm weekends)\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003ePlunketLine\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eOpen 24\/7 for new parents, including mothers experiencing post-natal depression.\u003cbr\u003ePhone: \u003ca title=\"call 0800 933 922\" href=\"Tel:0800933922\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 933 922\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eRape Crisis\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eFor victims of rape or sexual abuse and their whānau.\u003cbr\u003ePhone: \u003ca title=\"call 0800 883 300\" href=\"Tel:0800883300\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 883 300\u003c\/a\u003e (hours vary depending on area – see \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/rapecrisisnz.org.nz\/\"\u003erapecrisisnz.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e for more details)\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eRASNZ Refugee Health and Wellbeing\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eFor refugees and asylum seekers.\u003cbr\u003ePhone: \u003ca title=\"call 0800 472 769\" href=\"Tel:0800472769\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 472 769\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca title=\"call 021 838370\" href=\"Tel:021838370\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e021 838370\u003c\/a\u003e (9am to 4pm Monday to Friday)\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eRural Support Trust\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eFor people in rural communities dealing with financial or personal challenges.\u003cbr\u003ePhone: \u003ca title=\"0800 787 254\" href=\"Tel:0800787254\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 787 254\u003c\/a\u003e (hours vary depending on area – this is not a crisis line.)\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eShakti Crisis Line\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eOpen 24\/7 for migrant or refugee women living with family violence.\u003cbr\u003ePhone: \u003ca title=\"call 0800 742 584\" href=\"Tel:0800742584\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 742 584\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eWomen’s Refuge Crisis Line\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eOpen 24\/7 for women living with domestic violence or fear of it.\u003cbr\u003ePhone: \u003ca title=\"call 0800 733 843\" href=\"Tel:0800733843\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 733 843\u003c\/a\u003e (to be put through to your local refuge).\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eWhat if it’s an emergency?\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eIf you need urgent help, please call 111 or go to your local hospital emergency department.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch2 class=\"level-two-heading\"\u003eHelping whānau and friends\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eMauria ko ōku painga. Waiho ko ōku wheru.\u003cbr\u003eHighlight my strengths. Ignore my weaknesses.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eSometimes it’s easy to tell when someone isn’t their usual self, but it’s a lot harder to know how to help, or even how to raise the issue with them. Don’t be afraid to start the conversation. Say you have noticed some changes lately and ask them if they’re OK.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eThere are many ways you can make a difference. The most important thing is to ask what they need. Don’t make assumptions. Listen with open ears. Be patient and hold hope for them:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003eLearn about depression and anxiety especially if you haven’t experienced it yourself.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003eDo things together and keep the person involved.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003eGive practical support, like cooking a meal or looking after the children.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003eGo through the self-help options in this booklet with them.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003eOffer to go with them to see their health professional.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eIf the person talks about wanting to die\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eIf the person talks to you about wanting to die, always take them seriously but don’t panic. These feelings are common in people with anxiety or depression. It is good for people to open up about them to someone who cares and doesn’t get alarmed. If the feelings of wanting to die persist, the person may need extra support from a health professional.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003ePeople are at more risk if:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003ethey have tried to take their own life before\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003esomeone close to them has taken their own life\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003ethey are overwhelmed with hopelessness or panic\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003ethey believe others would be better off if they were dead\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli class=\"body-copy\"\u003ethey have access to the means, such as firearms.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eIf the person starts to talk about how, when or where they want to take their own lives, or if they look as though they are making preparations for death, you need to act urgently. Discuss the additional support they need, such as support from a close family member, a doctor, or the mental health crisis team.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 class=\"level-four-heading\"\u003eIf you think they are at immediate risk, either call 111 or take them to the hospital emergency department.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3 class=\"level-three-heading\"\u003eGetting support for you\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eMake sure you get support for yourself when you are supporting someone else, as it can take a lot out of you.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003eVisit \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"Supporting someone | Depression.org.nz\" href=\"https:\/\/www.depression.org.nz\/seeking-support\/supporting-someone\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eSupporting someone | Depression and Anxiety | Welcome to a Brand New Day\u003c\/a\u003e for more information.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp class=\"body-copy\"\u003e\"One of the most helpful things has been our determination to get through my daughter’s depression as a family. We spend a lot of time talking to each other and supporting each other. This has meant that we have never given up hope. The family has stayed together as a family unit and we are strong because of it.”\u003cbr\u003eJohn\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":34774914695326,"sku":"HE2570","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/files\/HE2570Thereisawaythroughbooklet_JAN25-COVERIMAGE.jpg?v=1737595692"},{"product_id":"tihei-mauri-ora-supporting-whanau-through-suicidal-distress","title":"Tihei Mauri Ora – Supporting whānau through suicidal distress - HE2424","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eNā tō rourou, nā tāku rourou \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eKa ora ai te iwi\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003ch2\u003eHe Tapu: kia tika, kia pono, kia mārama\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTapu is the fundamental principle of life and natural law guided by boundaries of respect and safety protected by tikanga Māori and Māori law.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFrom tapu comes tikanga and from tikanga expresses the idea of kia tika, kia pono, kia mārama. Tika means to be upright, honest and correct. Pono is to believe in the sanctity of life, and Mārama is the importance of knowledge, understanding and enlightenment.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAnd it is through the application of these principles integrated into the practice and protection of tapu that we are able to make headway through difficult periods and enjoy and uphold the principles of life. Therefore whānau have a responsibility of maintaining the boundaries of tapu that protect life.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eTuia i runga\u003cbr\u003eTuia i raro\u003cbr\u003eTuia i waho\u003cbr\u003eTuia i roto\u003cbr\u003eTuia i te here tangata\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eThat it be woven above\u003cbr\u003eAs it is below\u003cbr\u003eWoven without\u003cbr\u003eAs it is within\u003cbr\u003eInterwoven within the threads of humanity\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDr Te Huirangi Waikerepuru\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003e\n\u003cem\u003e\u003cem\u003e\u003ca name=\"He%20Timatanga\" id=\"He Timatanga\" href=\"null\"\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/em\u003eHei Tīmatanga\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eOverview\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis resource is developed with whānau in mind. It is aimed at helping whānau and friends to support someone who is in crisis or distress. This resource gives you information about what to look for and how to help someone who may be feeling suicidal.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eA person who is distressed might not ask for help, but that doesn’t mean that help isn’t wanted. Most people who attempt suicide don’t want to die – they just want to stop hurting. Support and connection with whānau, friends and culture can help them to find a way through.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTo support someone who is in crisis or distress, it is important to identify the supports or tokotoko they need, and also the support that you need to be a source of strength for them. You might need to be prepared to have difficult conversations and talk about mamae (hurt, pain).\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis resource is based on a framework of He Tapu: kia tika, kia pono, kia mārama developed by Dr Te Huirangi Waikerepuru. The framework identifies six key poutoko or principles that emphasise the importance of te tapu o te tangata (the value of human life) and the individual and collective responsibility to protect tapu.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNō reira, e hoa mā, kia kaha, kia māia, kia manawanui. Keep strong, have courage, commitment and determination to support whānau and friends through difficult times.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eMihi - Acknowledgements\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe compilation of this resource has been a collaborative effort involving many people working within the area of Māori suicide prevention. We would like to acknowledge and thank everyone who gave their time, effort and support to the development of this resource.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWe would like to particularly acknowledge the contribution of project lead, \u003cstrong\u003ePania Lee \u003c\/strong\u003eNgāti Ruanui, Ngā Rauru, Ngā Ruahinerangi\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003e\n\u003ca name=\"Titiro,%20Whakarongo\" id=\"Titiro, Whakarongo\" href=\"null\"\u003e\u003c\/a\u003eTitiro, Whakarongo\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003ePay attention\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTitiro \u003c\/strong\u003eand \u003cstrong\u003ewhakarongo \u003c\/strong\u003eexpress the need to take notice, pay attention and be aware of what is going on. A person who is distressed is in a vulnerable state of mind and health. Do what you can to protect and support them.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eHe aha ngā tohu?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWhat are the signs?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf someone in your whānau shows one or more of these signs, they need your support. Pay attention to changes in their behaviour and trust your instincts. Some signs may not be obvious.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eNgā tino tohu \u003c\/strong\u003e– Critical Signs\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003etrying to kill themself\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ehurting themself e.g. cutting skin, taking an overdose\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003etelling you they want to die or kill themself\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eaccessing things they could use to hurt themself e.g. rope, gun\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eobsession with death\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eĒtahi atu tohu\u003c\/strong\u003e – Other Signs\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eisolating themself from whānau, family and friends\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eanger or rage\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003efeeling worthless, guilty or ashamed\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ehaving no hope for the future\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eabusing drugs or alcohol\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003egiving away possessions\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003enot taking their medication\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eMe māharahara ki a wai?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWho is most at risk?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSomeone in your whānau may be at higher risk if they have:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eattempted suicide before\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ebeen diagnosed with depression, bipolar disorder or another mental illness\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003elost a friend or relative to suicide\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ebeen a victim of violence, bullying or sexual abuse\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ea court case coming up\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ebeen judged or shamed\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eno connection with whānau, friends or community\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eno sense of identity\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ebeen through a major life change\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ebroken up with their partner\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003efriends or whānau members who don’t support their sexuality or identity\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cdiv class=\"blockquote\"\u003eI felt like there was no hope, no point in trying and no one cared. I felt hopeless, useless and no-one loved me. And the easiest way was to end it to stop all that pain and hurt.\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv class=\"bl-caption\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e26 year old wahine Māori\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eĀwhinatia, manaakitia, kōrero tahitia\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eTalk \u0026amp; listen with compassion\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eĀwhinatia\u003c\/strong\u003e (helping or assisting) and \u003cstrong\u003emanaakitia\u003c\/strong\u003e (showing compassion) are important qualities for \u003cstrong\u003ekōrero tahitia\u003c\/strong\u003e (listening and talking together). Give your time, words, presence and patience.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003ch4\u003eMe aha koe?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWhat do you do?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eIn a crisis:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eStay with them and keep calm\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e Let them know you care\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKeep them talking: listen and ask questions without judging\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRemove items that may harm them: medication, razor blades, knives, ropes, guns\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSupport them to access professional help (see the \u003ca href=\"\/products\/tihei-mauri-ora-supporting-whanau-through-suicidal-distress#Hei%20%C4%81whina,%20hei%20tautoko\"\u003einside back cover\u003c\/a\u003e for a list of people who can support you)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eIn an emergency call 111\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eIf you think someone is at risk\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eInvite them to talk with you\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eListen, and don’t judge\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTake them seriously\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAsk them directly about their thoughts of suicide (asking will not put the thought in their head)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAsk them what they are planning – if they have a specific plan, they need help right away\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHelp them to find and access the support they need\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eStay with them until they get help\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eOther things to know\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBe gentle and compassionate with them\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHelp them feel that there is hope of things getting better – identify things that are positive in their life\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSeek support from others, including whānau\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDo not agree to keep secrets\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLet them talk about their thoughts of suicide – avoiding the topic does not help\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eIn an emergency call 111\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cdiv class=\"blockquote\"\u003e\"…if we are more open about suicide, we’ve got a better chance of dealing with it. If it’s masked and hidden, it’s very hard to deal with.\"\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv class=\"bl-caption\"\u003e(Mason Durie, 2012)\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eMahi tahi\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eWork together\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMahi tahi\u003c\/strong\u003e expresses the value of working together to do things that promote wellness. If you’re supporting someone who is recovering after a crisis, be prepared to be there, offer support and stay involved.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eKōrero\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eCommunicate\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCreate opportunities to talk or discuss things\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDon’t avoid talking about suicide or the hard things in their life\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFind out what comforts them e.g: karakia, a safe environment, a pet\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIf they don’t want to talk with you, ask other people you both trust to support them – friends, family\/whānau members, youth workers or others\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWhakangahau\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eKeep occupied\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eEncourage and support them to do what they enjoy\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBe active together (go for a walk, go and see friends, neighbours, family)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHelp them to connect with others and get involved in the community\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGo with them to access support services\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWhakarangatira\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eValue them\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAccept them for who they are, and let them know you care\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTell them they are important\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSupport them to make plans, solve problems and achieve their dreams\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHelp them access their cultural identity (te reo Māori, marae, whakapapa)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eTe ara hauora\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWork towards wellness\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSupport them to seek treatment for any health problems\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLook at what needs to be strengthened in the person’s life to restore balance. Te Whare Tapa Whā is a way of thinking about this: each side of the wharenui needs to be strong in order to support the others. The four sides are te taha tinana (physical), te taha wairua (spiritual), te taha whānau (family) and te taha hinengaro (mental and emotional).\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eTiaki i a koe anō\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eTake care of yourself\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTiaki koe i a koe anō \u003c\/strong\u003ehighlights the need to take care of yourself when you are caring for others and the importance of connection – to yourself and with others who can support you.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eTe tiaki tūroro e ora mai ai ia\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eSupporting someone to wellness?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIt’s important for you to look after yourself\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMake sure you’re getting enough sleep, eating properly and relaxing\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBy looking after yourself you will be able to help the other person\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTake time for yourself and do the things you enjoy\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKnow that you can’t do everything and it’s okay to ask for help\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIt’s important to involve whānau and friends to support each other – don’t try to do everything yourself\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eTe māharahara ki ngā rā o anamata\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eFeeling hopeless about the future?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIt’s important for you to talk to someone\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSurround yourself with people you trust\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIt’s okay to ask for help – you don’t have to cope alone\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBe gentle on yourself\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eKei a koe tonu te rongoā\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eWhānau have solutions\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eKei a koe tonu te rongoā \u003c\/strong\u003ehighlights that there are solutions within every whānau. Learning together and strengthening whānau connections is central to healing, growing and developing the ability of whānau to look after each other.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eE taea e te whānau te mahi tahi ki te āwhina i te tūroro\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWhānau can work together to help someone in distress:\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTalk to whānau leaders and bring the whānau together\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHave a whānau hui in a safe space\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAsk the whānau member at risk to tell you what they need and what works for them\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTalk openly and honestly about the situation\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDevelop a whānau plan to work together to support the person at risk\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eMēnā ko koe e āwhina ana i tō whānau\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eIf you’re supporting your whānau\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIdentify whānau strengths, look at the issues and think about solutions\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLook for wisdom and skills within your whānau – everyone has something to offer\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIdentify services to support the whānau\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSet goals together, create a whānau plan, keep it fresh\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eEvery day is different, take one day at a time\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cdiv class=\"blockquote\"\u003e\"…we all have a role to play in whakapapa preservation and protection, to ensuring the continuity of our people. […] The revolution really does begin at home.\"\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv class=\"bl-caption\"\u003e(Keri Lawson-Te Aho, 2013)\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eKi te āwhina, ki te tautoko\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eAssistance \u0026amp; support is available for whānau\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTalk to your: \u003c\/strong\u003epartner, parent, friend, whānau or family, kaumātua, teacher, school counsellor, family doctor, community leader, or church leader.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eFind information or support from your: \u003c\/strong\u003elocal Māori health provider, Whānau Ora provider, Kia Piki te Ora coordinator, marae, hapū, iwi, kaumātua council, church, police, or mental health crisis team.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eNational Help Services\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNeed to talk? 1737 \u003ca title=\"free text 1737\" href=\"SMS:1737\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eFree text\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca title=\"call 1737\" href=\"Tel:1737\"\u003ecall 1737\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eLifeline \u003ca title=\"call 0800 543 354 (0800 LIFELINE)\" href=\"Tel:0800543354\"\u003e0800 543 354 (0800 LIFELINE)\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca title=\"free text 4357\" href=\"SMS:4357\"\u003efree text 4357\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSamaritans \u003ca title=\"call 0800 726 666\" href=\"Tel:0800726666\"\u003e0800 726 666\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDepression helpline \u003ca title=\"depression.org.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.depression.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003edepression.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e \u003ca title=\"call 0800 111 757\" href=\"Tel:0800111757\"\u003e0800 111 757\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca title=\"free text 4202\" href=\"SMS:4202\"\u003efree text 4202\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTautoko Suicide Crisis Helpline \u003ca title=\"call 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO)\" href=\"Tel:0508828865\"\u003e0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO)\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYouthline \u003ca title=\"call 0800 376 633\" href=\"Tel:0800376633\"\u003e0800 376 633\u003c\/a\u003e, \u003ca title=\"free text 234\" href=\"SMS:234\"\u003efree text 234\u003c\/a\u003e or webchat at \u003ca title=\"youthline.co.nz\" href=\"http:\/\/www.youthline.co.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eyouthline.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe Lowdown – information and support for youth \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/thelowdown.co.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ethelowdown.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHeadstrong – wellbeing app for rangatahi \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"Headstrong\" href=\"http:\/\/headstrong.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eheadstrong.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eRainbow Youth – sexuality \u0026amp; gender support for young people \u003ca title=\"www.ry.org.nz\/\" href=\"https:\/\/www.ry.org.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ery.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAlcohol and drug helpline \u003ca title=\"call 0800 787 798\" href=\"Tel:0800787798\"\u003e0800 787 798\u003c\/a\u003e for advice \u0026amp; referral to kaupapa Māori services\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eOUTLine – sexuality \u0026amp; gender \u003ca title=\"call 0800 688 5463 (0800 OUTLINE)\" href=\"Tel:08006885463\"\u003e0800 688 5463 (0800 OUTLINE)\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWomen’s Refuge \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/womensrefuge.org.nz\" title=\"womensrefuge.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ewomensrefuge.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800733843\" title=\"call 0800 733 843 (0800 REFUGE)\"\u003e0800 733 843 (0800 REFUGE)\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKaupapa Māori health and wellbeing services Find a directory of services at \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.wellbeingsupport.health.nz\/\"\u003eHome | Find wellbeing support | Te Whatu Ora – Health NZ\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTITIRO, WHAKARONGO\u003cbr\u003ePay attention\u003cbr\u003eĀWHINATIA, MANAAKITIA, KŌRERO TAHITIA\u003cbr\u003eTalk \u0026amp; listen with compassion\u003cbr\u003eMAHI TAHI\u003cbr\u003eWork together\u003cbr\u003eTIAKI I A KOE ANŌ\u003cbr\u003eTake care of yourself\u003cbr\u003eKEI A KOE TONU TE RONGOĀ\u003cbr\u003eWhānau have solutions\u003cbr\u003eKI TE ĀWHINA, KI TE TAUTOKO\u003cbr\u003eAssistance \u0026amp; support is available for whānau\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNā tō rourou, nā tāku rourou ka ora ai te iwi\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWith your food basket and my food basket the people will thrive\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eArt by Theresa Reihana, Ngāti Hine\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":34774919938206,"sku":"HE2424","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/products\/HE2424_Tihei_Mauri_Ora.pdf.png?v=1603153171"},{"product_id":"transporting-your-baby-guidelines-for-parents-family-and-whanau","title":"Transporting Your Baby: Guidelines for Parents, Family and Whānau - HE2323","description":"\u003cp\u003eSands New Zealand has developed these guidelines to support bereaved parents, families and whānau to make decisions about transport for their deceased baby. These guidelines apply to a baby of any gestation, but especially to those who are stillborn, who are born alive (at any gestation) or who die within the first 28 days of life. These guidelines do not apply to the transportation of a baby who has been referred to the coroner (the police will arrange the transportation of the baby to the coroner’s mortuary) but do apply when the baby’s body is released and may be taken home from the mortuary by the family.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eLegal Requirements\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf your baby was stillborn before the 20th week of pregnancy or weighs less than 400 grams, you are not legally required to bury your baby in a cemetery, urupā or to have your baby cremated, although you may choose to do so if you wish. You may bury your baby in a place of your choice (on private property). Alternatively, you may still choose to have your baby buried in a cemetery, urupā or to have your baby cremated.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf your baby was born alive (at any gestation), was born during or after the 20th week of pregnancy, or weighed 400 grams or more when born – then your baby must be buried or cremated in a registered place such as a cemetery, an urupā or a crematorium.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eDocumentation\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf your baby's death has not been referred to the coroner, there are no legal requirements for the transportation of your baby, except that it is important to have the relevant documentation (or forms) should you need to show them to anyone. The documentation you need for a stillborn baby or a baby who has died after birth is the ‘Transfer of Charge of Body’ form (BDM 39) and the Medical Certificate of Causes of Fetal and Neonatal Death (HP4721), both of which you will receive from the hospital or mortuary.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFor an older baby (more than 28 days old), you will receive a Medical Certificate of Causes of Death (HP4720) from the hospital. If the death was under coronial investigation, you will receive a coroner’s order for Disposal of Body (Coroner 3) from the coroner.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt is best to keep the documents with the baby at all times, especially in case a car accident happens on the way to your destination. That way, the police, paramedics and others will know that the baby was not alive when the accident happened. We recommend you tuck the forms alongside your baby in the car seat, basket or bassinette.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eWhere can we take our baby?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou may wish to take your baby in your car from the hospital to your home, from the hospital to the funeral directors, from your home to the funeral and from the funeral to the crematorium, urupā or cemetery. You may also wish to transport your baby to your home town or to visit a place of special significance to you or your whānau\/family. It is recommended that you consider the appropriateness of where you take your baby and other people’s reactions to seeing a deceased baby.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eWhat can we transport our baby in?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYour baby can travel in the car with you. Your baby is able to be transported in a baby seat, in a Moses basket (some hospitals in New Zealand have these available), in a cocoon, in a bassinette or in a little casket or coffin. The important thing is to secure the baby during the trip. You may also decide to carry baby yourself in your arms (perhaps wrapped in a shawl or blanket); this is a choice you can make as it does not contravene any regulations. If you do choose to hold your baby, it is important to have the necessary documentation near the baby.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFor smaller babies (from around 12–16 weeks), the hospital may provide a basket or some form of container for your baby to be taken home in. While it may not be necessary to secure the container with a seat belt, it is still important that you secure it in some way.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eWhat if we want to transport our baby by plane?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf it is necessary to transport your baby by plane, it is sometimes easier and less distressing if the arrangements are carried out by a funeral director. Domestically, Air New Zealand is the main airline that carries human remains. It requires the baby to travel in a casket or coffin in the hold of the plane and not in the cabin. This can be upsetting if you wish to be with your baby at all times. It is possible for you to negotiate the travel details of your deceased baby with Air New Zealand directly, but be aware that you will be dealing with the cargo division, which may be upsetting for you and your whānau\/family. Jetstar does not transport human remains within New Zealand. Smaller airlines (such as Sounds Air and Air Chathams) have similar policies to Air New Zealand and should be contacted directly.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFor international transportation of a deceased baby, you must have a funeral director involved because it is a requirement that all bodies are embalmed when being flown to another country.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eWhat if we do not feel we can transport our baby ourselves?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you cannot or do not wish to transport your baby yourself, a funeral director is the best person to speak with. They can organise transportation on your behalf. Some funeral directors do not charge for the care of a deceased baby or they charge very little, but you will need to ask about this when you first speak with them.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eDo we have to take our baby home?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt is your choice whether you take your baby home or not. Some parents leave their baby with the hospital and arrangements are made for cremation or transportation to a funeral home from there. Others find that having their baby at home or at their marae with them provides them with additional time to farewell their baby. This pamphlet is to ensure bereaved parents, families and whānau are aware of the different options and can make a decision that is right for them.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eRemember that only you will know what feels right for you and your baby - you are his\/ her parents, family or whānau, and only you will know what feels right for you and your baby. Family, whānau and hospital staff can assist you in making decisions but the final choice is yours. This is part of parenting your baby, even when he or she has died, and a way of creating memories. Take your time. There is no need to rush. Go gently.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSee the government website \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/wheturangitia.services.govt.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Information for bereaved family and whānau experiencing the death of a baby or child | Whetūrangitia (services.govt.nz)\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"\u003eWhetūrangitia\u003c\/a\u003e for more helpful information regarding transporting your baby.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis pamphlet is produced in memory of precious Tilo Spill, and his first ride in a car.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eCode: HE2323\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":34774923116702,"sku":"HE2323","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/products\/HE2323_Sands-transporting_your_baby.pdf.png?v=1593002790"},{"product_id":"when-a-baby-brother-or-sister-dies","title":"When a Baby Brother or Sister Dies - HE2321","description":"\u003cp\u003eIf you have another child or children, you may need to support them and their emotions even while you yourself grieve for your baby who has died. You are all part of the same whānau\/family and you have each lost a precious whānau\/family member. Remember that grieving is an important process that enables us to adjust to the loss of someone we love.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYour child\/ren’s response to the death of their baby brother or sister will vary depending on their age, personality and previous experience of death. They will grieve, just as an adult does, but the ways in which they express their grief will depend in part on their stage of development. For example, a very young child may view the death as temporary and reversible, while an older child may recognise that death is final and experience deep sadness and a sense of loss.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou may feel you want to protect your child\/ren from this grieving, but they must be encouraged to express their grief, just like an adult, in order for them to process what has happened. They must also be supported through this time.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eChildren also have to cope with the emotional reactions of their parents, whānau\/family and friends.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis leaflet is intended as a guide to some of the reactions your child\/ren may experience as they grieve and to offer some help in the ways you can best support them.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eIf you are old enough to love, you are old enough to grieve.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eSome reactions you might expect from your grieving child\/ren and some ways you can support them …\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYour child\/ren may feel guilty, especially if they felt at times that they didn’t want a new baby. They need reassurance that nothing they did or said caused the baby’s death.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYour child\/ren may feel angry with you for promising them a baby who has now died. They may also feel angry with the baby for causing everyone to be so sad.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYour child\/ren may feel insecure\/frightened. ‘Does Mum still love me?’ ‘Will I die too?’ ‘When will things be normal again?’\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYour child\/ren may have a fixation with death, such as playing ‘death’ games with dolls, coffins, etc. or asking lots of questions, for example, asking if other babies are dead or alive. Accept their play. Play is a child’s way of acting out and making sense of what has happened. Encourage their questions, answering them as truthfully and simply as you are able to. As they talk and question, they are working through the experience and coming to their own understanding and acceptance. You may have to repeat the answers to some questions over and over.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYour child\/ren may experience behavioural changes. They may become withdrawn, begin bedwetting, talk ‘baby talk’ or be very, very good to avoid causing you more pain. Try to accept these behavioural changes as part of the grieving process in the short term, but if they continue for a long period of time, it may help to seek professional advice from a doctor, counsellor, or Group Special Education (GSE) through your child\/ren's ECE Centre, kōhanga reo, school or kura.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eChildren’s concepts of death (reproduced with permission from SIDS Wellington’s ‘Continuing the Loving’ booklet)\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePre-schoolers:\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003edo not think the death is permanent\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ereact to loss and change.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e5–9 years:\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003emay think death is final\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003emay not think of it happening to them\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eneed honest and accurate information.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e10 years \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cb\u003eplus:\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eunderstand the concept of finality – and may find it frightening and painful.\u003cbr\u003e They may:\n\u003cul style=\"list-style-type: circle;\"\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ehave difficulty concentrating\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ebecome withdrawn or isolated, angry or sad\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ehave physical complaints\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eindulge in alcohol or drug abuse\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003edisplay impulsive behaviour\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eincrease their level of risk taking.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eWhat can you do for your child\/ren?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eEncourage them to call the baby by his or her name and to acknowledge the baby as a member of your whānau\/family.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLet them see and hold their baby brother or sister if this is appropriate. Seeing the baby will give them a focus for their grief. Prepare them for seeing the baby and accept their responses, eg, they may state that the baby is a funny colour.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHave photos taken of them with their baby brother or sister. Also take photos of you all together as a whānau\/family.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eExplain what has happened, why (if you can) and what might happen in the days to follow. Use language that is direct, simple and truthful. Avoid using terms that can confuse them like ‘passed away’ and ‘lost’. Don’t be afraid to use the word ‘dead’. Also try to avoid phrases like ‘the baby has gone to sleep’ because this can cause your other child\/ren to become fearful that they might die when they go to sleep.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eExplain procedures and words that may be unfamiliar to them, such as funeral, cremation, funeral director, casket.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eEncourage your child\/ren’s questions. Answer them as truthfully and as simply as you can. If you don’t know the answer, say so. As children change and develop, they need to have opportunities to talk again and seek more information. Another pregnancy or a death may spark new questions or the old ones again, but the child may comprehend and interpret the explanation differently. Encourage expressions of grief. The best way to ‘teach’ a child how to express grief is to model it yourself. For example you might say ‘It’s okay to cry’. Allow them to express their feelings through artwork, writing, play, physical exercise.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBe honest with them about the way you are feeling and why you are reacting the way you are. This avoids confusion for the child\/ren: ‘When I see other babies, I feel really sad about our baby dying.’ ‘I’m sorry I got so angry with you, I feel very tired and sad because I miss our baby very much.’\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eInvolve them in funeral preparations such as choosing songs, decorating an order of service sheet, picking some flowers. They may want to put something special in the casket – toys, flowers, drawings, etc.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTry to maintain routine and order for your child\/ren: regular meals, a bedtime story, etc. If you find this difficult, maybe you could ask another family member or close friend to help with meals, transport to school, etc.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePrepare your child\/ren to talk to others about your baby’s death. If you have been straightforward with your child\/ren, they are likely to be straightforward with others. Prepare them for the reactions they may receive. For example, some people won’t want them talking about the baby. Your child\/ren could say, 'I'm allowed to talk about our baby.'\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eUse support people to help your child\/ren through their grieving. Make sure people such as teachers, friends and babysitters know what has happened so they can respond to your child\/ren appropriately (maybe show them this leaflet). If you have any concerns, seek professional help. Your GP or Sands contact will have suggestions.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eReassure your child\/ren of your continuing love for them. Help them to know that their world is still a safe place to be in and you can be relied on to care for them.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eA very good New Zealand resource is Skylight, an organisation that supports children and teenagers through loss and change. Their contact details are available on \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.skylight.org.nz\/\"\u003ewww.skylight.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eCaring for yourself\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBecause of your own grief, you may find it difficult to respond to the emotional needs of your other child\/ren. Mothers who have recently given birth, as well as mourning their dead baby, are also experiencing massive hormonal and emotional changes.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eParents will experience many intense emotions. Often you are needing to cope with several things at a time, including making decisions about funeral arrangements, notifying relatives, whānau\/family and friends, etc. You may also be expected to be strong for the other parent and child\/ren.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eCoping with your other child\/ren may be difficult for both of you. Don’t expect too much of yourselves.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf others offer to help with your child\/ren and you feel this is appropriate, then it is okay for you to accept their offer. If it is not appropriate, then don’t feel bad about refusing their offer.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAccept help, eg, with meals, when it is offered. Ask for help if it is not forthcoming.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTake time out for your own grieving, individually and together. Through Sands, you will be able to make contact with parents who have had a similar experience. It can be helpful to talk with others who understand. If you feel you are having trouble coping or have relationship problems that you feel you are unable to resolve, talk to your doctor, midwife, minister or a counsellor.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eWhat can you do as a whānau\/family to express your grief?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYour baby who has died is, and always will be, a part of your whānau\/family – a son or daughter, a brother or sister, a grandchild. Here are some suggestions of ways you might like to acknowledge your baby as part of your whānau\/family:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDraw up a family tree showing grandparents, parents and children (alive and dead).\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCreate a memory book of your baby or a memory box.\u003cbr\u003e Some things to include might be:\n\u003cul style=\"list-style-type: circle;\"\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ekeepsakes of your baby, eg, hospital bracelet, cot cards, prints of hands and feet\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003epictures that your other child\/ren have drawn for and about your baby\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eletters, poems or stories that have been written\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ea record of plans and dreams that you may have had for your baby.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDo something special together to remember your baby at significant times, for example, the anniversary of your baby’s death, birthday, Christmas. Some ideas are:\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cul style=\"list-style-type: circle;\"\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGo on a special whānau\/family outing.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLight a special candle.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePlant a tree or shrub.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMake special Christmas decoration with your baby’s name on it.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eCode: HE2321\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":34774950150302,"sku":"HE2321","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/products\/HE2321_Sands_when_a_baby_brother_or_sister_dies.pdf.png?v=1593002913"},{"product_id":"your-babys-funeral","title":"Your Baby's Funeral - HE2319","description":"\u003cp\u003eYour baby has died, and suddenly you are faced with farewelling your baby and making arrangements for a funeral instead of celebrating their arrival. The decisions that must now be made can seem overwhelming alongside your pain, shock and grief.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe aim of this leaflet is to provide information to assist you with the decisions that need to be made.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe most important thing to keep remembering is that this is your baby and you have the right to do what you feel and believe is most appropriate for you. Take your time – do not rush. Remember it is also okay to change your mind.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eWhānau\/Family and friends\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eClose whānau\/family or friends may feel they are helping you by offering advice and sometimes taking over the decision making. Their suggestions and practical guidance may be helpful, but it is important that they accept that this is your baby. In the long run, it will be more beneficial for you to make as many of the decisions as you are able. Making decisions is a part of parenting your baby.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eSupport people\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt is important to have people around you who will allow you to decide what is best for you and support you through this time.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eA funeral can be one of the most important ways that you can do something practical for your baby. It can be the time when whānau\/family and friends (if you choose to invite them) can gather together to focus on your baby and acknowledge your grief.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003e\n\u003ca name=\"legal\" id=\"legal\" href=\"null\"\u003e\u003c\/a\u003eLegal requirements\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou are required to register the birth of your baby, and bury or cremate them in a registered place, if:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eyour baby was born alive and subsequently dies\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eyour baby was born after the 20th week of pregnancy\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eyour baby weighed 400 grams or more when born.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf your baby was not born alive before the 20th week of pregnancy and weighed less than 400 grams, you are not legally required to bury your baby in a cemetery or urupā or have your baby cremated. You may bury your baby in a place of your own choice. However, remember that burying your baby in, for example, a private garden may cause problems later if you move house and therefore have no grave you are able to visit. Alternatively, you can still choose to have your baby buried at a cemetery, urupā or have your baby cremated.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eNote:\u003c\/strong\u003e If you do bury your baby in a private place, it is essential that the body is buried \u003cstrong\u003eat least 1 metre (approx. 4 feet) deep\u003c\/strong\u003e in an area unlikely to be disturbed.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eRegistering the death\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDeath must be registered within three working days of burial or cremation if your baby has lived, even if for only a short time outside the womb. Registering the death is usually taken care of by the funeral director, but you can chose to do this yourself if you wish.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eSpending time with your baby\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou may choose not to allow anyone except yourselves, or maybe very close whānau\/family, to see your baby. This is a personal decision. You should do what feels right for you.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eOften, other people’s misconceptions of the significance of your loss are because they don’t realise exactly who you are grieving for. Meeting your baby may help these people understand and hopefully be more understanding of you and your feelings. It may help them accept the need for you to talk about your baby.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSome parents choose to leave their baby in a bassinette for the funeral service perhaps privately placing their baby in the casket before travelling to the cemetery, urupā or crematorium. Having your baby in a bassinette can allow those at the service (eg, whānau\/family, friends and possibly work colleagues) the opportunity to meet your baby if they haven’t already and to accept that you are grieving for a real person.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eHow long before the funeral takes place?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThere is no hurry to have your baby cremated or buried. It is important that you take as much time as you need to work through the decisions that must be made.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt is very important that the mother is not left out of the decision making. If the birth was physically difficult (eg, a Caesarean section, extensive blood loss, etc.) the mother may need time to recover sufficiently before she is physically able to attend to these decisions and have input into her baby's funeral arrangements.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou may choose to take your baby home before the funeral. This may be for several hours or days, depending on the condition of your baby. Alternatively, you may choose for your baby to stay at the funeral home. Remember, this is your baby and you have every right to make these decisions.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eWho organises the funeral?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou may choose to organise the funeral yourselves or engage the services of a funeral director.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMany bereaved parents find it a relief to allow a funeral director to guide and help them in the organisation of the funeral. Some parents may choose to make the arrangements themselves, with the help of whānau\/family and\/or friends.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eCremation\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you choose to have your baby cremated, you will be given the ashes in a simple plastic container unless you have arranged an alternative one of your choice. Take your time in deciding what you would like to do with the ashes. Some options are:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKeep the ashes in a special container; some parents also keep ashes in special cremation jewellery. Scattering the ashes over gardens or somewhere special of your choice that you will always have access to.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHave the ashes buried at a cemetery, urupā or crematorium with a plaque marking the spot. Ask your funeral director or the sexton of your local cemetery, urupā or crematorium what the options are.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBury the ashes and plant a tree over them.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePlace a plaque in a separate place to the body or ashes, eg, on a garden chair.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThese are just \u003cstrong\u003esome\u003c\/strong\u003e options. Before you make the decision to have your baby cremated, it is important for you to know (especially if you want to scatter the ashes) that the amount of ashes will depend on the size of your baby. For very small babies, there may be almost no ashes.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eBurial\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eOnce you have chosen a cemetery or urupā, check with the sexton (person in charge of cemetery or urupā) or your funeral director about the burial options available.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eOptions may include:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ea special stillborn area\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ea special children’s cemetery, set aside solely for the burial of babies and children\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eburial with a relative or in an existing whānau\/family plot\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eburial in a plot that can then be used as a whānau\/family plot for further whānau\/family members who die.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eCheck whether you are able to have a headstone and\/or plant over the burial plot if these are your wishes.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eWhere can the service take place?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you are legally required to bury or cremate your baby in a registered place (see \u003ca title=\"Legal requirements\" href=\"\/products\/your-babys-funeral#legal\" data-mce-href=\"\/products\/your-babys-funeral#legal\"\u003eLegal requirements\u003c\/a\u003e), the burial or cremation must take place at a cemetery, urupā or crematorium. The service itself can take place in a variety of places (in your own home or garden, in a church, at the graveside or crematorium, funeral directors’ rooms or chapel, hospital chapel or another place that is special to you).\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eThe funeral service\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe funeral service will play an important part in the grief process. It is an opportunity for you to join with whānau\/family and friends in expressing your love for your baby and sorrow for your baby's death. A baby’s funeral is particularly difficult because you are saying goodbye often before you had a chance to say hello.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThere is no ‘correct’ format for a funeral service, but some things you may want to include are:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003emusic that is meaningful to you (pre-recorded, sung at the service or played on instruments)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eflowers\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003erituals, eg, lighting of candles, placing special things in the casket with your baby\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eplanting a special plant\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003efilling the grave in yourselves (check if this is possible first)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003epersonal statements, eg, yourselves, a whānau\/family member or a close friend speaking.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou might also want a printed order of service, which can include copies of songs, readings and\/or poems. This can simply be photocopied sheets – you may include your own decorations, siblings’ drawings or a photo. This provides a ‘memento’ of the occasion. Ask someone to take photos of the casket and the service. Maybe you would like the service videoed. Whilst this suggestion may seem strange and unappealing, photos and videos provide mementos that may be very important to you in the months to follow.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eWho transports your baby?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou can drive your baby to and from any destination (eg, from the hospital to your home, from your home to the funeral). It may be necessary to transport your baby between cities\/towns; you can do this by car if you wish. If the baby is being flown by plane, the hospital or funeral director will make the arrangements. Sands has a separate pamphlet in this pack about \u003ca title=\"www.healthed.govt.nz\/resource\/your-babys-funeral\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healthed.govt.nz\/resource\/your-babys-funeralnd-wh%C4%81nau\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"\u003etransporting your baby\u003c\/a\u003e that you may find helpful. Be aware that you do not have to transport your baby yourself; a funeral director can organise everything for you.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eExpenses\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eUnfortunately the financial cost of the funeral and other related costs must be met by the bereaved parents. A funeral director will be able to provide you with cost estimates if you ask. You can compare prices if you wish. Some funeral directors charge little or nothing for a baby’s funeral.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you have difficulty meeting the cost of your baby’s funeral, you may be eligible for a funeral grant from Work \u0026amp; Income NZ (WINZ). This grant is income and asset tested. You must complete an application form, which is available from your local WINZ office or a funeral director. If your baby was stillborn, you will need to provide a copy of the birth certificate. If your baby lived, you will need to provide a copy of the birth certificate and a copy of the death certificate. Copies of the birth and death certificate are obtained through your hospital or doctor. If you already receive a benefit, then contact your case manager, who will be able to tell you if you are eligible or not. It is advisable to check if you are eligible before you make funeral arrangements.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe grant is usually paid directly to your funeral director.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/wheturangitia.services.govt.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Whetūrangitia\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"\u003eWhetūrangitia\u003c\/a\u003e has more helpful information regarding funerals and financial support.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e Code HE2319\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":34774985769118,"sku":"HE2319","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/products\/HE2319_Sands_your_babys_funeral.pdf.png?v=1593003026"},{"product_id":"1737-need-to-talk-wallet-card","title":"1737 Need to talk wallet card - HE2586","description":"\u003cp\u003eNeed to talk?\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e1737 \u003ca href=\"Tel:1737\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"call 1737\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003efree call\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca href=\"SMS:1737\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"text 1737\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003etext\u003c\/a\u003e any time for support from a trained counsellor\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":34850361933982,"sku":"HE2586","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/products\/HE2586_wallet_card_HealthEd.pdf.png?v=1593473970"},{"product_id":"connecting-through-korero-talking-about-suicide-with-young-peope-he-2598","title":"Connecting through Kōrero - Kōrerohia ngā mahi whakamomori ki te hunga taiohi: Talking about suicide with young people - HE2598","description":"\u003ch4\u003e\n\u003cspan\u003eNOTE: To order this free resource, please visit the Mental Health Foundation's \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/shop.mentalhealth.org.nz\/product\/431-connecting-through-k-rero\" title=\"Mental Health Foundation resources\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eonline shop\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan\u003e.\u003c\/span\u003e\n\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eKarakia\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKo Ranginui ki runga\u003cbr\u003eKo Papatūānuku ki raro\u003cbr\u003eWhakawātea ngā taumaha hārukiruki\u003cbr\u003eNgā taumaha mānuka\u003cbr\u003eKia puta mai te mauri tau\u003cbr\u003eTe wairua anga\u003cbr\u003eKia puta mai\u003cbr\u003eKi te whai ao\u003cbr\u003eKi te ao marama\u003cbr\u003eTūturu whakamaua\u003cbr\u003eKia tina,\u003cbr\u003eHaumi e, hui e\u003cbr\u003eTāiki e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSky Father as above\u003cbr\u003eEarth Mother as below\u003cbr\u003eProtection pushing away the heaviness\u003cbr\u003eFor the pathway of clarity\u003cbr\u003eTo settle in the realm of peace for all\u003cbr\u003eLet the rite of success be present\u003cbr\u003eThe life force\u003cbr\u003eThe life energy\u003cbr\u003eWill prevail\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMā te whakapono\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBY BELIEVING AND TRUSTING\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMā te tumanako\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBY HAVING FAITH AND HOPE\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMā te titiro\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBY LOOKING AND SEARCHING\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMā te whakarongo\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBY LISTENING AND HEARING\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMā te mahitahi\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBY WORKING AND STRIVING TOGETHER\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMā te manawanui\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBY PATIENCE AND PERSEVERANCE\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMā te aroha\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBY ALL BEING DONE WITH LOVE\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eKa taea e tātou\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWE WILL SUCCEED\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eĀwhinatia\u003c\/strong\u003e (helping or assisting) \u0026amp; \u003cstrong\u003eManaakitia\u003c\/strong\u003e (showing compassion) are important qualities for \u003cstrong\u003eKōrero tahitia\u003c\/strong\u003e (listening and talking together)\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhakamomori is the word that’s used for suicide on the cover of this resource. We acknowledge that each hapū\/iwi have their own kupu or word that means suicide.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eWhy should we kōrero about suicide with taiohi?\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTaiohi\/young people know suicide is a big issue in Aotearoa, and they know that it affects all of us in some way. They may come across it through the media; they may know someone who has died by suicide or be supporting a friend who is feeling suicidal. They may have had thoughts of suicide themselves.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAlthough it can feel hard to kōrero\/talk about the tough stuff, it’s important that we can all have safe, open, honest and compassionate kōrero about suicide so our taiohi feel heard, supported and understood.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThis resource is for parents, caregivers, teachers, counsellors, aunties, uncles, friends and other whānau. It’s for anyone who cares about taiohi and needs tautoko\/support and guidance to kōrero with them about suicide.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eIf you are concerned that taiohi in your life may be having thoughts of suicide right now, this resource will not be useful to you. For more useful information please turn to the resources listed further down.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eFor more information and support \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"1737\" href=\"Tel:1737\" target=\"_blank\"\u003efree call\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"1737\" href=\"SMS:1737\" target=\"_blank\"\u003etext 1737\u003c\/a\u003e anytime to talk to a trained counsellor, talk to your local doctor, medical centre, hauora, community mental health team, school counsellor or counselling service.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eBefore the kōrero   \u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eSomething to consider\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf a younger taiohi hears about suicide or is feeling upset, it’s important to kōrero with them too. Here are some tips to help you recognise when a younger taiohi may need extra aroha and support. There are simple things you can do to reassure and comfort them:\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAsk them how their tinana\/body feels. Distress in younger taiohi can often present in ways such as a sore puku\/tummy.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIf you notice changes in their mood or behaviour, let them know it’s alright to not feel happy all the time.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSpend time playing their favourite games, reading their favourite books or enjoying their favourite food.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSuggest they take a special toy to bed with them for comfort.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eWhen should I kōrero with taiohi about suicide?\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAnytime is a good time to connect through kōrero manaaki\/supportive conversations.\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhen someone they know or someone in their hapū, school or community has died by suicide.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhen they’re supporting a friend through a difficult time.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhen someone they admire (e.g. a celebrity or YouTuber) has died by suicide.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhen they’re watching a TV show or movie or reading a book that features suicide.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhen they ask questions about suicide, such as “why do people kill themselves?”.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhen you’re worried a taiohi may be suicidal.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eLet them know you’re there to kōrero whenever they’re ready. They might not be ready right now – that’s OK. Keep checking in, and make sure they know of a number of different people and places they can turn to.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIf you’re worried that a taiohi may be considering their own suicide, then you need to act urgently. \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"1737\" href=\"Tel:1737\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eCall 1737\u003c\/a\u003e to talk to a trained counsellor. If you or the taiohi are in immediate danger call 111.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAm I the right person to kōrero with taiohi about suicide?\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you have a trusting relationship with the taiohi\/young person and are in a good headspace to kōrero\/talk about suicide, then you might be the right person.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAsk yourself:\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAm I in the right headspace to kōrero calmly?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhat personal experiences, values, cultural or religious beliefs do I hold around suicide? How may they influence this kōrero?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAm I ready to truly listen without judgment?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCan I accept they may not want to kōrero with me about this?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDo I have the time and energy to have a kōrero that might be difficult and emotional?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDo I know where I can find more information about suicide and suicide prevention?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you feel someone else, like a kaumātua, cousin or counsellor may be a better person to have the kōrero, you can see if they’re comfortable to reach out to the taiohi.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eWhere to have the kōrero\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt’s important to find a place that’s comfortable for you and the taiohi you’re having the kōrero with.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTry to have the kōrero kanohi ki te kanohi\/in person whenever possible. Somewhere like a car, where you’re next to each other, or when you’re on a walk can feel like a less intimidating place to kōrero.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSometimes you may not be able to choose where to kōrero, especially if the taiohi initiates it or the subject comes up in a classroom situation. Use your judgment to decide whether it’s OK to address the discussion right then, or if it would be better to suggest another time.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eLooking after yourself\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhatever the kōrero\/conversation about suicide might be, it can be difficult. You may find it distressing, so it’s important to look after your own wellbeing.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIt’s always OK for you to get tautoko\/support and guidance, advice or just chat with a friend if you need to. You won’t be letting anyone down. Be kind to yourself and take time out when you need to. If you need some support for yourself see the helpline section further down.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eIf you need some support for yourself, see the helpline section further down.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003eSomewhere like a car, where you’re next to each other, or when you’re on a walk can feel like a less intimidating place to kōrero.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eYou can have the kōrero – here’s how\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eManaaki\/listening with compassion\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt’s important to kōrero\/talk about suicide in safe, supportive ways, no matter how challenging and emotional it may be.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eCompassionate kōrero creates feelings of safety and allows us to be open and understanding with each other. Some people may find having kōrero about suicide in a compassionate way difficult, depending on your experiences or beliefs. It’s important to take some time to think about how you can have an open mind and listen.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eShow compassion by:\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eListening carefully, without judgment. Try repeating key things back to the person to be sure you’ve understood, e.g., “since your friend died, you’ve been feeling angry and keep wondering what went wrong, eh?”.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNot making assumptions. You might think you know how a taiohi\/young person feels about a situation, but let them tell you in their own words. Prompt them by asking “what are your thoughts about this?”.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBeing mindful of your body language. Give the taiohi your full attention.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eTwo guiding elements\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003col\u003e\n\u003cli style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eKia tika - being direct\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eKia pono - being open\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ol\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eKia tika\/being direct\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYou might be fearful that having a kōrero\/conversation about suicide may plant the idea in someone’s head, but this won’t happen.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIt’s OK not to use the word ‘suicide’ if you don’t want to. You can use different terms, such as ‘wanting to end their life’ or talking about someone feeling ‘deep sadness’. It can be helpful to mirror the words that the taiohi\/young person chooses to use.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTell the taiohi why you’re having the kōrero (e.g. “I know that the singer you like died by suicide, do you want to talk about it?”).\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBe direct, honest and up-front. Don’t be afraid of using the word ‘suicide’ but be aware explicit details can be overly distressing and unnecessary to the kōrero. Try to think about what the taiohi will be able to cope with and what they might not wish to discuss or learn about. We know some kōrero about suicide can pose a risk to some people. See ‘kōrero to avoid’ section for more information.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eKia pono\/being open\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eShow the taiohi\/young person that you’re willing to have an open, honest kōrero\/conversation.\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLet them know you understand this is a tricky topic, and that it can be hard for you to understand too.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eListen to their thoughts and feelings and let them know it’s OK to feel that way (even if you can’t relate to their experiences and feelings).\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTry not to judge or shame the taiohi for how they think or feel.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThank and acknowledge them for being willing to kōrero.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBe honest when they ask questions you don’t have the answers to, and work together to find them.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eConnecting through kōrero - conversation starters\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eSeeing or hearing about suicide in the media or a book\/film or television\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTaiohi\/young people can be affected by reading about or seeing suicide on screen, online, in books or in the media.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSometimes the messages about suicide can be confusing and suicide scenes can be extremely disturbing. Taiohi can find it difficult to make sense of thoughts and feelings about what they’ve seen or heard. Having open and direct kōrero\/conversations can help taiohi challenge the messages and understand how we can all help prevent suicide.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBeing direct: Kia tika\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“Are you OK after watching\/hearing\/seeing that?”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“It’s important you kōrero with me or someone else if you’re feeling upset about what you’ve seen\/read\/heard. It can really help.”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBeing open: Kia pono\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“I’ve heard that lots of people are watching this TV series. Apparently it deals with some big issues and has some really graphic scenes. Have you seen it?”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“I noticed the book you were reading had a suicide in it. Do you want to chat about it?”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eTaiohi supporting taiohi\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTaiohi\/young people are most likely to turn to a friend if they’re going through a difficult time, are suicidal or have made a suicide attempt. This can place enormous stress on taiohi, especially if the friend they’re supporting has told them not to tell anyone.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHelp taiohi understand they can’t fix this or solve it alone. Kōrero about ways in which their friend can be supported by others, like a school counsellor or trusted adult. Acknowledge it’s a hard position for them to be in, but explain that getting support for their friend is the important and caring thing to do.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBeing direct: Kia tika\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“You are a wonderful friend, but you can’t handle this on your own. We can go and kōrero with the school counsellor about them together.”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“I know they didn’t want you to tell anyone. But getting help for them is the best way we can help.”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBeing open: Kia pono\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“I see that you’ve been spending a lot of time with your friend. Are they doing OK?” \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“You seem worried about your mate at the moment. What’s worrying you?”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eDealing with flippant comments about suicide\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eJust like anyone, taiohi\/young people can use careless language about suicide that might be hurtful to someone who is going through a difficult time. ‘KYS’ and ‘KMS’ are slang expressions that stand for ‘kill yourself’ or ‘kill myself’. When a taiohi uses such phrases, they may not be thinking about what they’re saying, or they may be using dark humour as a way to cope with tough things in their life.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBeing direct: Kia tika\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“Instead of saying ‘KYS’, what else could you have said?”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“It seems like you’re going through a tough time. How can I help?”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBeing open: Kia pono\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“It’s not OK to make jokes about suicide. I know you didn’t mean to be hurtful, but words can really hurt. What else could you have said in that situation?”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“I’ve heard you make quite a few jokes about killing yourself lately, and I’m worried. Can we kōrero\/talk?”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eKōrero to avoid\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhānau and friends are often concerned about some of the risks involved with having kōrero\/conversations about suicide. To help increase your confidence, here are some things to know.\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eAvoid kōrero that makes suicide seem like a reasonable choice\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSometimes, after someone has ended their life, people might comment that the person is “at peace”, “no longer in pain” or it being “their time”. Other times people may talk about suicide in a way that suggests it’s a logical response to tough situations, e.g., “the kids at school were mean to him; what choice did he have?”.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhy:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen taiohi\/young people hear these things, they may feel that suicide will bring peace from pain and is a natural response to challenging times. It’s important not to suggest that suicide is an appropriate way to deal with difficult situations.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eAvoid speculating about why someone tried to take their life\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt’s common to try to understand the ‘reason’ someone died by suicide and to look for a single cause, such as bullying or a relationship ending. Suicide is complex and a combination of different things such as; feelings, actions, circumstances and unwellness. It’s never anyone’s fault.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhy:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThere’s no one single ‘reason’ for someone’s suicide. Whānau and friends of people who die by suicide may find speculation painful. It may feel like they’re being blamed. Understanding and tautoko\/support and guidance, not judgement, is what’s needed.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eAvoid kōrero about methods of suicide\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAs much as possible avoid kōrero\/talking about the way a person took their life or where they died. If taiohi\/young people are already having kōrero about the method, be honest but avoid any unnecessary details. Instead, focus on tautoko\/ support for each other, and enable access to support.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhy:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen people are already thinking about suicide, hearing about a method can get them thinking, “this would be a good way for me to kill myself. I know it works”.\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eAvoid kōrero about suicide as a selfish act or the way that it has harmed those left behind\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAlthough anger and shame are understandable reactions to a suicide, it’s important to remember that emphasising these feelings increases the stigma, or sense of disgrace, about suicide. This can, in turn, make it difficult for whānau who have lost someone to suicide to share their feelings, and can be harmful for people who have had, or are having suicidal thoughts.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhy:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eStigma around suicide often causes people to hide suicidal feelings and avoid seeking support. Also, whānau who’ve been bereaved may be less likely to talk about their feelings and get the tautoko\/support they need. This is important because those who’ve recently been bereaved are at a higher risk of suicide themselves.\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eAvoid presenting suicide as criminal or sinful\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSome religions and cultures consider suicide to be sinful or criminal. When you’re having kōrero about suicide with taiohi\/young people, think about the impact such views could have on them.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhy:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePresenting suicide as sinful or criminal can make people less likely to reach out for help when they’re going through difficulties because they think they’ll be judged. Suicide is not a crime.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eResponding to pātai (questions)\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you’re worried about answering tricky questions, remember it’s best to be open and honest. You don’t need to know all the answers, and it’s OK to say you’re unsure. Here are some suggested ways to respond to some tricky questions.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eWhat is suicide?\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“Suicide is when somebody ends their life.”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“Suicide is when someone makes their tinana\/body stop working.”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eWhy do people kill themselves?\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“There isn’t an easy answer to that question. Suicide is complicated. There’s no one reason why a person may take their life. It’s really hard to understand because there are so many factors.”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“People who feel suicidal may experience a lot of pain. They believe that dying is the only way to end their pain, and this can also stop them connecting with support and other things that can help.”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eHow do people kill themselves?\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“Different people try to end their lives in different ways, it doesn’t matter how they died. The important thing is to try and help so that people no longer feel suicidal.”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“The way people die isn’t as important as supporting people to see a different way out of their pain.”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eWhose fault is it?\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“It’s nobody’s fault. However, there are things we can all do to take care of each other, and make sure anyone else we know who is feeling sad knows that there’s help available.”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“It’s not your fault. You didn’t cause this. It’s no one’s fault.”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eWhere to turn to for help\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eIf someone you care about is in crisis:\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCall your local mental health crisis assessment team (numbers can be found at \u003ca title=\"www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/help\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/help\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ewww.mentalhealth.org.nz\/help\u003c\/a\u003e), or go with the person to the emergency department (ED) at your nearest hospital.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIf they’re in immediate physical danger to themselves or others, \u003cstrong\u003ecall 111\u003c\/strong\u003e and stay with them until support arrives.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRemove any obvious means of suicide they might use, e.g., guns, medication, car keys, knives, rope.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTry to stay calm and let the person know you care.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKeep them talking: listen and ask questions without judging.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMake sure you are safe.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eIf someone needs extra support to help them through a tough time, or if you are seeking support because you are supporting someone else:\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNeed to talk? \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"1737\" href=\"Tel:1737\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eFree call\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"1737\" href=\"SMS:1737\" target=\"_blank\"\u003etext 1737\u003c\/a\u003e any time for support from a trained counsellor.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLifeline \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 543 354\" href=\"Tel:0800543354\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 543 354\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"4357\" href=\"SMS:4357\" target=\"_blank\"\u003efree text 4357 (HELP)\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYouthline \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 376 633\" href=\"Tel:0800376633\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 37 66 33\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"234\" href=\"SMS:234\" target=\"_blank\"\u003efree text 234\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSamaritans \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 726 666\" href=\"Tel:0800726666\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 72 66 66\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTautoko Suicide Crisis Helpline \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0508 828 865\" href=\"Tel:0508828865\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0508 828 865\u003c\/a\u003e (0508 TAUTOKO)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhat's Up \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 942 8787\" href=\"Tel:08009428787\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 942 8787\u003c\/a\u003e for children and teenagers\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYou may like to connect with your local iwi health service.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFor more useful suicide prevention resources visit \u003ca title=\"www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/suicide-prevention\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/suicide-prevention\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ewww.mentalhealth.org.nz\/suicide-prevention\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWe’ve produced a series of videos to help you keep the kōrero going. Visit \u003ca title=\"www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/korero\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/korero\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ewww.mentalhealth.org.nz\/korero\u003c\/a\u003e to find out more.\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":37138628411582,"sku":"HE2598","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/products\/HE2598thumbnail.png?v=1603231353"},{"product_id":"funerals-in-aotearoa-after-a-death-by-suicide-guidance-for-bereaved-whanau-and-those-supporting-them-he2612","title":"Funerals in Aotearoa after a death by suicide: Guidance for bereaved whānau and those supporting them - HE2612","description":"\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003e\n\u003cspan\u003eNOTE: To order this free resource, please visit the Mental Health Foundation's \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/shop.mentalhealth.org.nz\/product\/442-funerals-in-aotearoa-after-a-death-by-suicide-guidance-for-wh-nau-\" title=\"Mental Health Foundation resources\"\u003eonline shop\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan\u003e.\u003c\/span\u003e\n\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eFunerals in Aotearoa after a death by suicide: Guidance for bereaved whānau and those supporting them\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eRuia te pō, ka ao, ka awatea\u003cbr\u003eMove from the darkness into the light\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\nWaerea, Waerea\u003cbr\u003eWaerea i runga, Waerea i raro\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003eWaerea i roto, Waerea i waho\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003eWaerea ngā taimahatanga o te wā,\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003ekia wātea\u003cbr\u003eTūturu o whiti, Whakamaua kia Tina\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003eHaumi e, Hui e, Tāiki e!\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003eClear a path ahead\u003cbr\u003eClear above, clear beneath,\u003cbr\u003eClear all obstructions within and outside, \u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003eClear and relieve us of any burdens that today may bring\u003cbr\u003eAnd let us be free in mind, body and spirit.\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003eWe comprehend and agree,\u003cbr\u003eand we make it so.\u003cbr\u003eHaumi e, Hui e, Tāiki e!\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\nKei ō tātou taonga kua riro atu i ngā rā, i ngā wiki, i ngā marama kua pahure ake nei. Haere, haere, haere atu rā koutou ki ō tātou tūpuna e tatari ana ki a koutou.\u003cbr\u003eKei ngā whānau e noho pani nei, koutou kua pā i tēnei mamae roa, kia kaha kia māia, kia manawanui. \u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003eHe rourou iti noa tēnei rauemi nā te aroha hei hāpai, hei āwhina, hei tautoko i te oranga o te iwi.\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTo our dearest loved ones we have lost within the days, weeks and months that have passed. Farewell and return to the loving embrace of our ancestors that wait to welcome you. To all the whānau and families who have lost loved ones, be strong, be brave and be steadfast. This resource is a small token of love to help and support the wellbeing of your whānau and whānau all around the nation.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eIntroduction\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you’ve lost a loved one to suicide or suspected suicide, please know you don’t have to go through this alone. We hope this resource can support you in planning your loved one’s funeral or hui mate in a way that honours their life, addresses suicide safely and helps you and your whānau cope with your grief.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhile this resource incorporates mātauranga Māori, our intention isn’t to give advice on the rituals or processes\/tikanga around tangihanga or hui mate, nor any other funeral ritual or burial rite. We would also like to acknowledge any cultural and religious differences in grieving. Please, take only what you need from this resource and feel free to adapt any of this information to your own situation.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eHui mate can translate to ‘a gathering for a loved one who has passed’. For Māori, this includes tangihanga, waerea, kawe mate and hura kōhatu. For the purpose of this resource, hui mate will focus on key aspects of a tangihanga ceremony after a death by suicide. This ensures we don’t diminish any processes specific to tangihanga.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eHe pou tautoko\u003cbr\u003eLeaning on others for support\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eI ngā wā taimaha, tūhonohono atu ki tō whānau he pou whirinaki mōu.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIn heavy and trying times, lean on your whānau, your pillars of support.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAs you plan to farewell your loved one, lean on those you love and trust to help get you through.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYou might like to ask someone you trust to be the main point of contact – they can liaise with the funeral director or kaumātua and help with organising official processes on your behalf.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIf you can, let people know how they can best tautoko\/support you. It might be dropping off kai\/food, sharing a karakia\/prayer, looking after tamariki\/children, picking up flowers, or simply being there with you.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKōrero\/talk and connect with people you love.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIf you need to, reach out to a grief counsellor or phone a helpline. There’s a list at the end of this resource.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eHe mamaeroa\u003cbr\u003eNavigating grief after a suicide loss\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eKo te here o te aroha tē taea te wetewete.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eA loving bond cannot be undone.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAny death is difficult; however, a suicide loss is traumatic and especially hard to cope with. It might leave you with lots of questions that are impossible to answer. You may be experiencing shock, pōuri\/sadness, taimaha\/intense pain or heaviness, whakamā\/shame, numbness, anger, or even relief if your loved one was unwell for a long time. All of these are common feelings and reactions. Suicide is complex and influenced by a combination of many different factors coming together at once.\u003cstrong\u003e It’s never the result of one thing only and never anyone’s fault.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eComing to terms with what’s happened takes time. Holding a funeral or hui mate is a time to remember, honour and whakanui\/celebrate your loved one.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eHe āhuru mōwai\u003cbr\u003eCreating a safe space for grief during the funeral or hui mate\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eKo te tuku roimata me te tuku hūpē he rongoā mō te whānau.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMourning our loved ones who have passed away through the shedding of tears and mucus is an integral part of the healing process for whānau.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou are dealing with incredibly tough things right now, and there are lots of decisions to be made. We hope these tips will help you and people attending the funeral or hui mate.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eIf possible, you might like to spend time with your loved one’s body.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003eYou may also wish to help prepare their body by washing them and\/or choosing clothes for them. Your funeral director can advise you on the options.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eIf you would like to, your funeral director can arrange for your loved one’s body to be brought home or to the marae.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003eYou may want to consider where to place the body and whether to have set visiting times for other mourners.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eIf you are comfortable with it, it’s best practice to tell people your loved one died by suicide or suspected suicide.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003eSafe kōrero around suicide at a funeral or hui mate can provide comfort and hope to people, including those who may be having suicidal thoughts. It’s also a powerful way to help lift any feelings of whakamā\/shame and stay in charge of what information is shared.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSuicide as the cause of death should be acknowledged early on, compassionately and non-judgementally. – Cushla\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eHere are some tips to make sure any kōrero around suicide is safe:\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDon’t include any distressing details, including the method or suicide note.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAvoid the term “committed suicide” – suicide is not a crime. It’s better to say “died by suicide” or “took their life”.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRemind people that suicide is never anybody’s fault.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFocus on who your loved one was rather than the way they died – e.g., talk about what they loved about life or mention their contributions to their family, whānau, community, marae, hapū or iwi.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLet people know help is available and remind them it can make a difference. Provide helpline numbers – there’s a list at the end of this guide.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAfter the service, friends told us the most useful thing we did during the funeral was point out information about mental health and share a message of hope. – Anna and Martin\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTo learn more on safe kōrero about suicide, please see the companion guide “Funerals in Aotearoa after a death by suicide – \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/healthed.govt.nz\/products\/funerals-in-aotearoa-after-a-death-by-suicide-guidance-for-whanau-kaumatua-funeral-directors-celebrants-and-faith-leaders-he2613\" title=\"Funerals in Aotearoa after a death by suicide: Guidance for whānau, kaumātua, funeral directors, celebrants and faith leaders\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eGuidance for whānau, kaumātua, funeral directors, celebrants and faith leaders”.\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eInvite people you trust to kōrero at the funeral.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003eIt’s best to choose speakers ahead of time. An open invitation to speak sometimes means you have less influence over what is said, and someone may say something that could distress you and others. Check with the speakers if they would like to have a support person with them.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDuring the hui mate, mourners have the opportunity to kōrero and waiata freely to whakanui\/acknowledge the person who has passed.\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eYour kaumātua, whānau leader or funeral director should create a safe space by letting kaikōrero\/speakers know what is appropriate to share.\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eIf it feels right for your whānau, find a way to include children and youth in the service.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003eResearch shows it’s best to let young ones know if a person died by suicide and support them to take part in the farewell. There are simple ways to help them feel important and included – for example, by choosing a waiata\/song, carrying a photo, creating a slide show, or writing a message on the coffin.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eFor ideas around how to talk to young ones about suicide, visit Victim Support’s website – Telling others after a suicide.\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"Telling others after a suicide\" href=\"https:\/\/www.victim.org.nz\/crimes-and-traumatic-events\/suicide#letting-others-know\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ewww.victimsupport.org.nz\/crimes-and-traumatic-events\/suicide#letting-others-know\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAsk kids how they’re doing. When they say “fine”, you can say “I know that, but how are you actually going?” – Kat\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eFind someone you trust to lead the funeral or hui mate. \u003c\/strong\u003eYour funeral director, celebrant, church minister or kaumātua should be able to navigate the kōrero around suicide with confidence, compassion and aroha. If you don’t feel comfortable with a particular service provider or their approach, it’s okay to change your mind and find a new provider. You may like to ask for recommendations from friends or whānau or ask Victim Support for a list of local funeral directors.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWe felt safe with the church we used. They left our son’s photo up on the wall for a year after he died, along with the photos of other people who died during the year. His death was no different. That to us felt safe. – Anna and Martin\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eHonour your loved one by weaving some of their favourite things into the ceremony. \u003c\/strong\u003eYou could share a poem, waiata or whakataukī that had special meaning to them. After the service, you might like to offer kai they enjoyed the most. Whatever you decide to share, be mindful of how it could affect you or other people. Avoid imagery or wording that contains graphic descriptions of pain, hopelessness, or wanting to no longer be alive.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eAllow whānau to help out with the hui mate through koha\/contribution. \u003c\/strong\u003eThis could be koha-ā-waiata\/sharing aroha through song, koha-ā-moni\/helping with hui mate costs, koha-ā-kai\/helping with food preparation or serving, koha-ā-whakaaro\/helping out by cleaning, doing the dishes, or taking up a role such as kaikōrero\/speaker or kaikaranga\/caller.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eInclude others and give them a safe space to release mamae and hurt.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003eYou can invite people to write a message to go in the casket, perform a haka or waiata, or leave a meaningful taonga\/treasure to farewell your loved one.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThink about who’s going to be affected by this loss outside the family. You’re not responsible for them, but how you include them is important. – Warren\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eNgā rangi i muri mai i te hui mate\u003cbr\u003eAfter the funeral or hui mate\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTakahia te ara ki te ao tūroa.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eKeep to the path of enlightenment.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMake sure to look after your hauora\/wellbeing in the weeks and months after a suicide loss. We all grieve differently, and it takes time to heal.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHere are some useful tips to help you take care of yourself.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eFind a support person.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003eThis could be another whānau member, friend, elder, kaumātua or counsellor.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eStay connected.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003eAsk loved ones to keep checking in with you once the funeral or hui mate is over. Spend time with people who uplift your wairua\/spirit.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eDo things you find comforting.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003eKōrero with people you love or a spiritual leader such as a priest; listen to music; read; write. Pray or meditate if it’s helpful.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eSpend some time outside.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003eConnect with te taiao\/nature and get fresh air and sunlight.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eTalk to others who have ‘been there’.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003eWhen you’re ready, you may be open to talking with others who understand the grief and loss that follows a suicide death. You might like to join a support group (check under ‘Relevant organisations and resources’ at the end of this guide).\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eHe tohu āwhina\u003cbr\u003eCoping with suicidal thoughts\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhen someone you love has died by suicide, you might start thinking about suicide yourself. These thoughts and feelings are common and can be very distressing. You deserve support and care to get through.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTell someone you trust so you can get the help you need to feel better. If you can’t immediately find someone you know to talk to, there are helplines you can contact 24\/7. You can find a list at the end of this resource.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf things are at crisis point for you right now or you need urgent help, go to your local hospital emergency department or call your local mental health crisis assessment team. If you’re in danger right now,\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eplease call 111.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eHe pou whirinaki\u003cbr\u003eHow to support someone bereaved by suicide\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you’re supporting someone bereaved by suicide, you can tear out this page to keep this information handy.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMā te ngākau whakaiti, mā te ngākau māhaki me te ngākau aroha koe e ārahi.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHumility, empathy and compassion will guide you.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you’re supporting a friend or whānau member who lost a loved one to suicide, you might not know what to do, or you might be worried about saying or doing the wrong thing. That’s okay. Suicide loss can be overwhelming and make people feel isolated or ashamed. They may experience stigma and not know where or how to reach out for support. Your caring presence and aroha can be comforting at this difficult time.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHere’s how you can be there for them:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSomeone who’s grieving may not have the energy to let you know what they need. Ask them about specific ways you can help. It’s not so much about what you want to do, but what they want or need.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMake it easy for them by offering suggestions. For example, if you’ve made a meal, you can ask if they would like you to bring it over.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIf you find it hard to know what to say, it’s okay to say that.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLet them know you’re here to kōrero or listen whenever they’d like to.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eValidate whatever emotions they’re feeling.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eJoin them in prayer or karakia if they find it comforting. \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAsk them if they’d like to go for a walk or do something like sports, fixing something, or going to a game. Sometimes what really matters is just having a mate to spend time with.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBe there for them not just in the short term, but in the weeks and months to come. \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eEncourage them to talk to a trained counsellor. A free suicide bereavement support service (such as Aoake te Rā) or a peer support group can be good options, too.  \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTake care of yourself and your wellbeing in the process.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNominate a care person for family members during a funeral or tangihanga. They need someone dedicated to them. Someone who doesn’t have to ask and can bring them a cuppa, some food, ask them if they’re actually sleeping. – Kat\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eHe ringa hāpai\u003cbr\u003eDealing with practical matters\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e“After a suicide” website (\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.afterasuicide.nz\/\"\u003ewww.afterasuicide.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e) includes a lot of practical information and guidance around official processes and people involved after a suicide death, applying for a funeral grant, telling children and other people, and accessing more support.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eVictim Support (\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.victimsupport.org.nz\/\"\u003ewww.victimsupport.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e) Available 24\/7 - call\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 842 846\" href=\"Tel:0800842846\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 842 846\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e. Victim Support provides immediate and ongoing support after a suicide loss. Their website includes useful resources on supporting a child or young person bereaved by suicide.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe “\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"Funerals in Aotearoa after a death by suicide\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healthed.govt.nz\/resource\/funerals-aotearoa-after-death-suicide-guidance-wh%C4%81nau-kaum%C4%81tua-funeral-directors-celebrants\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eFunerals in Aotearoa after a death by suicide – Guidance for whānau, kaumātua, funeral directors, celebrants and faith leaders\u003c\/a\u003e” resource might be useful if you’re planning to lead a funeral or hui mate for your loved one.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eHe ringa āwhina\u003cbr\u003eWhere to find assistance and more information\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eRelevant organisations and resources\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAoake te Rā \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"Aoake te Rā\" href=\"http:\/\/www.aoaketera.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ewww.aoaketera.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e \u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003eFree counselling support to individuals and whānau bereaved by suicide. You can refer yourself or somebody else. Visit the website or call \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 000 053\" href=\"Tel:0800000053\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 000 053\u003c\/a\u003e. Please leave your name and contact details.  \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eAsian Helpline - Asian Family Services\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.asianfamilyservices.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.asianfamilyservices.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 862 342\" href=\"Tel:0800862342\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 862 342\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFree and confidential services available in eight languages.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eCitizens Advice Bureau (CAB)\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.cab.org.nz\/\"\u003ewww.cab.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 367 222\" href=\"Tel:0800367222\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 367 222\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCAB may know about support groups and grief programmes in the local area. They can also connect you with a budgeting service to help you manage funeral costs.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eSkylight\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.skylight.org.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.skylight.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 299 100\" href=\"Tel:0800299100\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 299 100\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWaves is an eight-week programme run by Skylight that supports adults bereaved by suicide.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eVaka Tautua - 0800 OLA LELEI\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.vakatautua.co.nz\/0800-ola-lelei\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.vakatautua.co.nz\/0800-ola-lelei\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 652 535\" href=\"Tel:0800652535\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 652 535\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eVaka Tautua is a national “by Pacific, for Pacific” health, disability and social services provider. Ola Lelei is their free national Pacific helpline for anyone who needs someone to talk to, help and support. Available in Samoan, Tongan, Cook Islands Māori and English.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eVictim Support\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"Victim Support\" href=\"http:\/\/www.victimsupport.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.victimsupport.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 842 846\" href=\"Tel:0800842846\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 842 846\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eLook up “bereavement” or “suicide” for more information and support pathways.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eChatsafe by Orygen\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"Chatsafe\" href=\"http:\/\/www.orygen.org.au\/chatsafe\/remembering\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.orygen.org.au\/chatsafe\/remembering\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTips on how to talk online about someone who has died by suicide.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eCoronial Services of New Zealand\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/coronialservices.justice.govt.nz\/coronial-services\/\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Coronial services\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.coronialservices.justice.govt.nz\/coronial-services\/\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe Coronial Services’ website has a pamphlet on coronial services in New Zealand when someone dies suddenly.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eLe Va\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.leva.co.nz\/\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Le Va\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.leva.co.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eInformation and support for Pasifika families on mental health, addiction and suicide prevention. Includes a resource on supporting Pacific communities bereaved by suicide:\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/leva.co.nz\/resources\/%20pacific-suicide-postvention-supporting-pacific-communities\/\"\u003ehttps:\/\/leva.co.nz\/resources\/ pacific-suicide-postvention-supporting-pacific-communities\/\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eLGBTIQA+ Suicide Postvention Response Plan\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.switchboard.org.au\/lgbtiqa-suicide-prevention-resources-training\"\u003eSuicide Prevention Resources and Training — Switchboard Victoria\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eGeneral guidelines developed by Switchboard Victoria for LGBTIQA+ communities and peer organisations involved in providing postvention.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eMental Health Foundation\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/suicide-loss\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.mentalhealth.org.nz\/suicide-loss\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eVisit \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth.org.nz\/resources\/resource\/grief-after-a-sudden-or-unexpected-bereavement\"\u003eGrief after a sudden or unexpected bereavement | Mental Health Foundation\u003c\/a\u003e for guidance\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eVisit \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/afterasuicide.nz\/\"\u003eAfter a suicide\u003c\/a\u003e for support and information\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLook up Suicide Bereavement Support Groups to find a peer support group in your area.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eOther agencies or groups to contact may include:\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003elocal whānau and community support agencies\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003echurches or faith groups\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003emarae\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ecultural centres\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ecommunity centres, community workers\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ecounsellors, school guidance counsellors or counselling agencies\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003esocial workers\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003edoctors, community health centres, or primary health organisations\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ecommunity mental health teams or hauora Māori mental health teams.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eFinding a counsellor\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTo find a counsellor, check out these online listings:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAoake te Rā -\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.aoaketera.org.nz\/\"\u003ewww.aoaketera.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe New Zealand Association of Counsellors -\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.nzac.org.nz\/\"\u003ewww.nzac.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTalkingworks -\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.talkingworks.co.nz\/\"\u003ewww.talkingworks.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNew Zealand Psychological Society -\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.psychology.org.nz\/\"\u003ewww.psychology.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNew Zealand College of Clinical Psychologists -\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.nzccp.co.nz\/\"\u003ewww.nzccp.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe Grief Centre (Auckland) -\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.griefcentre.org.nz\/\"\u003ewww.griefcentre.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGrief Support Services (Tauranga) -\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.griefsupport.org.nz\/\"\u003ewww.griefsupport.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLoss and Grief Centre (Invercargill) -\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.lossandgriefcentre.com\/\"\u003ewww.lossandgriefcentre.com\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eFree helplines\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBelow is a list of free, 24\/7 services that offer support, information and help:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003e1737, need to talk?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.1737.org.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.1737.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ca href=\"Tel:1737\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"call 1737\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003eCall\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca href=\"SMS:1737\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"text 1737\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003etext\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"SMS:1737\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"text 1737\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003e1737\u003c\/a\u003e \u003c\/strong\u003efor support from a trained counsellor.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eLifeline\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.lifeline.org.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.lifeline.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCall \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800543354\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"0800 543 354\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003e0800 543 354\u003c\/a\u003e for counselling and support.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eYouthline\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.youthline.co.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.youthline.co.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCall\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"Tel:0800376633\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"0800 376 633\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 376 633\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e, \u003ca href=\"SMS:234\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"text 234\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003etext\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e234\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e, email\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/talk@youthline.co.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003et\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/talk@youthline.co.nz\/\"\u003ealk@youthline.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003eor go to website for an online chat.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eHealthline\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.health.govt.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.health.govt.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCall\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"Tel:0800611116\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"0800 611 116\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 611 116\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003efor advice from trained registered nurses.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDepression Helpline\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.depression.org.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.depression.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCall\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"Tel:0800111757\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"0800 111 757\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 111 757\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003eto talk to a trained counsellor about how you are feeling or to ask any questions.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eSamaritans\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.samaritans.org.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.samaritans.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCall\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"Tel:0800726666\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"0800 726 666\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 726 666\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003efor confidential support to anyone who is lonely or in emotional distress.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eNgā Mihi\u003cbr\u003eAcknowledgements\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eE kore e oti ngā mihi ki ngā whānau, ki ngā hapori, ki ngā tāngata katoa i kaha tautoko mai ā wānanga nei, ā tinana nei, ā tuhinga nei kia hua mai ai ko tēnei taonga. Nā tō rourou, nā taku rourou, ka ora ai te iwi. Mei kore ake ko koutou katoa.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWe’ve created this resource in collaboration with people with lived experience of suicide bereavement, grief counsellors, experienced funeral directors, church ministers, celebrants, the MHF Suicide Bereavement Advisory Group, as well as whānau and hapori across the motu. We acknowledge and thank everyone who generously gave their knowledge, time and support to its development. Mauri Ora.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDesign by Tiaki Terekia\u003cbr\u003ePhotography by Marsters Media\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":42682518601956,"sku":"HE2612","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/files\/HE2612.png?v=1774928735"},{"product_id":"funerals-in-aotearoa-after-a-death-by-suicide-guidance-for-whanau-kaumatua-funeral-directors-celebrants-and-faith-leaders-he2613","title":"Funerals in Aotearoa after a death by suicide: Guidance for whānau, kaumātua, funeral directors, celebrants and faith leaders - HE2613","description":"\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003e\n\u003cspan\u003eNOTE: To order this free resource, please visit the Mental Health Foundation's \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" title=\"Mental Health Foundation resources\" href=\"https:\/\/shop.mentalhealth.org.nz\/product\/441-funerals-in-aotearoa-after-a-death-by-suicide-guidance-for-providers-\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eonline shop\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan\u003e.\u003c\/span\u003e\n\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eRuia te pō, ka ao, ka awatea\u003c\/strong\u003e Move from the darkness into the light\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\nWaerea, Waerea Waerea i runga, Waerea i raro,\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003eWaerea i roto, Waerea i waho\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003eWaerea ngā taimahatanga o te wā, kia wātea Tūturu o whiti, Whakamaua kia Tina,\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003eHaumi e, Hui e, Tāiki e!\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eClear a path ahead Clear above, clear beneath, Clear all obstructions within and outside,  Clear and relieve us of any burdens that today may bring And let us be free in mind, body and spirit. We comprehend and agree, and we make it so. Haumi e, Hui e, Tāiki e!\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMaringi tonu ana ngā roimata ki ō tātou taonga kua riro atu ki te pō i ngā rā, i ngā wiki, i ngā marama kua pahure ake nei. Haere, haere, haere atu rā koutou ki ō tātou tūpuna e tatari ana ki a koutou.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKei ngā pātaka iringa kōrero, kei ngā kākā wahanui, kei ngā ringa toha aroha e manaaki nei i ō tātou whānau, tēnā koutou katoa. He rourou iti tēnei nā Te Hauora Hinengaro hei hāpai ake i te oranga o ō tātou whānau puta noa i te motu nei. Tēnā koutou, tēnā koutou, tēnā tātou katoa.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eOur hearts still grieve for our loved ones we have lost within the days, weeks and months that have passed. Farewell and return to the loving embrace of our ancestors that wait to welcome you.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTo the keepers of knowledge, the gifted mouthpieces and the givers of love and compassion that care for our whānau, greetings to you all. This is a small token of love from the Mental Health Foundation to help support the wellbeing of our whānau throughout the nation. Greetings once, twice and final greetings to us all.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eIntroduction\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis guide is for whānau leaders, kaumātua, funeral directors, celebrants, faith leaders, or anyone leading a funeral or hui mate for a person who died by suicide or suspected suicide.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAny kind of death is difficult and brings pain and grief to the bereaved, but a suicide loss can be traumatic and especially difficult to cope with. Feelings of shock, anger, guilt and shame can lead to a complicated bereavement experience, one which might require an even greater deal of sensitivity and compassion in your practice. This resource will accompany you as you walk alongside the bereaved whānau, kōrero\/talk safely about suicide, and take care of yourself throughout the process.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHui mate can translate to 'a gathering for a loved one who has passed'. For Māori, this includes tangihanga, waerea, kawe mate and hura kōhatu. For the purpose of this resource, hui mate will focus on key aspects of a tangihanga ceremony after a death by suicide. This ensures we don't diminish any processes specific to tangihanga.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhile this resource incorporates mātauranga Māori, our intention isn’t to give advice on the rituals or processes\/tikanga around tangihanga or hui mate, nor any other funeral ritual or burial rite. We would also like to acknowledge any cultural and religious differences in grieving.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis resource is a starting point for a wider and ongoing conversation about safer funerals and hui mate for those who have died by suicide in Aotearoa New Zealand. We hope it serves as a small source of tautoko\/support as you navigate the complexities of your invaluable mahi\/work with people bereaved by suicide.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe cause of death and the questions around it are one single incident. The work of the funeral is to tell the whole person’s life. – Michael Wolffram, Funeral Director\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eUnderstanding suicide\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhen somebody takes their life, we say they have died by suicide.\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eThere’s rarely a single reason why a person may end their life.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003eA suicide is complex and influenced by a combination of different factors, often occurring over a long period of time. These factors can include thoughts, perceptions, feelings, circumstances and unwellness. Most people who take their own life don’t want to die, but feel this is the only way to end their intense and ongoing pain. Suicide is never anyone’s fault.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhat does suicide look like in Aotearoa New Zealand?\u003c\/strong\u003e Suicide is a major public health issue in Aotearoa. We have similar total population suicide rates compared to other OECD countries, but our youth suicide rates are some of the highest in the OECD. Data shows Māori are more likely to die by suicide than non-Māori. Other groups at a higher risk include LGBTQI+ people, men and people bereaved by suicide.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhy safe and supportive kōrero around suicide matters\u003c\/strong\u003e Too often, suicide is surrounded by whakamā\/shame and stigma, or a mark of disgrace. This can make it hard for people bereaved by suicide to find comfort and support. It can also prevent people struggling with suicidal thoughts from reaching out for help.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhakamā can be interpreted as feelings of inadequacy, embarrassment, shame or guilt.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThose who lost a loved one or a peer to suicide are more at risk of suicide themselves. Safe, supportive kōrero at a funeral or hui mate can help lift any feelings of whakamā and encourage vulnerable people to seek help.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eThe Coronial Process\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf a death is a suspected suicide or is sudden or unexplained (ambiguous), it is investigated by police and referred to the coroner for a Coronial Inquest to formally establish the cause of death. Until that happens, the death is usually referred to as a ‘suspected suicide’, or a ‘sudden death’. To help protect people, there are legal restrictions around what can be  disclosed about the death, including the method and location (see Section 71 of the Coroners Act 2006).\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eCheck-in\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAs a provider, are you feeling okay to be involved in this funeral or hui mate? If you’re not in a good space, respectfully decline and let someone else step in. Not only could you put yourself at risk, but you may not be able to provide the level of support and guidance the bereaved whānau needs.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf we’re more open about suicide, we’ve got a better chance of dealing with it. If it’s masked and hidden, it’s very hard to deal with. – Sir Mason Durie\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eWalking alongside people bereaved by suicide\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePeople experiencing a suicide loss may be going through a range of emotions. Grief and sadness, taimaha\/intense pain and heaviness, numbness, anger or even relief are all common feelings and reactions.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhānau may express they are feeling taimaha – an extreme heaviness weighing on their body, mind or spirit brought about by losing their loved one.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMeet people where they are and walk alongside them.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003eBecause of the complexity and stigma that can surround a suicide death, it’s important to be present, show compassion and provide gentle support.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e“Tautokona te whānau, arohaina te whānau, manaakitia te whānau.” Support, love, and take care of whānau with tika, pono and aroha at the forefront.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTika means to be upright, honest and appropriate. Pono is to believe in the sanctity of life, and aroha means love and compassion.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHaving openly confronted the manner of death it is right, indeed essential, to broaden the picture and encompass the whole of the person’s life. The act of suicide does not negate or invalidate the full life that has been. – Reverend Alister Hendery\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eA guide to safe kōrero about suicide at a funeral or hui mate\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eCheck-in\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eIs the whānau okay with having suicide mentioned during the service? It’s fine if not – respect people’s wishes and meet them where they are. Reassure them it’s okay to feel however they’re feeling. \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eIf the bereaved are not comfortable with the word 'suicide', it’s important to hold a safe space for their emotions and perception. You may like to suggest using 'sudden death' if the cause of death is unclear.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf the bereaved whānau agrees with it, talking about suicide safely during the service can provide comfort and hope. It’s also the best way to address any speculation, stigma or sense of whakamā.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDuring the hui mate, the bereaved whānau has the opportunity to kōrero and waiata\/sing freely to whakanui\/acknowledge their loved one and express they have returned to the homelands to be with their ancestors. These rituals include pō whakamutunga, the final night of the hui mate they spend in person with their loved one, and nehu\/day of burial. Throughout this time, kaumātua and whānau leaders play a key role in guiding attendees on sharing kōrero that is safe, uplifting and mana-enhancing.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhen talking about suicide, people might get worried about saying the wrong thing or not knowing what to say. Whenever you’re in doubt, allow aroha\/compassion and manaakitanga\/kindness, generosity and care to lead your kōrero.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf appropriate, I recommend mentioning suicide during the service. People are already speculating. If you can tell them, then you’re in charge of the information being given out. – Lianne Fraser [VCANZ] National President of Celebrants Aotearoa – the Celebrants’ Association of New Zealand\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFinding the right words to share with the bereaved can be difficult. While talking about suicide is important, it needs to be done safely.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBelow is guidance on how to talk about suicide safely, and tips for supportive messaging.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDo\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eGive people hope. Remind people that suicide is preventable.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDon't\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDon’t talk about suicide as though it is inevitable.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWhy\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSuicide is preventable. Hopelessness is a feeling many people who are suicidal or who die by suicide have in common. Work to create hope — talk about suicide prevention for individuals, whānau and communities.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDo\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSay the person “died by suicide” or “took their own life”.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDon't\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDon’t use the term “committed suicide”.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWhy\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSuicide is not a crime. The word ‘commit’ increases the stigma around suicide, both for people who have their own experience of suicidality and for the bereaved.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDo\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHonour the person’s life. Focus on who they were and what they loved about life.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDon't\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDon’t talk about the details of their death or glorify it. Avoid oversimplifying the death by saying the person was “called back to heaven” or “too gentle for this harsh world”.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWhy\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDetails about someone’s death are unnecessary and can be deeply distressing. Glorifying, romanticising and sensationalising suicide can be harmful to others at risk of suicide.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDo\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eName the hurt and grief that comes with a death by suicide. Say “We feel like we shouldn’t be here today”.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDon't\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDon’t say things like: “They are at peace\/in a better place now” or “This was part of God’s plan”.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWhy\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThese phrases might portray suicide as an inevitable outcome or suggest to vulnerable people that suicide is a way to deal with difficult situations. Instead, help to normalise the grief and give people permission to come to terms with their mamae\/pain and hurt.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDo\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eRemind people that grief takes the time it takes, and everyone grieves in their own way.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDon't\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDon’t use the word ‘closure’.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWhy\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e ‘Closure’ is a common misconception that implies an ‘end goal’ in grief. Grief is a process of ongoing understanding, and it always exists even if it changes over time.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDo\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eReassure the bereaved that nobody is to blame for this death. Remind people that suicide is complex and there is rarely a single cause of suicide.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDon't\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDon’t simplify or speculate about the causes of suicide (e.g. bullying, a relationship breakup or working in a particular profession).\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWhy\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSuicide is complex. Simplifying the causes of suicide or portraying suicide as a common reaction to tough times can normalise suicide, put more people at risk (if they identify with that cause) and contribute to misunderstandings about how suicide can be prevented.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDo\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTalk about mental health as something we all have, in the same way we all have physical health.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDon't\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDon’t use ‘mental health’ when you mean ‘mental distress’ or ‘mental illness’.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWhy\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAt any one time at least one in five of us will be experiencing mental distress or illness. We want people to know their mental health and wellbeing is something they can always strengthen, and they can live great lives.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDo\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKeep the safety and wellbeing of bereaved whānau and friends front of mind.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDon't\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDon’t portray suicide as a selfish act or focus on how it has harmed people bereaved by suicide.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWhy\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSuicide is not a ‘choice’, but rather a response to overwhelming pain, and the cognitive distortion accompanying that pain. Positioning suicide as a selfish act can increase the stigma around suicide and misunderstandings about it. It can also prevent people from seeking help or sharing how they feel.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDo\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAcknowledge suicide loss with humility, sadness and aroha.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDon't\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDon’t share details from suicide notes or details about the death (e.g. method or location).\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWhy\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThese details can be deeply distressing for the person’s friends and family, and could increase the suicide risk for someone who identifies with the person who died or who is experiencing their own suicidality.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDo\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eRemind people that help is available and that they should reach out for help if they need it.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDon't\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDon’t make political statements or comments about the current state of our society and\/or mental health system.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWhy\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis is a time for remembering the person who died and how they lived. While advocacy for change is valid, the days and weeks immediately after a suicide are not the time to do this.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDo\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eOffer comfort and encouragement\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDon't\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDon’t say things like: “We’ll never recover from this experience”.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWhy\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eGently support the understanding that over time, we learn to live alongside grief and loss and find our ‘new normal’.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDo\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAlways mention and provide details for help and support services.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDon't\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDon’t assume people know where and how to access help. Spell it out. Normalise help-seeking as a healthy and wise step to take.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eWhy\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHelp-seeking can carry stigma for some people. Encouraging help-seeking and talking openly about where and how to access support can help remove that stigma, boost team mental health and potentially save lives. \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eIncluding children and youth\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eEvidence-based research shows children and youth should be included in age-appropriate kōrero about suicide, as well as in a funeral or hui mate after a suicide.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf the bereaved whānau agrees, young ones can participate in ways that help them feel important and included. They may like to choose a waiata\/song, carry a photo, create a slideshow or write a message on the coffin.\u003c\/p\u003e\nWhen sharing kōrero around suicide with children and youth, the wairua\/spirit behind it is important. Kōrero honestly and with aroha. Use simple language children can easily understand – for example, you could say that “suicide is when somebody makes their body stop working”, or that “suicide is the word we use when someone does something to make themselves die”.\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003eIt’s important to remind children and young people that it is always best to talk to someone about how they are feeling, and that there are people to go to who can help them with their problems.\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003eFor more guidance on how to talk to young ones about suicide, visit \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/afterasuicide.nz\/\"\u003eHome | After a suicide\u003c\/a\u003e (see the section on Letting others know).\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eManaging safety at online funerals or hui mate\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf the funeral or hui mate will be livestreamed or shared online, check who the whānau would like to share the link with. Remind those who have access to not share it widely or on social media. For additional safety, you might want to enable password access.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf young people are attending, they should be supervised by an adult in case they become overwhelmed or have any questions. Include links to relevant helplines and support information in the livestream – you can find a list at the end of this guide.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eCreating a safe space for grief\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDo what you would do for other deaths – to do less is stigmatising; to do more is glorifying. – David Cairns, former DHB Suicide Prevention Coordinator, Canterbury\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHere are some tips to help you in the lead-up, during and after the funeral or hui mate.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eBefore the service\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSpend time with the bereaved whānau to build trust and get a sense of what kind of ceremony feels right for them.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003eCreate a connection with kaumātua or whānau leaders. You can plan the service together, keeping tika, pono and aroha at the forefront.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003eDon’t place your own judgements or beliefs about suicide on the bereaved. Simply support them through the process with aroha and compassion.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003eGive whānau the space and time they need to make decisions – feelings can change quickly in the days and weeks after a suicide.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003eYou might want to have one or more speakers chosen ahead of time. Ask them if they would like to have a support person with them.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003eIf whānau are considering an open microphone, make sure they’re aware this means less control over what people might say and how that could affect people attending the service.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003eUse the safe kōrero guidelines in this resource to help guide your planning.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003eIf the suicide death happened at home, the house may need blessing by a kaumātua, kuia or church minister before the funeral.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eCheck-in\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eThere can be a thin line between honouring the person who died and glorifying\/romanticising suicide. To navigate this, ask yourself: “Will this kōrero or approach make suicide sound like an option to those who are already vulnerable?”\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt is important for funeral providers to find the leaders in the bereaved whānau and mobilise them to lead the hui mate. This is to ensure what is wanted and needed by whānau at this time is followed. – Reverend Canon Brent Swann\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eDuring the service\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe role of the person leading the service is to create a safe holding environment for people to start their journey of grieving. – Reverend Sarah Moss\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003eAcknowledge the person who died with aroha. If you have permission from whānau, be honest and open about suicide being the cause of death.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eA farewell ceremony can be a powerful tool to start the process of recovery and healing. Encourage mourners to express their emotions and cry during the service if they want to, while also acknowledging everyone grieves differently and that’s okay.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRemind people that hope can live even in the darkest spaces, alongside sorrow and grief.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBe adaptable. People’s intense grief and other emotions can lead to some unexpected reactions and responses.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAcknowledge that people may be experiencing a lot of distress and encourage them to seek professional help and\/or support from those they trust.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eEnsure helpline information is available at the service. You might want to include a list of relevant numbers and support services at the back of the service sheet or order free resources from the Mental Health Foundation website.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eHui mate processes to support the bereaved whānau\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHui mate are not just about death but the whole ceremonial process of tuku roimata me te hūpē\/shedding of tears and mucus, poroporoaki\/commemorating and farewelling a loved one passed, and whakanui\/celebrating and acknowledging the person’s time on this earth.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt is important for kaumātua to uphold Te Taha Wairua\/the spiritual dimension through tikanga\/cultural customs and protocols. These might include:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eKarakia\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e– incantations, prayer or ritual chants recited throughout the hui mate. Utilised to open and close all parts of the hui mate proceedings, karakia holds a pivotal role in protecting, supporting and uplifting whānau and all attendees.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eHākari\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e– a ceremonial feast to commemorate the loved one passed and to hiki i te tapu\/lift the sacredness or any spiritual restrictions of the hui mate. After a suicide death, the hākari gives whānau the chance to noho tahi\/spend quality time together by sharing kai, kōrero and waiata to uplift each other’s minds and spirits before returning home.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePō whakamutunga \u003c\/strong\u003e– the final night of the hui mate whānau have in person with their loved one, when they can commemorate and celebrate the person’s life through story and song.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eTuku roimata, tuku hūpē \u003c\/strong\u003e– the expression of love, compassion and empathy through the shedding of tears and mucus. This physical and spiritual process allows whānau to express their extreme mamae and release it in a safe space.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eKoha\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e– an offering or contribution to support the bereaved whānau and assist with the running of the marae. Koha serves to remind the bereaved of the aroha and tautoko their whānau have for them.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf mixing cultural practices, whānau may need to decide which tikanga will take precedence. It may be helpful to reach out to local marae, community and\/or iwi for some extra guidance and support.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eAfter the service\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003eMake sure the bereaved whānau knows where to access ongoing support and grief counselling.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003eAs appropriate, take some time to check in on them in the days or weeks after the service.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003eFollowing a hui mate, the house of the bereaved whānau will need to be blessed. This is known as waerea. To help whānau step into a space of healing, the house has to be cleared of any tapu\/spiritual restrictions, prohibitions or taboo that may have inhabited the house or its possessions before, during or after the hui mate.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eKo te mahi waerea, koia pū te mahi whakamutunga mō te hui mate kia whakawātea te whare i ngā kino katoa. I te kuhunga atu o te whānau pani i te whare, ka takahi i te ara oranga mai i te pōuriuri kia puta anō ki te Ao Mārama.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe waerea process is the final piece that completes the hui mate. Its sole purpose is to clear the house of all negative things so when the whānau enters the house again, they traverse from the dark space of the hui mate back into the world of enlightenment.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eLooking after yourself\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eLeading a service for somebody who took their own life can take a toll on you. The same is true for everyone else working in this space, including mortuary staff, embalmers, reception staff, A\/V technicians, and others. Don’t hesitate to ask for help and support if you found an experience unsettling or distressing.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTo best serve those bereaved by suicide, you need to take care of your own physical, mental, emotional and spiritual hauora\/wellbeing first. Connect with things that matter to you, whether it’s by spending time with your whānau and friends, being in te taiao\/nature, practising your whakapono\/faith, or pursuing a hobby you love. Nurture connections with your colleagues and make the most of peer-to-peer support. Take time to reflect, review, and recharge.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eHokia ō maunga kia purea e ngā hau a Tāwhirimātea.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eReturn to your ancestral mountains to be cleansed by the winds of Tāwhirimātea.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eProfessional and peer supervision\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSuicide deaths are more complex than other deaths, so you might find supervision particularly useful. Professional supervision is a supportive and confidential process that allows you to explore and think about your own practice with a skilled, trained supervisor. Peer supervision is a similar process that occurs between colleagues. For Māori, supervision may include visiting kaumātua, kuia or elders.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTo find your supervision provider, ask your colleagues for a recommendation or contact a trained professional via:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003eNew Zealand Association of Counsellors \u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003eNew Zealand Association of Psychotherapists (NZAP) and Waka Oranga\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003eAotearoa New Zealand Association of Social Workers (ANZASW)\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003eThe Celebrant School\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003eCelebrants Aotearoa – the Celebrants’ Association of New Zealand\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003eThe Grief Centre\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eWorried someone is thinking of suicide?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePeople bereaved by suicide are at greater risk of dying by suicide themselves, especially if they’re isolated, lack access to support, have existing mental health issues and\/or a history of loss and suicidality.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you’re worried someone might be thinking about suicide, don’t be afraid to ask them directly, in a gentle and compassionate way. This will not put the thought in their head – it may give them permission to open up and save their life. Listen to them and let them know there is help out there. We’ve included a list of relevant resources and key support services at the end of this resource.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf the person is in immediate danger, call 111. If they have reached crisis point, you can take them to the nearest hospital emergency department or call your local Mental Health Crisis Assessment Team (see \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth.org.nz\/help\" title=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth.org.nz\/help\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eI Need Help Now | Mental Health Foundation\u003c\/a\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth.org.nz\/help\"\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e). Try to stay calm and don’t leave them alone until help arrives.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eSupport services and resources\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eRelevant organisations and resources\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eAoake te Rā\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.aoaketera.org.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.aoaketera.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFree counselling support for individuals and whānau bereaved by suicide. You can refer yourself or somebody else online, via email or by calling\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"Tel:0800000053\" title=\"0800 000 053\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 000 053\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eAsian Helpline - Asian Family Services\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.asianfamilyservices.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.asianfamilyservices.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e call \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800862342\" title=\"0800 862 342\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 862 342\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFree and confidential services available in eight languages.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eCitizens Advice Bureau (CAB)\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.cab.org.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.cab.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e call \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800367222\" title=\"0800 367 222\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 367 222\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eCAB may know about support groups and grief programmes in the local area. They can also connect the bereaved with a budgeting service to help them manage funeral costs.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eHuarahi Ora National Bereavement Triage and Coordination service\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAfter a death by suspected suicide, Huarahi Ora exists to guide individuals and whānau through this early stage with care, compassion and coordination.\u003cbr\u003eFor information on how to contact this service, please see\u003cbr\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.afterasuicide.nz\/\" style=\"font-size: 0.875rem;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.afterasuicide.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan style=\"font-size: 0.875rem;\"\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eThe Grief Centre (Auckland)\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003e\n\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.griefcentre.org.nz\/\"\u003eLoss and Grief Counselling Support | Grief Centre\u003c\/a\u003e call \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800331333\" title=\"0800 331 333\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 331 333\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eLoss and grief counselling, resources and support groups for youth, adults, families and whānau experiencing any form of significant loss\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eGrief Support Services (Western Bay of Plenty)\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.griefsupport.org.nz\/\"\u003eGrief And Loss Counselling | Grief Support Services | Tauranga\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eLoss and Grief Centre (Kāpiti)\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/lossandgrief.co.nz\/\"\u003eLoss \u0026amp; Grief Kapiti – He Waka Eke Noa – Journeying Together\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eLoss and Grief Centre (Southland)\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.lossandgriefcentre.com\/\"\u003eLoss and Grief Centre Southland, Invercargill\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eLifeKeepers\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.lifekeepers.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.lifekeepers.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eA national suicide prevention training programme, free and available to New Zealanders over the age of 18 who are likely to interact with people at risk of suicide.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eVaka Tautua\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.vakatautua.co.nz\/0800-ola-lelei\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.vakatautua.co.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eA national “by Pacific, for Pacific” health, disability and social services provider. \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eFurther information and resources\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eAfter a Suicide\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.afterasuicide.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.afterasuicide.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePractical information and guidance after a suicide death.\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eChatsafe by Orygen\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.orygen.org.au\/chatsafe\/remembering\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.orygen.org.au\/chatsafe\/remembering\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTips on how to talk online about someone who has died by suicide.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eCoronial Services of New Zealand\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/coronialservices.justice.govt.nz\" title=\"Coronial Services\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ewww.coronialservices.justice.govt.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/coronialservices.justice.govt.nz\/coronial-services\/\"\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe Coronial Services’ website has a pamphlet on coronial services in New Zealand when someone dies suddenly.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eLeVa\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.leva.co.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.leva.co.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eInformation and support for Pasifika families on mental health, addiction and suicide prevention. Includes a resource on supporting Pacific communities bereaved by suicide developed by Hibiscus Research.\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/leva.co.nz\/resources\/pacific-suicide-postvention-supporting-pacific-communities\/\"\u003ewww.leva.co.nz\/resources\/pacific-suicide-postvention-supporting-pacific-communities\/\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eLGBTIQA+ Suicide Postvention Response Plan\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.switchboard.org.au\/s\/Switchboard-LGBTIQA-Postvention-Final-Launch.pdf\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.switchboard.org.au\/s\/Switchboard-LGBTIQA-Postvention-Final-Launch.pdf\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e General guidelines developed by Switchboard Victoria for LGBTIQA+ communities and peer organisations involved in providing postvention.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSee also the fact sheet LGBTIQA+ and Suicide Loss at \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.charlee.org.au\/fact-sheets\"\u003eLGBTIQA+ Suicide Prevention Fact Sheets\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eMental Health Foundation\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/suicide-loss\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.mentalhealth.org.nz\/suicide-loss\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003eVisit \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth.org.nz\/resources\/resource\/grief-after-a-sudden-or-unexpected-bereavement\" title=\"Grief and loss after a sudden or unexpected bereavement\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eGrief after a sudden or unexpected bereavement | Mental Health Foundation\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e for guidance on dealing with grief and loss after a sudden or unexpected bereavement.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003eVisit \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth.org.nz\/groups\" title=\"Community Support Groups\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eCommunity Support Groups | Mental Health Foundation\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e to find Suicide Bereavement Support Groups to find a peer support group in your area.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eOther agencies or groups to contact may include:\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003elocal whānau and community support agencies\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003echurches or faith groups\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003emarae\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003ecultural centres\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003ecommunity centres, community workers\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003ecounsellors, school guidance counsellors or counselling agencies\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003esocial workers\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003edoctors, community health centres, or primary health organisations\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan\u003ecommunity mental health teams or hauora Māori mental health teams\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eFree helplines\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBelow is a list of free, 24\/7 services that offer support, information and help:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003e1737, need to talk?\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.1737.org.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.1737.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"Tel:1737\" title=\"1737 Need to talk?\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eCall\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca href=\"SMS:1737\" title=\"text 1737\" target=\"_blank\"\u003etext\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e1737\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003efor support from a trained counsellor.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eLifeline\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.lifeline.org.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.lifeline.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eCall\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"Tel:0800543354\" title=\"0800 543 354\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 543 354\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003efor counselling and support.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eYouthline\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.youthline.co.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.youthline.co.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eCall\u003cstrong\u003e \u003ca href=\"Tel:0800376633\" title=\"0800 376 633\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0800 376 633\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e, \u003ca href=\"SMS:234\" title=\"text 234\" target=\"_blank\"\u003etext\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e234\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e, webchat at \u003ca title=\"Webchat\" href=\"https:\/\/youthline.co.nz\/web-chat-counselling\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eyouthline.co.nz,\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/youthlinenz\/\" title=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/youthlinenz\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eDM on Instagram\u003c\/a\u003e, \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"Message 6498865696\" href=\"https:\/\/api.whatsapp.com\/send?phone=6498865696\" target=\"_blank\"\u003emessage on WhatsApp 09 886 56 96\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eHealthline\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.health.govt.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.healthy.org.nz\/\"\u003eHealthline NZ\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eCall\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 611 116\" href=\"Tel:0800611116\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 611 116\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003efor advice from trained registered nurses and experienced health staff.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eDepression Helpline\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.depression.org.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.depression.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eCall\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 111 757\" href=\"Tel:0800111757\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 111 757\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003eto talk to a trained counsellor about how you are feeling or to ask any questions.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eSamaritans\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.samaritans.org.nz\/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.samaritans.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eCall\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0800 726 666\" href=\"Tel:0800726666\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 726 666\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003efor confidential support to anyone who is lonely or in emotional distress.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eTAUTOKO Suicide Crisis Helpline\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eCall \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca rel=\"noopener\" title=\"0508 828 865\" href=\"Tel:0508828865\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e0508 828 865\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e if you, or someone you know, may be thinking about suicide, for support from a trained counsellor\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eNgā Mihi\/Acknowledgements\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eE kore e oti ngā mihi ki ngā whānau, ki ngā hapori, ki ngā tāngata katoa i kaha tautoko mai ā wānanga nei, ā tinana nei, ā tuhinga nei kia hua mai ai ko tēnei taonga. Ko koutou rā e whakatinana ana i ngā kōrero a kui mā, a koro mā e kīia nei: “Ko te kai a te rangatira he kōrero, ko te tohu a te rangatira he manaaki, ko te mahi a te rangatira he whakatira i tōna iwi.” Mei kore ake ko koutou katoa.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWe’ve created this resource in collaboration with people with lived experience of suicide bereavement, grief counsellors, experienced funeral directors, church ministers, celebrants, the MHF Suicide Bereavement Advisory Group, as well as whānau and hapori across the motu. We acknowledge and thank everyone who generously gave their knowledge, time and support to its development. Mauri Ora.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDesign by Tiaki Terekia\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePhotography by Marsters Media\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/new.healthed.govt.nz\/products\/funerals-in-aotearoa-after-a-death-by-suicide-guidance-for-bereaved-whanau-and-those-supporting-them-he2612\"\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":42682535543012,"sku":"HE2613","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/files\/HE2613.png?v=1774928878"},{"product_id":"chur-all-good-bro","title":"CHUR! All good, bro? Tips on how to kōrero\/talk with the bro about the tough stuff - HE2610","description":"\u003ch4\u003e\n\u003cspan\u003eNOTE: To order this free resource, please visit the Mental Health Foundation's \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/shop.mentalhealth.org.nz\/product\/445-chur-all-good-bro-\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Mental Health Foundation resources\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"\u003eonline shop\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan\u003e.\u003c\/span\u003e\n\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMarch 2022\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch1\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eCHUR! ALL GOOD, BRO?\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/h1\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eTips on how to kōrero\/talk with the bro about the tough stuff\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMental Health Foundation of New Zealand\u003cbr\u003emauri tū, mauri ora\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 style=\"padding-left: 30px;\" data-mce-style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"\u003eKa haere takirua ngā mea katoa.\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003ch3 style=\"padding-left: 30px;\" data-mce-style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"\u003eNothing lives in isolation.\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e- Papa Rereata Makiha\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis resource will help you tautoko\/support fellow tāne Māori going through a hard time. You’ll find heaps of tips on how to kōrero\/talk with the bro about the tough stuff, and there’s also a handy pull-out card you can share with him.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou’re an absolute legend for being here for your bro – your tautoko could save a life.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eTāne and the three baskets of knowledge\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis pūrākau tells the story of Tāne, Whiro and the three baskets of knowledge. We acknowledge all versions of this pūrākau and pay homage to the different iwi variations and deities within them, such as Tiki and Tāwhaki, and Tūmatauenga and Rongo-mā-Tāne. Feel free to be guided by the version of this pūrākau as is told in your rohe.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTāne, the god of humanity and the forest, ascended through the heavens to the uppermost realm to obtain the three kete\/baskets of knowledge from Io, the supreme being. Tāne knew the journey wouldn’t be easy – every step on his way up was riddled with challenges sent to him by his brother Whiro. Despite great difficulties, Tāne reached the pinnacle and brought back to earth the sacred knowledge of the three kete for Māori and mankind. The Poutama pattern, found in Māori weaving and plaiting, symbolises Tāne’s triumph. But for us te ira tangata\/human beings, the Poutama lays a path to pursue and attain mātauranga\/knowledge and waiora\/positive\u003cbr\u003ewellbeing. Its two sides tell us that nothing lives in isolation – as a bro you represent one side of the Poutama, the other side is the friend you’re supporting. Together you climb up the Poutama toward Mauri Ora, a space of positive mental health and wellbeing.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eLook out for the signs\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou noticed your bro doesn’t seem like his usual self lately. Maybe he just seems a little off, or maybe the warning signs are more obvious.\u003cbr data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003eYour friend may be going through a hard time or even thinking about suicide if he is:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e• Showing major changes from his usual behaviour.\u003cbr data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003e• No longer doing stuff he once enjoyed.\u003cbr data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003e• Shutting himself off from whānau and friends.\u003cbr data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003e• Going through intense mood swings.\u003cbr data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003e• Looking sad, angry, whakamā\/ashamed or irritated.\u003cbr data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003e• Turning to drugs or alcohol a lot more than usual.\u003cbr data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003e• Not eating\/sleeping, or eating\/sleeping much more or less than usual.\u003cbr data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003e• No longer looking after his health or appearance.\u003cbr data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003e• Saying or posting dark or negative stuff about himself or the world.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eYou have your bro’s back and want to help him ride this out, but knowing what to say can be bloody hard!\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHaving a yarn about feelings or personal stuff may feel a bit weird at first, but if you can push through it, your tautoko can help the bro more than you think.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWe’ll show you how to do that in \u003cstrong\u003efour CHUR steps:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eC\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cspan style=\"color: #808080;\"\u003eONNECT\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cbr\u003eH\u003cspan style=\"color: #808080;\"\u003eEAR HIM OUT\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cbr\u003eU\u003cspan style=\"color: #808080;\"\u003ePLIFT\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cbr\u003eR\u003cspan style=\"color: #808080;\"\u003eEASSURE AND REFER\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eStep 1: CONNECT\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWaiho i te toipoto, kaua i te toiroa.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/em\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003eLet us keep close together, not far apart.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePick a time when you’re both relaxed. You can start the kōrero when you’re out fishing together, during a drive or a hīkoi\/hike.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYou can break the ice with something simple, like: “Everything good, bro?” or “How’s it going? Keen for a catch up?”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYour bro might not be ready to open up just yet. That’s okay, too. You can say you’re worried about him because of the things you’ve noticed. Tell him you’ve got his back and when he’s ready, you’ll be there.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTalk to each other, it doesn’t always have to be heavy.\u003cbr\u003eIt could be over food or an activity you both enjoy.\u003cbr\u003e– Tāne Māori from Te Tai Tonga\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eStep 2: HEAR HIM OUT\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003cem\u003eHe taonga te whakarongo.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003eThe ability to listen is a gift.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhen your bro starts talking about what he’s been going through, you should:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKeep calm and really listen to what he’s saying.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTry not to judge – even if you don’t totally get it or agree with\u003cbr\u003eeverything.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKnow it’s okay to not have all the answers – you can look for those\u003cbr\u003etogether later.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNot assume he wants your advice. Just acknowledge things are a\u003cbr\u003ebit of a mess right now and try to make him feel heard.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNot feel like you need to handle the situation on your own. Put your\u003cbr\u003eheads together and figure out who else should be in his support crew.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMore often than not, the feeling of judgement is hard to navigate.\u003cbr\u003eShow them you’re there purely as a friend without judging them.\u003cbr\u003e– Tāne Māori from Tāmaki Makaurau\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eStep 3: UPLIFT\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003cem\u003eWhāia atu rā ngā tapuwae o Tāne.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003ePursue the sacred footprints of Tāne.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhen the time is right, find a space to kōrero with your bro about his passions, stuff he likes doing, what he’s good at, or what helped him cope in the past. It’s these little things that can make a massive difference.\u003cbr\u003eHere are some ideas you can share with him:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSpend time in te taiao\/nature.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePlay sports or do a gym session.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFind a creative outlet (arts, music, dance...).\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHang out with the bros.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLend a hand to someone.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKōrero with other tāne who have been through something similar.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eReconnect with Māori culture, identity, and Te Reo.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePray or recite karakia.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLearn about the maramataka\/Māori lunar calendar and how it can\u003cbr\u003esupport your wellbeing.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePrepare and share good kai\/food.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eExercise is my go-to. Activities like surfing, biking and running.\u003cbr\u003eCatching up with good friends is important, even if we don’t talk about\u003cbr\u003ewhy I’m feeling down. The main thing is the positive feeling of just\u003cbr\u003eknowing people care and want to spend time with me.\u003cbr\u003e– Tāne Māori from Te Tai Tonga\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eStep 4: REASSURE AND REFER\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003cem\u003eAupiki mai, auheke mai. Ko tāua tonu tāua.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003eI got you through the ups and downs.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYou can work on some small goals or steps together, like going for a run or having a jam the next day.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eContinue to check in on him and encourage him to keep going.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eOffer to help connect him with the right support. This could be a kaumātua, kuia or professional who has the wisdom or experience in dealing with the issues he’s facing.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThings can be tricky if your bro keeps avoiding you or turning down your help. You can give him a bit more space, but \u003cstrong\u003edon’t give up on him or lose contact.\u003c\/strong\u003e If the situation is looking serious, turn to someone you (or your bro) trust. It could be someone close to your bro – his whānau, a mutual friend, a teacher or a kaumātua. He may get mad at you at first, but that’s okay – what matters is that he gets the help he needs.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhat I would say to a struggling friend is that help is there if you want it. You’re not being strong by keeping it on the inside.You’re not being weak if you reach out to a bro.\u003cbr\u003e– Tāne Māori from Te Tai Hauāuru\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eIf you’re worried your bro is thinking about suicide\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you believe your bro may be thinking about killing himself, don’t be afraid to ask him directly. The question will not put the thought in his head. When people are having suicidal thoughts, they’re often not thinking clearly. That’s why having an open kōrero can save their life.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf your friend says he has thought about suicide:\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ctable\u003e\n\u003ctbody\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"231\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eDo\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"231\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eDon’t\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"231\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003eTry to stay calm.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"231\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003eGet angry or start judging him.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"231\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003eTake him seriously.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"231\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003eWave him off or say stuff like “snap out of it” or “it’s not that bad”.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"231\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003eLet him know he’s made the right call to tell you.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"231\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003eTry to solve his problems for him.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"231\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003eTell him there’s help out there, it makes a difference, and he’s not alone in this.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"231\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003ePromise to keep this a secret\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003c\/tbody\u003e\n\u003c\/table\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIf you’re worried your bro may take his life or is very distressed or agitated, take him to the nearest emergency department or call the local mental health assessment unit. Just stay with him until help arrives and keep calm. If your friend is in physical danger right now and is threatening to kill himself, call 111.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFinding the right words when you kōrero with your bro about suicide can be scary as. Here’s what he might say, and some ideas of what you could say in return.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ctable width=\"100%\"\u003e\n\u003ctbody\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 259.333px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eIf he says…\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 259.333px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eYou could say…\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 259.333px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYes, I have been thinking about killing myself.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 259.333px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou’ve done the right thing telling me.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI know you’re doing it really tough right now, but you’re not alone here.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI’ve got your back. Let’s get you some help.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 259.333px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNo, I’m fine.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 259.333px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI’m here if you ever need to kōrero.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI’m asking because I’ve noticed that…\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 259.333px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou wouldn’t get it.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 259.333px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTell me what’s been happening, bro?\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMaybe I won’t totally get it, but you matter to me and I can listen.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThere’s this number you can call if you need a chat or want some advice.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 259.333px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWho are you going to tell?\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 259.333px;\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI want to make sure you’ll be okay. Let’s figure out a plan to keep you safe, eh?\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003c\/tbody\u003e\n\u003c\/table\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eLooking after yourself\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSupporting someone through a rough patch can be hard mahi\/work, so take good care of yourself, too. You can only help others when you’re in a good place yourself. Make sure you:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGet enough sleep and exercise; eat well.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTake time for yourself and the things you enjoy.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSet boundaries – you’re a friend, not a counsellor.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eInvolve other people in supporting your bro – you can’t (and shouldn’t) do everything yourself.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eCHUR BRO, let's get you feeling all good again\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTāne and Whiro are like two wolves of the mind. Tāne stands for knowledge and wellbeing; Whiro represents fear, anxiety and depression. These wolves are in constant battle with each other, but the one that comes out victorious is always the one we choose to feed.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eCheck out these four CHUR steps you can take to nourish your inner Tāne and get back to feeling all good again.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eStep 1\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eCome to terms with the mamae\/pain\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTry to accept the mamae and let go of what you can't control. Know that you won't always feel like this and there are heaps of things you can do to get better.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eStep 2\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eHave a yarn\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eOpening up to someone can take a lot of guts. When you're in a dark space, it's hard to see things clearly or from a different perspective. That's why having a kōrero with someone you love and trust can make a huge difference. You can also reach out to a kaumātua, kuia, tohunga, hauora\/health provider, counsellor or helpline.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eStep 3\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eUplift your spirit\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFuel your passions and do something you enjoy, care about, or that you're good at. It could be hanging out with whānau or the bros, playing a sport, making music, volunteering... Whatever makes you feel sweet.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eStep 4\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eRemember your bros\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eLean on your bros, your whānau and your support crew. Give it time and trust the process.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eWhere to go for more help\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you’re thinking about suicide and things are at crisis point for you right now, go to your local hospital emergency department or call your local mental health crisis assessment team. If you’re in immediate danger, call 111.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFor more info and support, you can reach out to your local Māori health provider; Whānau Ora provider; Kia Piki te Ora coordinator; marae, hapū or iwi service; GP; a school counsellor or a counselling service.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt’s important to find something that works for you. If you don’t get the help you need the first time, keep trying until you do.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHere’s a list of some of the free, 24\/7 services that can help when you want to have a confidential chat:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003e1737\u003c\/strong\u003e, need to talk? - Call or text \u003cstrong\u003e1737\u003c\/strong\u003e for support from a trained\u003cbr\u003ecounsellor.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLifeline - Call \u003cstrong\u003e0800 543 354\u003c\/strong\u003e or text \u003cstrong\u003e4357\u003c\/strong\u003e for counselling and support.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYouthline - Call \u003cstrong\u003e0800 376 633\u003c\/strong\u003e, text \u003cstrong\u003e234\u003c\/strong\u003e, email \u003cstrong\u003etalk@youthline.co.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e or go to website for an online chat.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDepression Helpline - Call \u003cstrong\u003e0800 111 757\u003c\/strong\u003e or text \u003cstrong\u003e4202\u003c\/strong\u003e to talk to a trained counsellor.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSamaritans - Call \u003cstrong\u003e0800 72 66 66\u003c\/strong\u003e for someone who will listen.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eNgā Mihi\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eE rere ana ngā mihi aroha ki ngā whānau, ki ngā hapori, ki ngā tāngata katoa i kaha tautoko mai i tēnei kaupapa whakahirahira.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMei kore ake ko koutou! Nā koutou tēnei taonga e aku rangatira!\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWe’d like to give a big mihi to everyone around the motu who shared their time, knowledge and space with us and helped to bring this taonga to life.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eCHUR!\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eISBN 978-1-98-855418-1 PRINT\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eISBN 978-1-98-855419-8 DIGITAL\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHE2610\u003cbr\u003eFirst published March 2022\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":42710980690148,"sku":"HE2610","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/products\/HE2610Chur_Allgood_bro.jpg?v=1649027012"},{"product_id":"te-whakarite-i-tetahi-kaupapa-arai-i-te-mate-whakamaori-he2614","title":"Te whakarite i tētahi kaupapa ārai i te mate whakamaori - HE2614","description":"\u003ch4\u003e\n\u003cspan\u003eNOTE: To order this free resource, please visit the Mental Health Foundation's \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/shop.mentalhealth.org.nz\/product\/447-te-whakarite-i-t-tahi-kaupapa-rai-i-te-mate-whakamomori?categoryId=45\" title=\"Mental Health Foundation resources\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"\u003eonline shop\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan\u003e.\u003c\/span\u003e\n\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch1\u003eTe whakarite i tētahi kaupapa ārai i te mate whakamomori\u003c\/h1\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNā tō rourou, nā taku rourou,\u003cbr\u003eka ora ai te iwi.\u003cbr\u003eWith your basket and my basket,\u003cbr\u003ethe people will thrive.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNā Tiaki Terekia te whakaahua nei i waihanga mō te Hauora Hinengaro o Aotearoa hei whakatinanahia te whakataukī nei. Ko te hanga o te whakaahua nei he kete e kōrero ana mō te mahi tahi a te hapori i raro iho i te marumaru o te kotahitanga. Ko ngā taha e whā o te whakaahua nei e whakanuia ana te rangatira nei a Tā Meihana Durie me tana  taonga ki a tātou arā ko Te Whare Tapa Whā.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eHe Kupu Whakataki\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMāu tēnei rauemi mehemea e hiahia ana koe kia: \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ewhakaritea he kaupapa ārai i te mate whakamomori ki tētahi\u003cbr\u003ewāhi tūmatanui, mā tētahi huinga tāngata rānei.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ehaumaru te kōrerotanga mō te mate whakamomori ki tētahi\u003cbr\u003ekaupapa tūmatanui.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eKei tēnā, kei tēnā o tātou te āheinga ki te whakaheke i te pāmamaetanga o te mate whakamomori i roto i te hapori. Heoi anō, ahakoa te pai o te takunetanga, tērā ētahi kaupapa ka piki pea i te tūraru o te mate whakamomori mō ētahi tāngata whakaraerae.\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKo tō whāinga matua ka whakahaerehia ana he kaupapa, ko te whakahiki i te tangata, ko te whakamōhio, ko te tuku hoki i te manawa ora. Ka tae whakaraerae atu pea ētahi o ngā tāngata, nō reira me rongo rawa rātou i ngā korero manawa ora i a koe, otirā i a koutou ko tō rātou hapori - kia mātua mōhio hoki rātou he rauemi, he ratonga tautoko e wātea ana ki a rātou.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKo tōna tikanga, ko tā tāu kaupapa, he:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhakatupu i te mārohirohitanga, he whakatū i te hapori hoki\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhakawhānui i te mōhiotanga me ngā pūkenga mō ngā rautaki whakahaumaru o te ārai i te mate whakamomori, ka pēhea e tiaki i te tūrarutanga, kia tautoko hoki i ngā tāngata e kōhukihuki ana\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhakatairanga i te huarahi rapu āwhina, kia whakawhiwhia hoki te marea ki te manaakitanga tōtika\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePoipoi i te ariā o te manawa ora, i te tūhonohono me te tautoko\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTaunaki i te mahitahi me te tūhononga i waenga i ngā ratonga tautoko me te hapori\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTuku i ētahi kōrero āwhina, rauemi hoki\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhakatitina i te tangata.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKo tā tēnei rauemi, he tuku whakaaro me nga rautaki tino whaitake ki te ārai i te mate whakamomori, kia ora pai, kia hiki hoki i te ūtonga i a koe otirā te whakaminenga ka tae atu, tae atu ki ngā kaiwhakarite, me ngā kaikōrero o te kaupapa ārai i te mate whakamomori. He mea waihanga nā runga i ngā kōrero ki ngā hapori me ngā mātanga ārai i te mate whakamomori, ka āwhina tēnei puka ārahi i a koe ki te whakamahere i tētahi kaupapa hei tautoko i tō hapori.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eNgā Pou e Whā\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKua whakamahi mātou i Ngā Pou e Whā hei poupou, kia whai tūāpapa koe ki te whakahaere i tētahi kaupapa haumaru, i tētahi kaupapa whaitake hoki. Mā te whakamahi i ia pou koe e ārahi, e āwhina kia whakahaerehia tētahi kaupapa whakaihiihi i te hapori me ngā tāngata katoa ka whai wāhi atu.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eHe aha ai\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003etō taukunetanga, tō pūtakenga rānei\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eKo wai\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNgā ringa hāpai o te kaupapa ngā kaiwhakahaere, ngā kaikōrero me te hunga ka tae atu\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eMe Pēhea\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ee kōrero mō te mate whakamomori\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eKi hea\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKia āta wānanga ki hea tū ai tō kaupapa\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eHE AHA AI? - tō takunetanga, tō pūtakenga rānei\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMe noho mai ko ‘te pūtakenga’ hei uho o ngā kaupapa ārai i te mate whakamomori katoa, i tētahi tūāhua rānei ki reira kōrero tūmatanui ai tētahi mō te kaupapa o te mate whakamomori.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMā te mārama i te pūtakenga o tō kaupapa te toenga o ngā mahi whakarite e ārahi, kia noho mātāmua ai te haumarutanga i tōna tīmatanga.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eHei tauira:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ehe kaupapa rānei tēnei hei tautoko i tētahi hapori e noho pani ana\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ehei tuku kōrero, tuku rauemi hoki kia tautokohia ngā whānau\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ehei whanake i te mōhiotanga o te puna tautoko e wātea ana mō\u003cbr\u003ete hunga e noho taumaha ana\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ehei hono i te taura here me te mātauranga o ngā rāngai tautoko\u003cbr\u003eā-rohe?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTērā pea he nui ake ō take i te kotahi. Whakarārangihia mai te katoa ki konei.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp style=\"padding-left: 30px;\" data-mce-style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"\u003e\u003cspan style=\"color: #2b00ff;\" data-mce-style=\"color: #2b00ff;\"\u003eRārangi arowhai: He aha koe e whakahaere nei i \u003c\/span\u003e\u003cspan style=\"color: #2b00ff;\" data-mce-style=\"color: #2b00ff;\"\u003etēnei kaupapa?\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp style=\"padding-left: 30px;\" data-mce-style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"\u003e\u003cspan style=\"color: #2b00ff;\" data-mce-style=\"color: #2b00ff;\"\u003eHe aha tāu e hiahia nei kia riro i te whakaminenga ka tae atu \u003c\/span\u003e\u003cspan style=\"color: #2b00ff;\" data-mce-style=\"color: #2b00ff;\"\u003eki tō kaupapa?\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003e\u003cspan style=\"color: #2b00ff;\" data-mce-style=\"color: #2b00ff;\"\u003e(te mōhiotanga, te mātauranga, he pūkenga hoki\/rānei?)\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eKO WAI - mā e tautoko ai tō kaupapa?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI kō atu i tēnā, whakaarohia ko wai te hunga ka whai wāhi atu ki tō kaupapa, ā, rapua te huarahi ki te manaaki i a rātou kia haumaru rawa rātou. E kōrero pū ana mō te whakaminenga ka tae atu, mōu me ērā atu kaiwhakarite me ngā kaikōrero hoki.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eHe kaupapa aronganui ā-ngākau te mate whakamomori - he mea tino hira kia kaua te whakaminenga e hoki kōhukihuki atu, nā te mea ka whakapiki pea ēnei ariā i te tūraru o te mate whakamomori.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMe whakaaroaro rawa e koe ko wai ka tae atu ki te kaupapa hei kaitautoko kia whakaheke i te kohukihuki, kia whakatū āhuru mōwai haumaru, manawa ora hoki.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eNgā kaiwhakarite me ngā kaikorero\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHei kaiwhakarite, ka whakatauria e koe te taumata mō te kaupapa, ā, mātua rā, he pānga nui tō te taumata o te āhuru ka whakaratoa e koe, ki te taumata e angitū ai te kaupapa.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHe rārangi ārahi noa iho te rārangi arowhai ki raro iho nei - ka rerekē ngā mea me whakaaroaro e ai ki te momo kaupapa me ngā kaikōrero ka pōhiritia mai. Hei tauira, ka rerekē ngā whakaaro mō te wānanga i te marae i tēnā o te kaikōrero i tētahi kura, i tētahi kaupapa tūmatanui rānei mā te hapori.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eHe rārangi arowhai ā-haumaru mō ō kaiwhakarite me ō kaikōrero:\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eE mārama ana te kaiwhakarite\/ngā kaikōrero ki ngā ara haumaru me ngā ara hīrokiroki ki te kōrero mō te mate whakamomori? E mōhio ana rānei rātou me aweawe rawa ngā rongo kōrero, e manawa ora ai te marea?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cem\u003e(Tirohia ‘me pēhea e kōrero ā-haumaru mō te mate whakamomori’ kei te\u003c\/em\u003e \u003cstrong\u003ewhārangi 12\u003c\/strong\u003e)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHe kanohi kitea rānei tō tō kaiwhakarite\/ō kaikōrero ki tō hapori? Ka taea rānei e ō rātou ake wheako, kapapori, ō rātou kōkohu rānei, te tūhono ki te whakaminenga kia haumarutia rātou? E mōhio ana rānei rātou kia kaua e kōrero mō ngā ara whakatutuki i te whakamomori, he taea nō tēnei ara pea kia tīmataria?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHe wheako whaiaro rānei tō te kaiwhakarite\/ngā kaikōrero me te whakamomori? Tērā pea kua whai wheako whakamātau i te whakamomori, ngā whakaaro whakamomori, kare ā-roto hoki, kua riro rānei pea tētahi i te whakamomori. Ki te pērā, kua rite rānei rātou ki te kōrero mō (t)ā rātou ake wheako? Me whai rautaki tiaki pai, kaitautoko hoki hei taua rangi.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKia mahara ake, me rite tonu te kōrerohia o ngā ara whai āwhina mā te marea - āpitihia ngā taipitopito mō ngā rōpū tautoko ā-rohe i roto i ngā pānui, me whakaatu atu kia kitea rawa rānei ngā rauemi ki tō kaupapa.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMehemea e puare ana te papa kia whakatakoto whakaaro e wai ake rānei, kua kitea rānei e au tētahi tangata tika ki te whakahaere me te ārahi i ngā kōrero, e haumaru ai ngā tāngata katoa?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eTe Whakaminenga\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKa whakaaro ana koe mō te whakaminenga me ō rātou haumarutanga, me whai whakaaro hoki ki ēnei:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKua tae atu te whakaminenga ki te ako (te hunga ngaio e hiahia ana kia whanaketia ō rātou pūkenga), kua tae atu ki te kōrero mō ā rātou ake wheako, he hapori rānei kua whakakotahi ki te kōrero tahi?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKa pēhea tō tautoko i te hunga ka tae atu? Ka whai rānei koe:\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ekia tae mārika atu ētahi kaiwhakamahereora ki te kaupapa, he ruinga pepa, he rauemi ā-tā rānei?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ei ngā kōrero mō ngā ratonga me ngā nama waea hauora hinengaro ā-rohe, ā-motu hoki? Me hāngai pū ngā nama waea me ngā ratonga ā-rohe ki tō whakaminenga\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ekia mārama te kite atu i te hunga tautoko (e mau koti muramura ana)?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ei tētahi wāhi mārire hei wāhi taupua mō te tangata, he wāhi rānei ki te tūhono ki te hunga tautoko?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMehemea kei te ipurangi tō kaupapa, me tuku whānui rawa ngā tuihono mō ngā ratonga\/nama waea tōtika ki āu rauemi me āu whakatairanga katoa mā te whakaminenga.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp style=\"padding-left: 30px;\" data-mce-style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"\u003e\u003cspan style=\"color: #2b00ff;\" data-mce-style=\"color: #2b00ff;\"\u003eHe Rārangi Arowhai: He aha ngā rautaki tautoko ka whakaritea mai e koe ki te hāpai ake i te haumarutanga o tō whakaminenga? \u003cem\u003e(He mātārere nā Te Tūāpapa o te Hauora Hinengaro \/ e toru ngā kaiwhakamahereora e noho marara ana ki te rūma)\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eMe whai wāhi mai ngā mātanga\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eHei kaiwhakarite, he mea nui mō te haumarutanga o te katoa kia whakamōhio atu koe ki ngā mātanga, kia whai wāhi mai rānei ngā mātanga o tō hapori kua whakangunguhia, ā, e wātea ana ki te āwhina.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKa taea hoki te hunga e whakapono nuitia ana e te hapori, pēnei i ngā kaumātua, ngā pakeke, ki te āwhina ki te whakarite i te kaupapa, ki te noho mai hoki hei kaitautoko mō ētahi atu hei taua rangi.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMehemea ka whai wāhi mai tētahi hapori ā-kura, me whakamōhio atu\/rapu āwhina hoki i te kāhui whakahaere o te kura, e mōhio ai rātou i te pānga ki ā rātou rangatahi.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eE āki ana mātou i a koe kia tūtakina atu\/whakapā atu ki ngā tāngata tōtika i mua i te kaupapa - hei tauira, te kaiārahi ā-rohe ārai i te mate whakamomori, ngā rōpū ārai, rōpū manaaki ā-rohe hoki, he hunga ngaio hauora hinengaro anō rānei. Ka taea pea e ēnei tāngata te āwhina ki te whakamahere i tō kaupapa kia tika rā hoki ngā rongo kōrero.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp style=\"padding-left: 30px;\" data-mce-style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"\u003e\u003cspan style=\"color: #2b00ff;\" data-mce-style=\"color: #2b00ff;\"\u003eHe Rārangi Arowhai: Ko wai o tō hapori ka whakamōhiotia atu e koe, ka whai wāhi mai rānei? \u003cem\u003e(Kaiārahi ārai i te mate whakamomori \/ kaiwhakamahereora ki te tautoko i ngā tāngata e kōhukihuki ana\/he pakeke o te hapori e whakaponotia ana, \u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cem\u003e\u003cspan style=\"color: #2b00ff;\" data-mce-style=\"color: #2b00ff;\"\u003ee kauanuanuhia ana)\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eME PĒHEA e kōrero mō te mate whakamomori\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHe mea nui kia haumaru te kōrero mō te mate whakamomori ki te marea. Mā te whakamahi i te reo haumaru, i te reo whakawhiti tōtika e manaaki ai te hauora o ngā kaikōrero, ngā kaiwhakarite me te whakaminenga. Kei raro iho nei ētahi aronga me mārama ka kōrero ana mō te whakamomori.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eKei raro iho nei ētahi aronga me mārama ka kōrero ana mō te whakamomori.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ctable width=\"100%\"\u003e\n\u003ctbody\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003eME\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003eME KAUA\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHE AHA AI\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhakamahi i te momo reo pēnei i “i riro nā te whakamomori”, “nāna anō\u003cbr\u003etana rironga” rānei.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eE whakamahi te kupu “whai”, i te “i whai” i te whakamomori rānei, “i whāia kia takahia te ara whakamomori”\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMā te whakamahi i te kupu “whai(-a)” e piki ai pea te patunga o te whakamā\u003cbr\u003eme te poapoa mō te mate whakamomori, mō te hunga kua whai whakaaro\u003cbr\u003ewhakamomori, mō te hunga kua pāngia ki te mate whakamomori hoki.\u003cbr\u003eHe hononga tō te kupu “takahi” ki te takahitanga ture. Ehara te mate\u003cbr\u003ewhakamomori i te takahitanga ture.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhakamahara tō whakaminenga ki ngā pīroiroitanga o te whakamomori, ā, kāore he take kotahi kau noa e whakamate ai tētahi i a ia anō.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eE whakatau iho te mate whakamomori ki tētahi, ētahi take e rua anake rānei, nā te whakatumatuma, nā te motu tūhononga, nā te mahi i tētahi ngaiotanga rānei.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMā te whakangāwari i ngā take o te mate whakamomori e tūraru ake ai ētahi atu tāngata (ki te tautuhi rātou me he hononga ki taua take), ā, ka āpiti tēnei ki ngā pōhēhē me pēhea e ārai i te mate whakamomori. Ka rongo hoki pea te hunga e pania ana ki te mate whakamomori i te whakamā me te whakatuaki. He take\u003cbr\u003epīroiroi te mate whakamomori, he whakawhenumi hoki i ētahi take nui pēnei i te kare ā-roto, ngā mahinga, ngā take o te wā me te māuiui.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKōrero mō ngā tini take e\u003cbr\u003ewhakatūrarutia ai te tangata e te whakamomori - me pēhea hoki tātou e kaututu i ēnā take.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eE kīia ake, katoa ngā tāngata i tētahi rōpū e tūraru ana ki te mate whakamomori, ngā kaipāmu, te hunga e noho pōuri ana, te hunga rangatahi rānei.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKo tā tātou ā-hapori nei, he mārama ki ngā take e tūraru ai te tangata ki te mate\u003cbr\u003ewhakamomori, ā, me pēhea hoki e kaututu i ēnei tūraru. Kāore tātou e hiahia kia\u003cbr\u003enoho māori nei te mate whakamomori, kia piki rānei i te tūraru o te mate\u003cbr\u003ewhakamomori mō te hunga e wheakotia ana te kōaronga. Ehara rawa te mate whakamomori i te heipūtanga, ā, arā ngā huarahi kia whai āwhina.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTuku i te manawa ora. Kōrerotia te ārai i te mate whakamomori -\u003cbr\u003ewhakamaharatia tō whakaminenga,\u003cbr\u003ehe tao whakamomori e taea te karo.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eE whakaatu te mate whakamomori anō nei koia noa iho te heipūtanga mō te tangata, mō tātou katoa o te motu rānei. Me kaua e aro ki te kōpakatanga me te\u003cbr\u003etōmuri o te aro mai a ngā ratonga\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKo te koretaketanga tētahi kōhengi ka rangona ngātahitia e te tini tāngata\u003cbr\u003ee whakaaro mate whakamomori ana me te hunga kua riro nā te mate\u003cbr\u003ewhakamomori. Mā te whakaara ake noa iho i te aronga mai ki te mate\u003cbr\u003ewhakamomori hei take nui e piki ake ai te kōhengi o te koretaketanga o te\u003cbr\u003etangata. Mahue kē te aro atu kia piki i te manawa ora. E taea ana kia āraia te\u003cbr\u003emate whakamomori, nō reira kōrerohia te āraitanga o te mate whakamomori,\u003cbr\u003ekaua noa iho mō te take o te mate whakamomori.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMōhio ki ngā tatauranga, me whakamahi noa iho rawa hoki i ngā raraunga a te Kāwanatanga. Kīia ake i te “pikinga o te pāpātanga”,\u003cbr\u003ete “māharaharatanga ki ngā\u003cbr\u003epāpātanga” rānei ka kōrero ana mō ngā tatauranga.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eE whakakorōria ngā tatauranga, e whakamahi rānei i ngā kupu pēnei i te “urutā” me te “putanga ohorere”. Me kaua e tuari, e matapaki, e whakapae rānei mō te pikinga o te mate whakamomori mō ētahi rōpū, ētahi rohenga, ētahi ngaiotanga rānei.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAhakoa ka mātua i te kotahi rironga mā te mate whakamomori, ka whakamahia\u003cbr\u003ete reo whakakorōria, ka whakapiki ake te kōhengi o te koretaketanga, ā, ka ware\u003cbr\u003engā whakaaro i ngā rautaki ārai i te mate whakamomori. Ka hē pea ngā hau kōrero mō ngā huinga, me ngā whakapikinga o te mate whakamomori mā te\u003cbr\u003etangata, me te aha, ka āki pea tēnā i te noho māori mai a te mate whakamomori hei whakautu ki ngā wā o te taumaha.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMe ngākau whakaiti, me aroha atu hoki tō whai whakaaro ki te mate\u003cbr\u003ewhakamomori.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eE whakaatu i te mate whakamomori hei mahi matapiko, e aro pū rānei ki te pānga o te mate whakamomori ki te hunga e noho pani ana.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAhakoa e mārama ana ki te riri me te whakamā hei uruparenga ki te mate\u003cbr\u003ewhakamomori, e hira ana kia mahara ake ki te arotahi atu ki ēnei kōhengi, ka piki\u003cbr\u003ete poapoa, me te rongo i te whakamā mō te mate whakamomori. I te nuinga o te wā, ka hunaia ngā kōhengi mate whakamomori e taua poapoa, ka mutu, e kore e\u003cbr\u003erapu āwhina. Mō ngā whānau kua pāngia e te rironga mate whakamomori, e kore\u003cbr\u003epea e kōrerohia mō ō rātou ake kōhengi, e kore hoki pea e rapu i te tautoko me\u003cbr\u003ewhai, ki te aro tahi atu ki te whakamā me te whakatuaki.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMahara ake te tangata, kaua ko tōna rironga.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKōrero mō ngā taipitopito\u003cbr\u003e(i te āhuatanga mahi hoki) mō tētahi rironga nā te mate whakamomori.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"33%\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKarekau rawa he take mō ngā taipitopito o te rironga o tētahi, waihoki, he\u003cbr\u003etaipitopito whakakōhukihuki rawa atu pea ēnā. Kāore ēnā kōrero e whakanui i te tangata kua riro, i ō rātou whānau rānei. Ka piki ake ai pea te tūraru mō ngā tāngata o te whakaminenga e whakaaro mate whakamomori ana, ki te kōrerotia te āhuatanga mahi i riro ai tētahi.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003c\/tbody\u003e\n\u003c\/table\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003e\u003cspan style=\"color: #2b00ff;\"\u003eTe whakatairanga haumaru i tō kaupapa\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKa pēhea tō whakaputa me tō whakatairanga i tō kaupapa?\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eKo tā ngā kaupapa ārai i te mate whakamomori, he waiho atu i te manawa ora me te ngākau māriu mō te tangata, he karo hoki i te whakatūraru i ngā tāngata paraheahea.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMehemea e whakatairanga ana koe i tētahi kaupapa, whakamaharatia te marea he kaupapa kōhukihuki pea tēnei, ā, tukuna he ara kia puta i te kaupapa i mua i tā rātou rongo i ngā kōrero.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eHe mea anō kia āta whakaarohia:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMehemea e whakatairangahia e koe tō kaupapa ki ngā paepāpori, kua whakamahi rānei koe i ngā kupu ārahi ‘Me pēhea e kōrero mō te mate whakamomori?’ (kei te \u003cstrong\u003ewhārangi 12\u003c\/strong\u003e) ki te tuku i ngā taipitopito mō te kaupapa?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMe whai whakaaro mehemea ka pōhiritia rānei e koe te hunga pāpāho. Ki te pērā, ka pēhea tō whakamōhio atu ki te whakaminenga, ā, he aha hoki ngā kōrero ārahi ka whakatauria e koe mō te taha ki te rīkoata me te whakaahua i ngā kōrero ka tuarihia? (Tirohia ngā kupu ārahi mō te mahi tahi ki te hunga pāpāho ki raro iho nei).\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKia mahara ake, he mea hirahira te punanga. Me whakatau rawae koe ngā ture mō te rīkoatatanga a te whakaminenga, mō te pōhitanga hoki ki ngā paepāpori, (te kaikōrero anake), ka rāhuitia rānei te rīkoata? Mehemea e rīkoatahia ana te whakaminenga, me rapu whakaaetanga hoki i a rātou.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eNgā whakaahua:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKia kaha tonu ki te whakamahi i ngā whakaahua whakapiki wairua i roto i ō mahi katoa (pēnei i ētahi tāngata e tautoko ana i rātou anō). Kaua e whakairia ngā whakaahua e whakaatu ana i ngā momo huarahi o te mate whakamomori, ngā whakaahua mohemohe, ngā whakaahua tūkino e pā ana ki te hunga whaiora rānei kei pāmamae te hunga ka tae atu ki tō kaupapa.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKaua e whakairia ngā whakaahua o ngā tāngata kua mate whakamomori atu hei mea whakatairanga, hei whakaahua rānei ki tō kaupapa, kei pāmamae te hunga e whai tonu ana i te ora.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMe mātau ki ngā tatauranga:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHe pai te whakamahi i ngā tatauranga me ngā raraunga mō te mate whakamomori kia whai kiko ai tō kōrero, engari me mōhio rawa koe ki te tika me te hāngai ki te wā nei o ngā kōrero ka tuarihia.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKei Te Pūrongo o te Ao Kakarauri o Aotearoa ngā raraunga mō ngā whakapae o te mate whakamomori i ia tau, me ngā kōrero wāwāhi ā-rohe, ā-iwi hoki. \u003ca title=\"Suicide web tool\" href=\"https:\/\/minhealthnz.shinyapps.io\/suicide-web-tool\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ehttps:\/\/minhealthnz.shinyapps.io\/suicide-web-tool\/\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eHe Rārangi Arowhai - Ka pēhea taku whakatairanga haumaru nei i tēnei kaupapa:\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKua pānuitia, e mārama ana hoki tēnei rauemi, ā, e tika ana te reo e whakamahia ana (tirohia te rārangi kōrero kei te \u003cstrong\u003ewhārangi 12\u003c\/strong\u003e i roto i tēnei pūrongo).\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHe meka tika, nā te Kāwanatanga hoki ngā kōrero e tukua atu ana e au ki taku kaupapa ake, ki te whakatairanga hoki i taku kaupapa.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKua whakamahia e au ngā kī whakatūpato i runga i ngā rauemi whakatairanga e whakaputaina ana mō te mate whakamomori hei kaupapa kōrero matua ki te kaupapa ake \u003cem\u003e“Ka kōrerohia te mate whakamomori ki tēnei kaupapa, ā, he mea whakakōhukihuki pea tēnei mō ētahi tāngata”.\u003c\/em\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKāore ahau i te whakamahi i ngā pikitia whakakōhukihuki, whakapoapoa rānei, he pikitia e whakamana ana i te mate whakamomori rānei. E kore ngā pikitia e whakaatu i te\/ngā āhuatanga mahi o te mate whakamomori, te koretaketanga,\u003cbr\u003ete whakapūmau rānei i ngā pōhēhētanga o te hauora hinengaro, ka ngaukinotia, ka whakapātaritarihia pea te whakaminenga.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKa karo au i ngā kōrero whānui (kāore he āwhina kei te hapori, e raru ana te punaha hauora, kua urutā te mate whakamomori, kāore i te kōrerotia te mate whakamomori e te tangata).\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKua whakamōhio atu ahau ki ngā rāngai ā-rohe mō taku whakarite i tēnei kaupapa - Pirihimana\/Kaunihera mō te tūpono ka katia ngā tiriti, e whakamahia ana rānei ngā wāhi tūmatanui, waihoki, te kaiārahi ārai i te mate whakamomori\/te tohunga hauora hinengaro\/ngā kaiwhakamahereora kia whai kōrero āwhina me te tautoko mai.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eKI HEA tū ai tō kaupapa\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhakaarohia te taiao haumaru ā-kiko, ā-aronganui hoki o tō whakaminenga ka whiriwhiri ana ki hea tū ai tō kaupapa.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eKaua e whakatū i tētahi kaupapa ki tētahi wāhi e whakapaetia ana i reira pea tētahi mate whakamomori, ka whakapātaritari pea tēnā i te kōhukihuki aronganui, e whakapiki ai te paraheaheatanga o te whakaminenga, ka haukoti rānei i te hunga ka tae atu.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKi hea tū ai tō kaupapa?\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eKi te ipurangi?\u003c\/strong\u003e Whakaarohia me pēhea koe e tiaki kia haumaru tō whakaminenga, kia tuku kōrero hoki ki hea rapu āwhina ai, ki te matea. Whakaritea mai he rūma matihiko motuhake me tētahi kaitautoko. Ki te tautoko i ngā kōrero haumaru ā-ipurangi, haere ki \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/mentalhealth.org.nz\" title=\"Mental Health Foundation\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ementalhealth.org.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eKi tētahi marae\u003c\/strong\u003e, kia whakamahi i te tikanga me te kawa hei punaha haumaru? Me whai whakaaetanga i te mana whenua me ngā kaumātua o te rohe.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eKi tētahi wāhi puare\u003c\/strong\u003e, kāore ō here i ngā tāngata ka tae mai? Me pēhea koe e whakaū i te haumaru o tō whakaminenga?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eKi tētahi wāhi tūmatanui?\u003c\/strong\u003e Ki te pērā, me whai whakaaetanga rānei i tō kaunihera, ki te tāpui rānei i te wāhi?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eKi tētahi kura?\u003c\/strong\u003e Kua whai whakaaetanga mai i te kāhui whakahaere o te kura? Kua whakapā atu koe ki te hapori o te kura mō te kaupapa?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWaihoki:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cspan style=\"color: #000000;\" data-mce-style=\"color: #000000;\"\u003e\u003cspan style=\"background-color: #ffee00;\" data-mce-style=\"background-color: #ffee00;\"\u003eE aro ana koe ki ngā aratohu Kowheori-19 Aotearoa kia haumaru tō kaupapa? Hono atu ki te wharangi ipurangi \u003c\/span\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/covid19.govt.nz\/languages-and-resources\/translations\/te-reo-maori\/\" title=\"Government Covid-19 site\" style=\"color: #000000; background-color: #e6e6e6;\" target=\"_blank\" data-mce-style=\"color: #000000; background-color: #e6e6e6;\"\u003ewww.covid19.govt.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cspan style=\"background-color: #ffee00;\" data-mce-style=\"background-color: #ffee00;\"\u003e mō ngā taipitopito\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHe māmā noa iho te tareka atu ki te wāhi? Tirohia te rauemi ‘Be Accessible’: \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.belab.co.nz\/items\/top-tips-events\" title=\"Be.Lab\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ewww.belab.co.nz\/items\/top-tips-events\u003c\/a\u003e mō ētahi kōrero āwhina ki te whakarite i tētahi kaupapa tareka\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKua whakaritea he kāinga rua mehemea e tū ana te kaupapa ki waho, ka kino te huarere\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHe mahere anō tōu mēnā:\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eki te kore tō wāhi e wātea ana, kua rāhuitia rānei?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ee mōhio ana rānei koe mehemea he rāhui inamata kei\u003cbr\u003etaua rohe?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMehemea kei waho, e mōhio pū ana koe ka rangona ngā tukuoro e te whakaminenga (me whai taputapu tukuoro rānei e koe?)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHe utu kore te kaupapa? Me tuku koha rānei? Ka kohi pūtea rānei koe mō tētahi rōpū e mahi ana i roto i te ao ārai i te mate whakamomori?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHe kaupapa whānau tēnei?\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eTe whakamahere i tō kaupapa\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMe whai rārangi take te nuinga o ngā kaupapa e whai māramatanga ai ngā kaikōrero me te whakaminenga, ka whai wāhi atu pea ēnei:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eHe karakia whakatuwhera\u003c\/strong\u003e – tonoa tētahi o ngā kaumātua mana whenua, tētahi pā whakawairua rānei ki te whakatuwhera i ngā kōrero, ki te mihi hoki ki te hunga kua riro.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eKōrero whakatuwhera\u003c\/strong\u003e – mā te kaiwhakarite e whakatau i ngā ture me te pūtake o te kaupapa kia mārama, kia tau hoki te mauri. He wā pai tēnei ki te kōrero mō te manawa ora.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eKōrero\u003c\/strong\u003e – te kaikōrero he pūkenga, he mōhiotanga hoki ōna ki te kōrero mō te kaupapa, e mōhio ana hoki ki te reo tino whaitake mō te ārai i te mate whakamomori.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eTe tuku pātai\u003c\/strong\u003e – me tētahi pae mātanga, he tangata kotahi anake rānei? He papamahi kaweoro tuwhera tēnei mā te whakaminenga katoa, he rōpū whāiti rānei (mehemea āe, ko wai e whakahaere ana i tēnei, ā, me pēhea?) Me whai kaweoro koe?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eKōrero whakakapi\u003c\/strong\u003e – tōaitia te pūtake me ngā hua o te hui, kōrerohia te haumarutanga o te whakaminenga, me ētahi kōrero ka whai ake (mehemea he take mō ēnei).\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eParamanawa\u003c\/strong\u003e – tērā pea ka tonoa te whakaminenga kia noho mai ki te kai timotimo me te kōrero tahi, ki te tautoko i ētahi atu ā muri. Ka āwhinatia tēnei kia whakatū tūhononga ā-hapori.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eHe tautoko whai muri i te kaupapa\u003c\/strong\u003e – ka wehe atu te whakaminenga me ēhea rauemi (he rauemi mō ngā huarahi whakapā atu ki ngā ratonga tautoko ā-rohe, he kōrero rānei mō nama waea tautoko, he rauemi anō)?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eKa oti ana te kaupapa:\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTērā pea ka pīrangi koe ki te arotake i te rere o ngā mahi. Hei tauira, e ai ki tāu i kite atu, te pātai ki ngā manuhiri mō ā rātou kōrero whakahoki hei taua rangi, te tuku rānei i tētahi patapatai ā muri iho.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eE pēhea ana koutou ko te hunga whakarite\/kaikōrero? Arowhāia koutou i a koutou, ā, me whai wā ki te tiaki i a koutou anō.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMā te whakamahi i Ngā Pou e Whā hei ārahi i a koe me te whai wāhi mai o ngā kōrero haumaru kua hoatu, e whai ana koe kia tautokona, kia haumaru mārika ngā tāngata katoa ka whai wāhi mai, ka mutu, e āwhina ana kia para i tētahi huarahi koke whakamua mō tō hapori e whakapūmau ana i te manawa ora.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eKo te āta poipoi i te manawa ora o te tangata te mea nui i roto i ngā mahi ārai i te mate whakamomori.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eĒtahi atu kōrero\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhakapā atu ki tō Poari Hauora ā-Rohe mō ngā taipitopito a te Kaiārahi Ārai i te Mate Whakamomori.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNgā rōpū tautoko ā-rohe, ā-motu hoki: \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/mentalhealth.org.nz\/groups\" title=\"Mental Health Foundation groups\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ementalhealth.org.nz\/groups\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMō ētahi atu rauemi, kōrero hoki, toro atu ki \u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\" title=\"Mental Health Foundation\" data-mce-href=\"http:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ewww.mentalhealth.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNgā kōrero ārahi ā-pāpāho a Te Tūāpapa o te Hauora Hinengaro: \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/media\/media-guidelines\" title=\"Ngā kōrero ārahi ā-pāpāho a Te Tūāpapa o te Hauora Hinengaro\" data-mce-href=\"http:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/media\/media-guidelines\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.mentalhealth.org.nz\/media\/media-guidelines\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e me ētahi kōrero āwhina mō te whakaputa kōrero ā muri i tētahi mate whakamomori: \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/resources\/resource\/comment-or-no-comment\" title=\"Comment or No Comment resource\" data-mce-href=\"http:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/resources\/resource\/comment-or-no-comment\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ewww.mentalhealth.org.nz\/resources\/resource\/comment-or-no-comment\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eNgā Nama Waea Āwhina\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMe kōrero rawa? Waea, pātuhi utu kore atu ki \u003cstrong\u003e1737\u003c\/strong\u003e ahakoa te wā kia whai āwhina i tētahi kaiwhakamahereora kua whakangungua.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLifeline \u003cstrong\u003e0800 543 354\u003c\/strong\u003e (0800 LIFELINE).\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYouthline \u003cstrong\u003e0800 376 633\u003c\/strong\u003e, pātuhi utu kore \u003cstrong\u003e234\u003c\/strong\u003e, imēra\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003etalk@youthline.co.nz\u003c\/strong\u003e, mā te muka kōrero pae tukutuku rānei.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSamaritans \u003cstrong\u003e0800 726 666.\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAsian Family Services helpline \u003cstrong\u003e0800 862 342\u003c\/strong\u003e \u003cbr\u003e(Rāhina - Rāmere 9am - 8pm).\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eVaka Tautua - waea utu kore\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e0800 Ola lelei\/0800 652 535\u003c\/strong\u003e (Rāhina - Rāmere 8.30am - 5pm).\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan style=\"color: #2b00ff;\" data-mce-style=\"color: #2b00ff;\"\u003eHe kōrero anō mō te whakarite me te kōrero i tētahi kaupapa ārai i te\u003cbr data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003emate whakamomori:\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMō ētahi rauemi whakarite kōrero, me ētahi atu puka ārahi, toro atu ki:\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ctable width=\"100%\"\u003e\n\u003ctbody\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 22.9348%;\" data-mce-style=\"width: 22.9348%;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.beyou.edu.au\/\" data-mce-fragment=\"1\" data-mce-href=\"http:\/\/www.beyou.edu.au\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ewww.beyou.edu.au\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 23%;\" data-mce-style=\"width: 23%;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.beyou.edu.au\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.mindframe.org.au\/\" data-mce-fragment=\"1\" data-mce-href=\"http:\/\/www.mindframe.org.au\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ewww.mindframe.org.au\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 22.9348%;\" data-mce-style=\"width: 22.9348%;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"Suicide Prevention Resource Center\" href=\"http:\/\/www.sprc.org\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ewww.sprc.org\u003c\/a\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.mindframe.org.au\" target=\"_blank\"\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"width: 23%;\" data-mce-style=\"width: 23%;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.leva.co.nz\/\" data-mce-fragment=\"1\" target=\"_blank\" data-mce-href=\"http:\/\/www.leva.co.nz\/\"\u003ewww.leva.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003c\/tbody\u003e\n\u003c\/table\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cspan style=\"color: #2b00ff;\"\u003eHe rauemi hei tautoko i ngā kaupapa ārai i te mate whakamomori mā\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cbr data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003e\u003cspan style=\"color: #2b00ff;\"\u003erunga ipurangi\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp style=\"padding-left: 30px;\" data-mce-style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.orygen.org.au\/chatsafe\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ewww.orygen.org.au\/chatsafe\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e\u003ca title=\"Mental Health Foundation resources\" href=\"http:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/resources\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ewww.mentalhealth.org.nz\/resources\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/strong\u003e  \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp style=\"padding-left: 30px;\" data-mce-style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp style=\"padding-left: 30px;\" data-mce-style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp style=\"padding-left: 30px;\" data-mce-style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan style=\"color: #000000;\" data-mce-style=\"color: #000000;\"\u003eISBN 978-1-98-855420-4 PRINT\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cbr data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003e\u003cspan style=\"color: #000000;\" data-mce-style=\"color: #000000;\"\u003eISBN 978-1-98-855421-1 DIGITAL\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cbr data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003e\u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ewww.mentalhealth.org.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003e\u003cspan style=\"color: #000000;\" data-mce-style=\"color: #000000;\"\u003eHE2614\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cbr data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003e\u003cspan style=\"color: #000000;\" data-mce-style=\"color: #000000;\"\u003ePublished: Pipiri\/June 2022\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp style=\"padding-left: 30px;\" data-mce-style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":43266080407780,"sku":"HE2614","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/products\/HE2614Tewhakariteitetahi_whakamomori.jpg?v=1660601056"},{"product_id":"ko-wai-ahau-who-am-i-he2644","title":"Ko wai ahau? (Who am I?) HE2644","description":"\u003ch4\u003e\n\u003cspan\u003eNOTE: To order this free resource, please visit the Mental Health Foundation's \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth.org.nz\/resources\/resource\/ko-wai-ahau-who-am-i\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Mental Health Foundation resources\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"\u003eonline shop\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan\u003e.\u003c\/span\u003e\n\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eWhakataukī\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eE kore au e ngaro\u003cbr\u003ehe kākano i ruia mai\u003cbr\u003ei Rangiātea\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI shall never be lost,\u003cbr\u003efor I am a seed sown\u003cbr\u003efrom Rangiātea.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eKo wai ahau? (Who am I?)\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eKia ora. This pathway will guide you when you’re feeling overwhelmed, help you get through tough times, give you hope and keep you safe.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTry to work through this pathway when you’re feeling calm. Be really honest with yourself – write notes, draw pictures or scribble thoughts… whatever comes naturally. When you see \u003cspan data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003e📷\u003c\/span\u003e take photos of the page so you can easily check it during challenging times. This pathway doesn’t need to be completed all at once – take some time and come back and add to it.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAsk a mate you trust or a supportive family\/whānau member to work through this with you. You could also ask another support person, like a school counsellor or health\u003cbr\u003eworker, to give you a hand. They can encourage you or help give you ideas if you’re struggling with what to put on your pathway.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWe’ve included some examples to kick off the kōrero, but there are no right or wrong answers - do what feels right for you!\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eWhat's happening with \u003cspan style=\"text-decoration: underline;\" data-mce-style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"\u003eme\u003c\/span\u003e?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003elost hope\/feel angry\u003cbr\u003esleepy\/can't sleep\u003cbr\u003equestioning my sexuality\u003cbr\u003efeel sad\/frustrated\/scared\/nothing\u003cbr\u003earguing\/too much alcohol or drugs\u003cbr\u003efeel overwhelmed\/like a burden\u003cbr\u003efeelings of shame\/self-harming\u003cbr\u003ewant to be alone\/avoiding whānau or friends\u003cbr\u003estruggling with school\/work\u003cbr\u003ethinking about death\/dying\u003cbr\u003einsecure about my looks\u003cbr\u003ecan’t breathe\/having panic attacks\u003cbr\u003ethoughts of suicide\/killing myself\u003cbr\u003efeeling isolated\u003cbr\u003equestioning my identity\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003e📷\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003eWhat happens when things get really bad? Do you have intense feelings or thoughts? Does your behaviour or the way you react to things change? These are warning signs - telling you to act or seek extra support.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eMake a list of your warning signs.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003e\u003cspan\u003eStay safe checklist\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003etake a break from toxic social media\u003cbr\u003elimit screen time\u003cbr\u003eremove items that make me feel unsafe - give to a mate, throw away or lock up\u003cbr\u003estay away from places that make me sad\u003cbr\u003egive my car keys to someone I trust\u003cbr\u003eavoid people who hurt or upset me\u003cbr\u003ecall a helpline\/contact a counsellor\u003cbr\u003ebe with or talk to someone who cares about me\u003cbr\u003edo things that make me feel good\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou can \u003ca href=\"Tel:1737\" title=\"call 1737\" data-mce-href=\"Tel:1737\"\u003ecall\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca href=\"SMS:1737\" title=\"text 1737\" data-mce-href=\"SMS:1737\"\u003etext 1737\u003c\/a\u003e anytime to talk to a trained counsellor or contact \u003cstrong\u003eYouthline\u003c\/strong\u003e (\u003ca href=\"Tel:0800376633\" title=\"free call 0800 376 633\" data-mce-href=\"Tel:0800376633\"\u003efree call 0800 376 633\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca href=\"SMS:234\" title=\"free text 234\" data-mce-href=\"SMS:234\"\u003efree text 234\u003c\/a\u003e).\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003e📷 \u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003eWhen things aren’t going well, you need support to keep yourself safe. Reach out to someone you trust or connect with a counsellor or health worker.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eWhat’s on your stay safe checklist?\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003e\u003cspan\u003eWhat makes \u003cspan style=\"text-decoration: underline;\" data-mce-style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"\u003eme\u003c\/span\u003e feel good?\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003ebeing with friends who make me feel good\u003cbr\u003egaming, skateboarding, playing sport...\u003cbr\u003ebeing on the marae\/being outside\u003cbr\u003ewatching a beautiful sunset\u003cbr\u003emoving! – running, walking, dancing...\u003cbr\u003ecuddling my pet\/walking on a beach\u003cbr\u003etaking deep breaths\/stretching\u003cbr\u003ewriting, reading, drawing, taking photos, baking…\u003cbr\u003esaying a prayer\/going to church\u003cbr\u003elistening to positive, happy music\u003cbr\u003eeating something delicious\/shopping for a treat\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt’s hard to find energy or enthusiasm during tough times, but doing small things that bring you hope can help when you’re experiencing challenging thoughts.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eWhat helps you get to a better space?\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eStay connected\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003espend time with\/call\/message a mate\u003cbr\u003ewalk on the whenua with mates or whānau\u003cbr\u003evisit my nanny\/koro\/other whānau\u003cbr\u003ego to the gym\/marae\/library\/community centre...\u003cbr\u003ego to a busy mall\/playground\/café\u003cbr\u003eplay cards or board games with flatmates or whānau\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eConnecting with friends or whānau or just being around others at busy places can help you feel better. Think about where you could go or who you could connect with.\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eWhat support do you need from people at this time?\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eWhat’s important to \u003cspan style=\"text-decoration: underline;\" data-mce-style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"\u003eme\u003c\/span\u003e?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003emy mates ❤️ my pets\u003cbr\u003esomeone I love who understands me\u003cbr\u003emy art\/music\/writing\/sport...\u003cbr\u003emy whānau\u003cbr\u003emy faith\u003cbr\u003ean upcoming holiday\/sports event\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003e📷 \u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003eDuring tough times try to focus on what’s important to you or something you’re looking forward to.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eWhat gives you hope or brings you joy?\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003e📷 \u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003eThis probably hasn’t been easy, but you’ve done some great mahi! Look back over your pathways and record three things you’ll do to help you feel better when times are tough.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003e📷 \u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003e\u003cspan\u003eMy support team\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003eMake a list of people you’re comfortable sharing how you’re feeling with. It may be a counsellor, doctor, whānau member or trusted mate(s).\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003e\u003cspan\u003eFinding help\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan\u003eThe services below offer free support 24\/7 and can connect you with others who can help you.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ctable\u003e\n\u003ctbody\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"89\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e1737\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd colspan=\"2\" width=\"343\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFree \u003ca href=\"Tel:1737\" title=\"call 1737\" data-mce-fragment=\"1\" data-mce-href=\"Tel:1737\"\u003ecall\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan data-mce-fragment=\"1\"\u003e or \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"SMS:1737\" title=\"text 1737\" data-mce-fragment=\"1\" data-mce-href=\"SMS:1737\"\u003etext 1737\u003c\/a\u003e to chat with trained counsellors\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"40\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"89\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eYouthline\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"224\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca title=\"free call 0800 376 633\" href=\"Tel:0800376633\" data-mce-href=\"Tel:0800376633\"\u003e0800 376 633\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd colspan=\"2\" width=\"158\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca title=\"free text 234\" href=\"SMS:234\" data-mce-href=\"SMS:234\"\u003eFree text 234\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"89\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"224\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca title=\"email talk@youthline.co.nz\" href=\"mailto:talk@youthline.co.nz\" data-mce-href=\"mailto:talk@youthline.co.nz\"\u003etalk@youthline.co.nz\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd colspan=\"2\" width=\"158\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"89\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eLifeline\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd width=\"224\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca title=\"0800 543 354\" href=\"Tel:0800543354\" data-mce-href=\"Tel:0800543354\"\u003e0800 543 354\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003ctd colspan=\"2\" width=\"158\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca title=\"Free text 4357\" href=\"SMS:4357\" data-mce-href=\"SMS:4357\"\u003eFree text 4357\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003c\/tbody\u003e\n\u003c\/table\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou may like to read the booklet \u003ca href=\"\/products\/having-suicidal-thoughts-and-finding-a-way-back\" title=\"Having suicidal thoughts and finding a way back\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eHaving suicidal thoughts and finding a way back\u003c\/a\u003e, and there’s other helpful information at \u003ca href=\"http:\/\/www.mentalhealth.org.nz\/help\/support-for-myself\" title=\"Mental Health Foundation\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ementalhealth.org.nz\/help\/support-for-myself\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eRemember, if you or someone you know needs immediate \u003ca title=\"emergency call 111\" href=\"Tel:111\"\u003ehelp - call 111\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eISBN 978-1-98-855414-3 (Print)\u003cbr\u003eISBN 978-1-98-855413-6 (PDF)\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":43874227814628,"sku":"HE2644","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/products\/KoWaiAhaucover.jpg?v=1680472968"},{"product_id":"your-mental-health-toolkit-a4-poster-he1368","title":"Your Mental Health Toolkit - A4 poster - HE1368","description":"\u003cp\u003eAre you feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or just not yourself? Are your thoughts, feelings or behaviours affecting your daily life?\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eFind free, confidential mental health support in a way that works best for you.\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eSomething to download\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePractical, science-based guidance, whenever you need it. Private. Secure. Easy to use. Download today at: \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.groovnow.com\/groov-app\"\u003eAccess the Free Groov App\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eSomeone to talk to\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eConnect with a trained counsellor at a time that suits you. \u003ca href=\"Tel:1737\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Call 1737\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003eFree call\u003c\/a\u003e or \u003ca href=\"SMS:1737\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"text 1737\" rel=\"noopener\"\u003etext 1737\u003c\/a\u003e (available 24\/7). \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eSomeone to see\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTo meet someone face-to-face and have more time to talk, free, confidential mental health support is available nationwide.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFor more information or to find your nearest mental health provider, scan the QR Code or visit: \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.wellbeingsupport.health.nz\/\"\u003eHome | Find wellbeing support | Te Whatu Ora – Health NZ\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eYour Mental Health Toolkit\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFree, confidential support - when you need it\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"HealthEd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":49110056206564,"sku":"HE1368","price":0.0,"currency_code":"NZD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0102\/6916\/3582\/files\/HE1368.png?v=1780982261"},{"product_id":"your-mental-health-toolkit-a3-poster-he1369","title":"Your Mental Health Toolkit - A3 poster - HE1369","description":"\u003cp\u003eAre you feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or just not yourself? 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Your role is to make sure they know about the free tools and services available, and how to access them. \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eSomeone to talk to\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf an employee would like to connect with a trained counsellor, they can \u003ca href=\"tel:1737\" title=\"Call 1737\" rel=\"noopener\" aria-describedby=\"a11y-new-window-external-message\" target=\"_blank\"\u003efree call\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003eor\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e\u003ca href=\"sms:1737\" title=\"text 1737\" rel=\"noopener\" aria-describedby=\"a11y-new-window-external-message\" target=\"_blank\"\u003etext 1737\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cspan\u003e \u003c\/span\u003e(24\/7).\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe team:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eoffer brief emotional support\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eprovide self-care tips\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003econnect people with other services\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eoffer wellbeing tools.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eSomeone to see\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf an employee would prefer meeting someone face-to-face with more time to talk, they can access free, confidential mental health support nationwide.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTo meet someone face-to-face and have more time to talk, free, confidential mental health support is available nationwide.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFor more information or to find your nearest mental health provider, visit: \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.wellbeingsupport.health.nz\/\" aria-describedby=\"a11y-external-message\"\u003eHome | Find wellbeing support | Te Whatu Ora – Health NZ\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eSomething to download\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eA free, confidential mental health tool or resource can help your employee understand how they’re feeling and develop skills to look after their wellbeing. You could suggest:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"\u003eDownload the Groov App\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"\u003ePractical, science-based guidance. Instant answers to everyday questions, from managing pressure, to handling tough conversations or resetting after a big day. Private. Secure. Easy to use. Download at: \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.groovnow.com\/groov-app\" aria-describedby=\"a11y-external-message\"\u003eAccess the Free Groov App\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"\u003eTop Up\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"\u003ePaying attention to what keeps our mental health meter topped up, helps us adapt to challenges and fully enjoy the good times too. Learn ways to top up your wellbeing at: \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.topupwellbeing.nz\/\" title=\"Top Up\" rel=\"noopener\" aria-describedby=\"a11y-new-window-external-message\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eFind ways to TOP UP | Mental Health Foundation | Health NZ - Te Whatu Ora\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"\u003eThe Mental Health Foundation\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"\u003eFor information on everyday actions that lift mental wellbeing and tools and resources that support people through tough times, visit: \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth.org.nz\/\" title=\"Mental Health Foundation\" rel=\"noopener\" aria-describedby=\"a11y-new-window-external-message\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eMental Health Support | Mental Health Foundation\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eLooking after yourself\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt’s important to look after your own mental health, so you can continue to show up well for your team. Practise self-care and aim to:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eset your own boundaries and recognise your limits\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eencourage other trusted people to offer support in the workplace\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ebuild and develop a network of people you can turn to for support.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eVisit \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth.org.nz\/schools-workplaces-professionals\/workplaces\/\"\u003eWorkplaces | Mental Health Foundation\u003c\/a\u003e for more guidance and tools to help you and your employees’ mental wellbeing.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eIf urgent help is needed\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf an employee shares information or acts in a way that could put themselves or another person at risk of harm, or you are worried about their safety, stay with them and:\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCall \u003cstrong\u003e111\u003c\/strong\u003e, if you or someone else is in immediate danger.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eOR\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGo to the emergency department at your nearest hospital.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCall your local mental health crisis assessment team. 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